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Sexting? How do you forgive and move on?
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Re: Sexting? How do you forgive and move on?
Motherfuuckin sink frog says READ SHIIT BEFORE YOU POST.
Honestly why waste your time? If he doesn't want to fix your marriage then forget him! Honestly, you two shouldn't be having these problems so early on!
I'm all for trying to work things out in a marriage to try and keep it together. It all depends on how easily you can forgive and forget, so this is all up to you. HOWEVER, I have two questions:
1.) Can you ever forget this? Anytime he is running late or wants to go out with his friends, will you automatically think he's cheating, and then get into a huge fight when he comes home? Once a relationship has been ruined by somethng like this, there is no going back. You will always and forever think he's doing something sinister. This isn't your fault; it's his, because he broke your trust.
2.) If you think you can never forget this... waste no time and start your life over with someone you can trust completely. Those men are out there; I know; I'm very fortunate to be married to one. I trust him 100%. Things weren't always like that in previous relationships I'd had. I've been cheated on before, and then finally decided that I'd rather be alone than deal with heartbreak and drama everyday for the rest of my life. That's when I found Mr. Right, and you can too, you've just got to give him a chance to find you.
As women we tend to hang situations over our men's heads... if you stay with him you'll "dig up these bones" over and over again, so if he thinks counseling isn't necessary, then it's not necessary for you to keep the relationship together.
Goodness Gracious!!!
I know how you feel. I'm going through a similar situation.... It's really hard to forgive and forget something like that, especially if he is still working with that person. You'll never really know if he is doing it again. You'll always have that doubt, and trust me its not easy trusting again. Honestly, I don't think you can trust that person again. I would so make him get another job!!! With the same work hours!
Also, he has shown you be refusing to go to counciling that he's not committed to making it work between the two of you. But if you'd really like to get over the doubts, have him go through a lie detector test. I know it sounds a little extreme, but thats the only way you'll know for sure if he cheated. It actually doesn't cost that much.
I hope everything turns out for the best!!! And let us know how everything turns up. Good luck!
This has tears streaming down my face at work. Hi-f*cking-larious.
Judging
I've been in the same situation... Here's my advice.
It takes a LONG time to forgive a year or more to truly forgive and give him trust again.... but it can happen if you are willing to forgive. However, make this a statement to him...
If you EVER talk to a girl behind my back, see a girl behind my back, or talk to a girl innappropriately, I WILL leave you, this is your absolute last chance.
If he does screw up again, this is very important, DON'T confront him, the best thing you can do is just call a few friends over and have them help you either...
1) pack up all of your stuff and leave with the kids, or 2) pack up all of his crap and put it in the front yard, change all the locks on the doors and garage doors, so that when he gets home he can take his crap and leave make sure you have someone there with you when you do this just for safely reasons.
The following day or the same day, immediately call a lawyer and file for divorce. Just make sure you do this immediately and keep proof of any evidence you have of his cheating, and other problems, etc...
However, that is the worst case scenerio, the bright side is that you can work it out, even without counseling. Try to get off his case about the counseling, unless that is a condition you just can't let go.
But if he really wants to work on the relationship he will agree to it. Tell him, if he doesn't go to counseling, then you want a divorce, if he really loves you, then he'll go, if he doesn't, then at least you'll be able to move on with your life.
Regardless, I wish you the best.
How did you get a pic of my co-icker?
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here
Cool I hope you have a Mr. Pickles for me.
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here
Bahaha
What am I, the Mr. Pickle fairy?
*knock knock knock* Attention nimron newbs you do realize this post is from July and the OP has NEVER come back to this post so it's probably MUD. Just saying you might want to pay better attention.
Before I leave this clusterfuuck of fun I just want to say
ANY OF YOU IDJITS THAT THINK THIS BEHAVIOR IS ALRIGHT YOU ARE FUUCKING WHACK JOB NUT CASE DOORMATS. YOU HEIFERS NEED TO GROW SOME FUCCKING BALLS AND SELF-ESTEEM, DTMFA SO YOU CAN MOVE ON TO BETTER PASTURES
That is all you may return to your regularly scheduled broadcast.
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here
Yes you are and the picture I have in my head of what you would look like dressed up as the Mr Pickle fairy has me LMAO.
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here
Nope, no waiting period.
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here