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Can we discuss this?
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/47549257.aspx
Do you think her employer is being unreasonable? FTR, this is not the first post she's made like this, she also couldn't find someone to watch her kid when daycare was closed one day, planned on calling in sick (!!!!), then was PISSED when they told her if she called in sick she'd be fired.
I think her boss kinda sounds like a jerk, but the calls for a discrimination lawsuit seem ridiculous to me.
ETA: since she DDs her posts a lot,
So, this morning I checked to see if schools would be closed before I
left. There was a two hour delay (due to weather) so I called daycare
to see if they were open since they follow what the school disctricts
do. They said yes. By the time I drove to work (1hr) in sleet and
snow, they decided to cancel schools and daycare is now closed. Work
won't let me leave. And the best part is the speech I got about how I
am not a dedicated employee and how this shiit can't keep happening and
how they need someone who is willing to come to work. Seriously?
Because of the one other daycare incident, in which I found someone to
cover for me? They can bite me. WTF?!?
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Re: Can we discuss this?
oh shiit. that's sjc.
Now they're telling her to use FMLA. Uh, isn't FMLA for when your kid is sick? http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/47550659.aspx
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
I have no backup childcare.
And I am sure you could be right with your theory of a hardworking employee wouldn't get shiit over it, but employers can be assholios too.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
There's probably a lot moe to the story than this. Unless the mplyer is a class "A" miserable SOB,they understand that this stuff happens and you take a sick or vacation day.
I would be finding a new daycare, though, ASAP. that's the stupidest policy i've ever heard. If Lila was in school and this kid at nonna's, Nonna would take both kids if schools were closed.
shiit happens and daycares close, but you need a back up plan. What does she do for work? My job is pretty understanding about that sort of thing and as long as it wasn't happening a lot nothing would be said. However I can see certain jobs would be more strict about it. for instance my friend is a dental hygienist and if she is late or calls in it sucks because there is nobody to do her work if she isn't there and patients will need to be called last minute to reschedule.
I hate to say it but this is a major reason women tend to make less $ than men.
People give bad advice on message boards.
We don't get "vacation" days at my job. If I have to be out for whatever reason, I have to take a "sick" day. So, I don't see anything odd in her doing that personally.
I think it's BS if her job is giving her a hard time.
I have childcare and backup childcare and still had to call in family today.
That being said, it seems like there has to be more to it. Unless her boss is a complete bunghole without an ounce of humanity, an otherwise exemplary employee should not get sh!t for taking one day off because they have no childcare.
That is not harassment or discrimination. I'd like to think employers would be reasonable about things like this that come up, but I can see how they'd be pissed if it happens all the time, or if she has a job (like Mashed's friend) where no one can cover for her.
Yeah, but you work at school. If your daycare closes when schools close and you don't work in a field that closes when schools close.... It's not like they can tell patients, "I'm sorry but we have no nurse to take care of you today; daycare was closed." Also, I note this part: I got about how I am not a dedicated employee and how this shiit can't keep happening. It sounds like she calls in a lot.
It's hard to tell who is being unreasonable in this circumstance, given that it's her POV. I am very sensitive to child care emergencies because you feel so guilty on both ends when they happen - bad mom and bad employee. I would agree that if this were really the second time she's had to excuse herself from work because of child care issues and its the middle of a snowstorm, there's got to be more to the story. Or she works for a dbag.
I live in smack in the middle of Houston and there is nothing around me. There is no backup daycare available anywhere near me. We have searched. We have no family here. I have friends and neighbors who work. Our babysitter works at the daycare center and if they were closed we could get her, but she has no car . I have asked my cleaning woman if she knows someone and she never gets back to me.
Thankfully I am part time and have plenty of days and my job isn't a pain about it.
I'm pretty sure FMLA wouldn't apply here, even if she had any left - it's for just having a baby, or when you have to care for an incapacitated family member. It's a long term thing. It's not a "snow day!" type of thing.
NPR was saying that the storm they're having in the southeast is supposed to be bad because it's a lot more snow than they're used to having. I can understand a center following school closures and closing so their workers can get home before roads are awful.
My work has been fine for the last couple years, but after I was hospitalized, then took maternity leave with Will, the first time I took a sick day I got a "your supervisors are concerned with the amount of time you're away from work" talk from my HR person. It made me incredibly uncomfortable, as there wasn't anything I could have done differently, unless they wanted me to come to work puking. I ended up saying that if they don't want me to use my sick time they shouldn't make it available, and that the other stuff was unavoidable.
But I still get nervous every time I call in sick or schedule time off.
I'm very fortunate in that my office has backup child care - you get up to 20 days a year for it. The problem is, that means I'd have to drive into the city (I'm not about to pack the kid up and bring him on the train).
I know I have said it before, but it's hard when you work with a bunch of people who either have no kids or are not the primary caregiver. I think I'm overly sensitive about this stuff...as it is I have to leave early (at 5 pm sharp) every day. It's really my own issue, I can't help but feel there's a spotlight on my asss as I book it out of here. I've compensated by getting into the office by 7:15 am. Everyone else comes in at 8:30-9, so I'm sure they just assume I am a slacker.
I'm sure never. Crime does not wait for 007.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
November, that spotlight thing worries us too.
When I get pregnant again, we are still trying to figure out what to do. I will not be able to lift Dagger, so I won't be able to pick him up/bring him to daycare and can't really be home regularly alone with him.
One of the fixes is for Mr. Winged to have to do the drop off/pickup. But that is hard since they often schedule meetings before/after daycare hours
I really don't know what to do.
Yup, that's what a spouse is for.
I can't believe that's SJC. And that's she's on that board.
I agree with this, except I believe there can be some work situations that just provide a little more flexibility and understanding than others. I couldn't work in a situation that was not as flexible as mine.
It sounds like Dagger is about ready to start driving and carrying the groceries for you, so I wouldn't worry too much about it
Backup child care is hard to find if you're looking for someone other than family and friends. It's especially hard to find for a kid who is sick.
I think the calling in sick thing might just be a policy difference. Even in our office, contractors (and some of our hourly employees, I think) can use their sick time for whatever. But salaried people don't have a set amount of time (other than vacation), so we just say what the actual problem is. Situations like this are when I'm very glad I can work from home.
I think finding backup childcare in the middle of a snowstorm would be a nightmare. But if you're a nurse, then yeah, I think you know you need to go to work.
The nerve!
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YES.
There really needs to be more understanding of life at work. In my opinion, it makes for more productive employees, not less.
The nerve!
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word sister friend. Mr. Winged's work expects you to work evenings, weekends, etc. He had a 5am meeting last week. He generally works 7-6 every day and he still doesn't work as much as many do.
Do we know for sure this is SJC? I always wondered what happened to her. Last I saw her she was on the Home Buying Board.
I have to say, I could see my boss reacting this way and not understanding that day care is closed. She has a mom who watches her kids all day for her in her house and she travels all over the states for work every week. She has a 8 month old and 3 year old and works until 10 pm at night and all weekend. I just couldn't do that.
We have no help so when/if we have a kid, I have no idea what I would do. I think finding back up day care is very difficult as most day cares don't just take kids at the last minute if you never use them.