So its been over a month......babies?

Blueyed228 · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share?

Anyone trying?

If no to the above:

Do you want kids?

How many?

When do you plan on having them?

Are you sick of family/friends asking?

Blueyed228 · December 2010

For us, we want lots of kids and have been trying since the HM. But it will be a month on the 20th and things like this rarely happen that fast! Fingers crossed though. I dont get regular periods so its hard to track when the right time to try is.

SarahPLiz · December 2010

We are in the same boat.

catarntina · December 2010

Blue, you should read TCOYF if you haven't. It's great for irregular periods as it teaches you how to recognize the other signs of fertility and can really help concentrate your tries so they are most effective. I have irregular periods too and I was amazed at how much I learned when I started charting.

DH and I want 2-3 kids, we'll probably start trying next year. I told my family, "don't ask me for at least 5 years" and they hushed up about it. All though, they do keep asking my mom and my mom says, "5 years! Ugh!" haha.

Steph0871 · December 2010

No babies here yet. We're only 24-25 so I think we've got some time... and our monster dog is still training us

Honestly though, if we could afford it, I'd love to have kids rightnow. I'm the oldest grandchild on both sides, as is H... so we're getting a lot of questions about it. My sister (who's 17) keeps joking that if we don't have kids soon, she's going to have to pop one out to keep our mom quiet. ha

We'd like to buy a house first, and pay off some of our debt (mostly student loans, but still) so we're in a more comfortable place financially. Hopefully we'll start trying in 2-3 years though!

scpalmtree06 · December 2010

Also waiting 2-3 years so DH can finish his PhD, find a job, we can buy a house, etc. We're both 26 and don't feel rushed.

bellaxanthe · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? Nope

Anyone trying? Sort of - I went off BC but he's not quite ready. Also on a lot of supplements and may start fertility drugs in the next 6 months or so.

If no to the above:

Do you want kids? Yes

How many?one only

When do you plan on having them? Next year hopefully

Are you sick of family/friends asking? Not really - they know its a sensitive subject that I might not be able to due to my age. We're open to adopting if nothing happens in the next couple of years.

ledalia · December 2010

We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

Bootsie12 · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? No

Anyone trying? Not yet

If no to the above:

Do you want kids? Yes

How many? 2-3

When do you plan on having them? Going to start TTC in Sept. We are both in our 30's, so we planned on starting a family within a year of marriage.

Are you sick of family/friends asking? No

baystateapple · December 2010

No babies yet! We're not really trying, but I haven't had a period since before the wedding. BUT, two negative pregnancy tests say it's a false alarm. I'm going to the doctor this week to make sure everything is okay.

Do you want kids? YES!

How many? Two, ideally.

When do you plan on having them? Plan on starting to try next summer.

Are you sick of family/friends asking? Nah, they're not asking.

Steph0871 · December 2010

ledalia:
We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

That shouldn't be hard, since you scammed your relatives to get free tuition.

Also. I fully believe it's healthy for kids to see parents budget and work to pay off loans/mortgages/etc. I'd worry your kids would have a false sense of reality if you had everything paid for and savings galore. That's just my two cents though.

manda26 · December 2010

not pregnant and not trying (although I am not on BC). I did have to take 3 tests a few weeks ago because all signs were leading to it (of course I got my period the following day after 2 months w/o one)

We said we are going to start trying this coming summer if it doesn't happen before that w/o trying.

We want 2-3 kids and can't wait til the timing is right!

Blueyed228 · December 2010

manda26:

not pregnant and not trying (although I am not on BC). I did have to take 3 tests a few weeks ago because all signs were leading to it (of course I got my period the following day after 2 months w/o one)

We said we are going to start trying this coming summer if it doesn't happen before that w/o trying.

We want 2-3 kids and can't wait til the timing is right!

Manda- your sig pic is awesome.

manda26 · December 2010

thank you so much Blueyed!!

it's one of my fav's for sure

yuengling58 · December 2010

No babies for us! We weren't using any contraceptives last month but I got AF. Anyways, we've made the executive decision to wait at least a year and then start trying. I have a Rx for birth control that I haven't filled yet, so this month will be condoms until I can fill my prescription. I think I'm going to stay off BCP for another few months to track my cycles and make sure we're "all clear" for when we do start trying.

I would like at least 3-4 kids and DH would be happy with 2. If we start trying a year from now I'll be 24 and he'll be 25 which seems like the "ideal" age for our situation (we'd be out of debt minus student loans by the time any child would be born -financially it would be a good time).

I've pretty much stopped people from asking us, honestly. We got it a LOT from MIL while we were engaged until finally I told her (in front of her family after she made a big deal about publically asking when we would have children) that we were going to wait a few years and if she wanted to pop out another child we would be more than happy to babysit.

Steph0871 · December 2010

manda26:
thank you so much Blueyed!! it's one of my fav's for sure

I was going to say the same as Blue. P.S. You're TINY! I love your dress so much on you.

ledalia · December 2010

Steph0871:
ledalia:
We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

That shouldn't be hard, since you scammed your relatives to get free tuition.
Also. I fully believe it's healthy for kids to see parents budget and work to pay off loans/mortgages/etc. I'd worry your kids would have a false sense of reality if you had everything paid for and savings galore. That's just my two cents though.

Wow... really? I'm not going to school on a free ride. I am using student loans, except based off my income and not my dad's since he, although not an actual contributor to my education, made too much money for me to qualify for enough loans since my school unexpectedly doubled tuition. It's called the EFC and it's a big factor in what you can and cannot borrow. The fact that this is my sixth and final year due to changing my major and schools also affected how much I could borrow.

Also, thank you for assuming that we would raise the kids that we might have in ten years with a "false sense of reality" since we would like to be financially able to provide for them. I believe in budgeting and saving to buy things with cash rather than giving into instant gratification with loans and credit cards. I'm talking about goals we hope to accomplish in a ten year period... if we can do it why wouldn't we? And what's it to you?

Steph0871 · December 2010

ledalia:
Steph0871:
ledalia:
We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

That shouldn't be hard, since you scammed your relatives to get free tuition.
Also. I fully believe it's healthy for kids to see parents budget and work to pay off loans/mortgages/etc. I'd worry your kids would have a false sense of reality if you had everything paid for and savings galore. That's just my two cents though.
Wow... really? I'm not going to school on a free ride. I am using student loans, except based off my income and not my dad's since he, although not an actual contributor to my education, made too much money for me to qualify for enough loans since my school unexpectedly doubled tuition. It's called the EFC and it's a big factor in what you can and cannot borrow. The fact that this is my sixth and final year due to changing my major and schools also affected how much I could borrow.
Also, thank you for assuming that we would raise the kids that we might have in ten years with a "false sense of reality" since we would like to be financially able to provide for them. I believe in budgeting and saving to buy things with cash rather than giving into instant gratification with loans and credit cards. I'm talking about goals we hope to accomplish in a ten year period... if we can do it why wouldn't we? And what's it to you?

Yes, I am a college graduate, so I fully understand EFC. I also fully understand that if you want to not get screwed by the cost of education, you graduate in 4 years. Unless you have some outlying family obligations and/or disabilities, it's really not that hard to graduate in four years. That's how *most* educational institutions are designed, afterall. Because you brought it up- changing your majors was your decision. Suck it up and pay the price for it.... don't blame everyone else for the fact that you had to pay more for school.

And in regards to the money thing... you started that one. Like most of your previous posts, this one rubbed me the wrong way. You come across very much "well WE wont' have kids until we are DEBT FREE, because it's stupid to do so otherwise." (Again, just the vibe I get from you when you post.) So I just thought I would point out some flaws in that idea too. Because, honestly, your post felt like you were saying that it's irresponsible to have kids if you have debt.

I think it's fully possible and responsible to have kids even if you have debt, especially if it's just something like a mortgage.

oh, and irony much? You can't have kids now, because you're paying of loans... because you "believe in budgeting...rather than giving into instant gratification with loans." Are you planning on paying for that house in cash?

ledalia · December 2010

I don't post here to "start" anything. I stated the ideal situation for us that my husband and I have agreed on for the moment. Who knows what will happen? It's hard to move forward when you have something like student loans holding you back and that is why I have become so anti-debt. Obviously it hasn't always been that way or I wouldn't have any. It's none of my business how other people decide to raise their kids and not my place to judge them, especially since I'm not a mother myself. Perhaps you have a different life plan and would rather have kids first. That's fine. But just because I feel differently does not give you the right to attack my views and judge me, whom you know nothing about. The point is, we don't -want- kids now. We have other goals and priorities as a family that we would like to take on together before we think about trying to conceive.

faithhopeinlove · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? Not yet, but testing very soon, hopefully. I'm wishing af doesn't visit this month! (or for the next 9)Anyone trying? Definitely trying... DH calls it "practicing" when it's not the most fertile times. We've been charting, tracking everything, and still enjoying all of it haha.If no to the above:Do you want kids? Yes I want kids!How many? 2; more specifically one boy and one girl, but we'll take whatever we're given.When do you plan on having them? Hopefully as soon as possible. DH keeps saying, "I want a baby" at the most random times... he even talks to my stomach as if we have a little one baking already.Are you sick of family/friends asking? Ehh.. not really.. I thought they'd want us to wait a while, but at our family Christmas party this weekend, my stepdad and DH's mom already stated that they'd be competing to see who could spoil the grandchilren more

Blueyed228 · December 2010

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I think it's fully possible and responsible to have kids even if you have debt, especially if it's just something like a mortgage.

Well I guess the fact that I managed to obtain 2 degrees without any student loans is a moot point since I have a mortgage. Even though we did put 70K down and 40K into renovations, all while maintaing a large nest egg.

From the "debt free" perspective she has, Ill be having kids when in 29 years when my mortgage is paid off.

Logic fail.

ledalia · December 2010

Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

zaramarie81 · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? No, not pregnant yet.

Anyone trying? Yes and no. We're not avoiding but we're hoping that in the next few months we can test for what appears to be some minor hormonal imbalances (that if corrected, could really help me have healthier pregnancies and just be a lot healthier overall). We're charting (Creighton Model that I've mentioned on the boards before). We're really praying 2011 will be the year to start our fam!

If no to the above:

Do you want kids? Yep!

How many? We'd like 4 or so.

When do you plan on having them? Asap. I will be 30 next month, and fertility issues run in the fam.

Are you sick of family/friends asking? Um, it's a little difficult for me because I have a twin and younger sister who both already have 3 beautiful children. Both sisters conceived on their honeymoons, so a lot of people are eying me and H, assuming the same story will unfold (forgetting that my sibs were merely 23 when they married and had no apparent health concerns). That's kind of annoying.

Blueyed228 · December 2010

zaramarie81:

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? No, not pregnant yet.

Anyone trying? Yes and no. We're not avoiding but we're hoping that in the next few months we can test for what appears to be some minor hormonal imbalances (that if corrected, could really help me have healthier pregnancies and just be a lot healthier overall). We're charting (Creighton Model that I've mentioned on the boards before). We're really praying 2011 will be the year to start our fam!

If no to the above:

Do you want kids? Yep!

How many? We'd like 4 or so.

When do you plan on having them? Asap. I will be 30 next month, and fertility issues run in the fam.

Are you sick of family/friends asking? Um, it's a little difficult for me because I have a twin and younger sister who both already have 3 beautiful children. Both sisters conceived on their honeymoons, so a lot of people are eying me and H, assuming the same story will unfold (forgetting that my sibs were merely 23 when they married and had no apparent health concerns). That's kind of annoying.

Zara- You look like Grace Kelly in your sig pic!

zaramarie81 · December 2010

Blueyed228:
zaramarie81:

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? No, not pregnant yet.

Anyone trying? Yes and no. We're not avoiding but we're hoping that in the next few months we can test for what appears to be some minor hormonal imbalances (that if corrected, could really help me have healthier pregnancies and just be a lot healthier overall). We're charting (Creighton Model that I've mentioned on the boards before). We're really praying 2011 will be the year to start our fam!

If no to the above:

Do you want kids? Yep!

How many? We'd like 4 or so.

When do you plan on having them? Asap. I will be 30 next month, and fertility issues run in the fam.

Are you sick of family/friends asking? Um, it's a little difficult for me because I have a twin and younger sister who both already have 3 beautiful children. Both sisters conceived on their honeymoons, so a lot of people are eying me and H, assuming the same story will unfold (forgetting that my sibs were merely 23 when they married and had no apparent health concerns). That's kind of annoying.

Zara- You look like Grace Kelly in your sig pic!

Oh, thank you Blueyed!! Grace Kelly was definitely my "bridal inspiration," so that's great to hear. You look amazing in your sig picture! Love the veil blowing like that.

ScarlettDahlia · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? No, not pregnant.

Anyone trying? We're not trying yet either. We still have a few things we'd like to do before we have kids.

Do you want kids? Definitely

How many? 2, maybe 3

When do you plan on having them? I'm hoping to start trying late next year, but DH and I haven't really talked about an exact timeline yet.

Are you sick of family/friends asking? We haven't been asked at all lately, really. Right after the wedding, we were getting asked that so many times. But it's definitley died down quite a bit.

jmkes · December 2010

Anyone pregnant yet and want to share? No, not yet. Still on BCPs

Anyone trying? Not yet.

If no to the above:

Do you want kids? Yes we do!

How many? However many we are blessed with.

When do you plan on having them? We plan to start trying next summer. I'm 33 (will be 34 by next summer) and would like to get pregnant before I reach advance maternal age (35.)

Are you sick of family/friends asking? Actually, no one is really asking us. They all know we want kids.

Blueyed228 · December 2010

ledalia:
Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

Ummm, except you did.

Whatever, its your life, but Steph was just pointing out that you sounded a little judgey to her by saying it. And she has a point about the whole secrets stuff and student loans.

manda26 · December 2010

Steph0871:
manda26:
thank you so much Blueyed!! it's one of my fav's for sure
I was going to say the same as Blue. P.S. You're TINY! I love your dress so much on you.

You're so sweet! My dress was without a doubt my dream dress and I feel so lucky to have found it... but I'm really not tiny! My husband is 6'6" (14 inches taller than me!) so I do always look tiny next to him, not that I mind! LOL I wore 4.5" heels on our wedding day to try and make our kiss / first dance not to awkward due to the height difference.

jnc1113 · December 2010

ledalia:
Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

Whaaaaaaaaaat?!?! I so live in the wrong place! Big Smile

ledalia · December 2010

Blueyed228:
ledalia:
Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

Ummm, except you did.

Whatever, its your life, but Steph was just pointing out that you sounded a little judgey to her by saying it. And she has a point about the whole secrets stuff and student loans.

Just to clarify, I said that in regards to what my husband and I consider the ideal situation for us to have kids. Not that no one should have kids unless they have done those things. As you said, it's my life. And you both have sounded quite judgey yourselves. Plus any point that is made about a situation in which the person really has no idea what or who they are talking about is pretty much invalid.

Oh, and $70,000 obviously doesn't buy a McMansion in Georgia. But you can get a really cute starter home for that price.

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