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Re: Embarrassing Sex Question - Sex Without Condom
Agreed. DH laughed at me once because I was complaining about the drip, so I tackled him and sat on him. That taught him...real good. ;-) He now brings me a towel and pushes me out of bed after 10 minutes to go pee.
He means well, he just doesn't get why sticky/slimy things bother me. I'm sure if I sat on his chest and let it drip all over him he wouldn't be bothered in the least! He'd probably find it hot, and I'd find it gross. :P
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1
This might sound dumb but I honestly thought it was just absorbed! I think it was while watching Sex in the City and one of them said what goes up must come down and I was like what, WHAT!!!!
Heh heh, if you want him to share in your experience, just have him come with you on top and then pull out pretty quickly... and stay on top for a couple of minutes. Let it drip on him then he'll know what the mess is about.
I actually think it's very sensual and intimate to share in being messy and letting it get on each other. If you really want to get close, don't go and clean up, let him recover for how ever long it take, them have sex again. Talk about messy! Lol!
me too! hes happy with just a towel, but i like the moist wipes.
(tmi, but they work great to clean off toys too!)
My husband and I got married about 8 months ago. We were both new to this situation also. Now its just habit for both of us to jump up and go clean up in the bathroom. A lot of times, since we dont like to lay and cuddle with a mess around us, we'll shower together and give each other soapy back massages. That way you dont have the mess to deal with and you get cuddle/ massage time in the shower!
Well, if he cums on your stomach, you have to spend five minutes cleaning out your belly button. That's not romantic either, but he thinks its cute. And then it's running down anyway unless you cup your hand around it. In any case, it's messy no matter what you do unless you have everything planned out...
Question for those of you talking about him coming somewhere else--do you not get off before he pulls out? Because all the muscle contractions send my husband over the edge. I was just wondering how you managed to avoid that...
As far as a clean-up procedure, I recommend the following:
(1) Use TP, not tissues--tissues are weaker and more likely to stick to things.
(2a) If you're on top, put some TP under you right before you get up. Husband holding one hand to help you balance getting up while you use the other hand to catch semen is useful.
(2b) If you're doggie, stick something under you just before your husband pulls out--very similar to the above but without the balance issue!
(2c) If he's on top, if you stay still, it may not drip out immediately. Then, before you get up (and gravity is still holding most of it in), wipe yourself once or twice. It won't get everything, but it helps.
(3) After this, I recommend going to the bathroom to pee, wipe again, and also wipe anything that has dripped towards your butt crack thanks to the aforementioned gravity. It's gross, but it happens...
(4) Either one of you can clean him off.
(5) Then cuddle and enjoy the glowy feelings.
It really doesn't interrupt things way, way too much. The trip to the bathroom can be postponed if you've gotten the bulk of it, and taking turns doing the majority of the clean-up can allow you to alternate who gets to relax more immediately afterwards, so that things stay fair.