May 2010 Weddings
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Re: I love my HH!!!
Have you considered combing accounts and perhaps having one person (maybe you since it seems like you're on top of all this) be in charge of the bill paying?
DH and I combined our income about a year before the wedding (when we bought our house and had a ton of shared expenses). We have one shared checking account and one shared savings account at the same bank. We also have a shared online savings account that gets a higher interest level that we keep our long-term savings in. Both of us have the password to the online accounts, obviously, so either of us can check the balances / see what has cleared and what is pending at any time.
In addition, DH set up a spreadsheet for us using Google docs (again, so either us can access it from any computer anywhere since we both have the log in info) and we record our expenses in there. It automatically tallies up the income and outgo since he put in formulas. (He's a financial consultant so he's smart like that). ;-) But with both of us havign access to everything and seeing everything, it's nice. We have set up our mortgage and electric bill and his student loans (I don't have any) on autopay so we never even have to think about those.
Good luck. It can certainly be challenging trying to figure out a system that works for you. This has worked great for us, though. I cannot imagine the nightmare it would be tryign to keep everything separate.
We don't either. Want to know the main thing we do fight about? Rinsing off dishes before putting them in the dishwasher! Haha! Ben practically washes the dishes before he loads the washer. I on the other hand will rinse them off if there is food on them, but if not I just put them in. That's what a dishwasher is for right? I think he's so adament about it because MIL's dishwasher is really old and won't clean anything unless its rinsed off really good.
LOL We used to "discuss" his tendency to leave dirty dishes on the counter directly above the dishwasher instead of opening the dishwasher and putting them inside. He's gotten a lot better about that.
Actually, we mostly fight about sex.
we fight about this too kelly. he apologized about the C word but i had to ask for it. we are speaking sorta but i'm being very quiet.
We are going to keep our separate checkings but have them linked so either one of us can see the others. I will handle all my bills and the house bills for now, and he will manage his credit cards and car/car insurance. Once I get started going at my new job we will take a look again.
i would just like to add that Jay just said that he was hoping we would just let this blow other and not apologize like some other fights we have.
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I have to agree that is not cool at all! He needed to appligize for saying that word to you! About you. Name calling it the worst low down dirty fighting you can do. I am glad you are talking agian. I think he needs to hand over his check book and let you have control.
We don't fight over money. I let him take care of all the bills and when I want money I tell him what I want he gives it and we are good. I am the one that wouldn't pay till the last minute and was happy to give him that responsibility!!!
Umm... if someone called me the "c"-word, you can bet that he would have to apologize if he wanted things to go back to normal!
Men can be so dumb. I got one who talks about feelings, relationships, and consequences of actions for a living, so I lucked out, but most of them seem to feel that talking about something will make it worse instead of better.
you got that right.