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  • Before we were married, DH and I addressed the most common causes of newlywed fights: money and sex.  Our solution to sex was that we both agreed to view it as a necessity to our marriage, a way to keep us strong and express our love and desire for each other.  As a result, we don't say no to one another unless we're sick.  I've found that even if I don't feel like it (tired, headache, feelin blue)  I always get into it after we've started and feel better afterwards.  I remind myself of this the next time I 'don't feel like it'.

     We also take at least 3 showers together a week and give each other massages a couple times a month.  Our bedroom has a no-clothes policy.  These things don't always lead to sex, but it keeps a sexy, flirty element to our marriage.

    Most important, though, we keep each other laughing.  We play, flirt and have fun-- which is an extreme turn on!

    BabyFruit Ticker
  • I will open up a bottle of wine.  (He thinks I get friskyer with a little wine.) And we will just "relax" with each other.  He is gone all week, I only see him on Friday and Saturday nights.  So I try to make everything different everyweekend.  He gets home late on Fridays so I will try and suprise him in sexy lingere or a whipped cream bikini. 
  • We had our honeymoon in St. Lucia - it's the most beautiful place on earth!

  • We are big flirts, always talking dirty to each other. We try to always give compliments to each other to let each other know that we are both attracted to each other. My husband does better than me he is always smacking my butt saying how hot he thinks I am.

    We also like to do it as soon as he gets home. No waiting around for night time when we are both exhausted and ready to pass out. We do it when we are awake and energetic. 

    dmayer  

  • My best advice is to never go to bed angry!
    With Love, Shanna
  • We've been married for almost 2 years now and have a 13 yo and 10 month old in the house, so it's a bit hard to have sexy sex nights very often. We are trying for a baby now, so there is a lot of "shhhh, quiet, don't make the bed squeak" sex after the kids are asleep...and lying on your back for 30 mins with my legs in the air afterward doesn't count as sexy in my book...

    As for sexy sex, we like to drop the kiddos off at grandma and grandpa's for the night and have a date night filled with all sorts of fun naughty things:)including talking...we find that reconnecting with each other after busy stressful weeks is a very strong aphrodisiac:)

    We never had a real honeymoon, so a vacation in St. Lucia would be amazing! And it be fun to make a baby in paradise!!!

  • i.  CandySweet169

    ii.  We try to keep sex in our lives because the endorphines that are released during sex make us both feel better.  While we don't have have sex very often we like to give eachother pleasure in other ways.  In order to get in the mood we take a bath or shower toghether, but especially the bath. :)

  • As a couple livingtogether and being with each other on a consistent basis, it?s easy to look ateach other with thoughts of errands, budgets, agendas, and chores. To keep thesethoughts at bay and let the real priority (our love life) surface, me and myman always follow these steps: We greet each other warmlyCare and help eachother where neededGet all the responsible chores and chatter out of oursystem                                    before getting cozy for bed. That way, as we settle down, we can focuson one another; whether we start to cuddle, treat each other to a massage, ordote with compliments and appreciation, the positive-stress-free vibes set offbetter chemistry than the priciest candles. Sometimes we'll just talk... but such intimate time almost always leads to some way hotter action. Plus, since we consistently havethis time devoted solely to ourselves, it keeps us on the look-out forspicy extras and new moves, just for fun, not just for special occasions. 
  • Keeping our sex life alive and fun is important to both of us.

    Sometimes we go out to the bar and we pretend like we are meeting for the first time, with fake names lol ... we flirt, buy eachother drinks, dance on the dance floor ... than we usually take a cab back to his "place" or my "place" (once we went to a hotel, that was fun). I think I like it because it's something neither of us would ever actually do when we were single.

    It's a fun and passionate way to keep us yearning for eachother Yes

     

  • We work together, 40 hours a week, I am front of the house and he is a chef, I make sure to dress conservitive yet sexy so his runners talk about me in the kitchen, and he over hears it. He doewsnt get mad, but i know hegets a little jealous. Then because I get off work earlier than him I wait at the local bar, where I will talk with other men until he comes over and we playthe "just met each other game.'' This usually goes on for a few minutes until we cannot handle it any longer and we find ourselves touching and feeling all on the subway right home. We can barley make it through the door of our appartment it gets that hot. We like to do this once a week to keep things fresh,
  • My new hubby and I both work retail.  Each week our schedules vary and are typically quite opposite from each others. It becomes difficult to find time to even see or talk to each other- much less have some romance!  So we are VERY intentional any night we have off together to make each other our #1 priority.  We'll pick a meal and cook it together!  We'll share some wine and either watch a movie or play board games- something fun that we can laugh to!!  Then we'll do something romantic- a bath or massages and I'll slip into something special.  By this time, we've both had our "love tanks" filled- by spending time together, laughing and telling each other about work/friendships/family, and creating romance- that we want nothing more than to love on each other!
  • We have a "no kissing allowed" night.  Meaning, all is fair except kissing on the lips.  Definitely turns him on and makes for a fun night of teasing :)  Hubby can't stand the teasing, but loves it all at the same time!  All sorts of toys are fair play too! 

     Mandarin820

  • We take sexting to a whole new nerdy level! 

    We play Scrabble all day via our smart phones, with the rule that any word played in the game must be used in a sexy sentence.

    By the time we get home, we're ready to reenact our honeymoon in beautiful St Lucia!

    User mollicita323

  • Mike and I tuck little notes for each other in random spots with a mini description on what we want to do to each other. The more excited we are to try this new thing or revisit an old thing, the more obvious places we hide the notes.

    Anytime we find a note, we make sure that it is followed within 24 hours. We each write three or four a week. It makes everything so much fun, because we keep our creativity pretty high about where we hide these love notes and what we write!  I never know where I'll come across one, and its so sexy to know how he's thinking about making love to me.

    When I can't wait, I'll put it in his wallet or put it on the dashboard of his car so he can think about it all day at work. He has hidden them all over - in the dryer sheet box, in a blender, in my favorite movie cases. One of the last ones he did for me he stuck a post it to his hand and put his hand in front of me in the shower! That got things going quick!

     We don't have to have a note to get intimiate with each other, but its great to have a way to explore both of our crazier fantasies and keep things from getting into any kind of routine.


     

  • We plan a date night, but with a twist. He will plan a surprise date and give me little clues about where we're going via text message during the day while i'm at work. Then we when we get ready for the date we are not allowed to see each other until we are ready to go. Then he will run down stairs and ring the door bell. That way i can open the door and its like when we were dating before we lived together. After the date is over I "invite" him inside and we take sexy pictures with each other so that we can remember the date and get fired up for the night.
  • I do an elaborate strip-tease dance for my husband twice a year, on his birthday and our anniversary. I spend a lot of time planning my outfit and the music. I may not be perfect at all, but he acts like it is the greatest thing that ever happened to him. I started this the first year we were married. Ladies, I promise you it will make your guy so happy!
  • We keep the spice by trying new fun toys and enjoying great wine to get each other in the mood!
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  • What don't we do! HA! We stay open to each other.

    We do the average and expected flirt together, go out on date nights sometimes we stay in and cook, send sexy texts to each other, message/rub and touch eachother any chance we get.We work out together-notheing gets your endorphines going like a great work out and we always look forward to our "cool down time" showering together when we are done. We send nude or sexy photos to each other via the phone. We minimize the PDA, But we love to "Hide" and get it on in public places. We believe that Sex is better when away from home, So We travel- As much as possible. It is wonderful to be somewhere different and not having the worries of life! AND above all else We laugh Together and at each other! Because WE ARE SO IN LOVE!

  • In all honesty, I just stop making excuses on why I don't want to have sex, i.e too tired, not in the mood,  and do it.  Once you get going, you probably won't stop!

  • We have a date night every other Friday and we always try and do something other than same old dinner and a movie. We have found a pottery painting place where one Friday a month is adult night and you can bring your own wine and champagne so we always try and do that and we each pick a piece of pottery and paint something for eachother. It's fun and brings back the kid in us. We also cook dinner together at least 3 times during the week which we both really enjoy so we get to spend time together not in front of the tv, which normally results in a quickie while the food is finishing cooking! We love changing things up so it's not always in the bed, we like to use our entire house!
  • i)  Sarahbath09

    ii)  My husband and I keep sex a top priority by setting aside specific nights where we enforce a "no-clothing zone" rule.  We will go about our normal work days as usual but once we are home we strip down to our birthday suits and do not leave the house all night.  We do everything we would normally from cooking and eating dinner to hanging out and watching a movie, but it is all in the buff. Usually by the time dinner is done we are so turned on by seeing eachother we leave the dishes for the next day and spend the rest of the night...well you get the picture!

  • My hubby and I are in a bowling league that meets every other Sunday. We always compete against each other, playing for sexual favors/ideas, and the winner at bowling that night gets to cash in on what they wanted.  My hubby is pretty creative so it leads to some fun and exciting nights!!

  • I like to turn on some music.  The right song helps me lose my inhibitions and that always gets my hubby in the mood!
  • My husband works really odd hours, is usually at the office by like 4 am and then gets home around 1 pm.  He honestly works on and off the entire day Sunday night thru Friday afternoon from home when he isn't at the office.  When he is working for home, I know that there are a couple times during the afternoon that he can't work because of daily computer updates.  I go into his home office and "distract" him from thinking about work for a little while a couple times a week since he is usually exhausted by 9 pm every night. ;)
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • NAKED. Wii. BOWLING.

     Need I say more!? ;-)

  • My husband Luke and I have only been married for five months but we have known each other for mor than 9 years. We met at a wedding when I was in high school and he was a freshman in college, we wrote emails, IMed and texted back and forth, hung out a couple of times in the following years then after 2003 we lost contact and didnt see each other again till may of 2009. I had suffered a major loss in my life and his timing couldnt have been better, he was driving through my town and he text me to see if he could stop and say hi. We fell in love one day at a time, we challenge each other and complement each other and we drive each other crazy but we couldnt imagine life without each other. We married September 18 2010 and have spent every day together loving and living each moment. He works long hours and is tired when he gets home but we try many different methods to keep the heat in our marriage, by flirting all day long through funny texts and emails. or sending pictures of my lingerie sitting on a chair.. he loves the teasing and is more than ready to come home to me. Other times we go on dates, pretending we are back in high school, going to the movies and sharing popcorn and a drink with two straws, or when random songs come on in a store he forces me to dance. We laugh and flirt and when we are home together it puts us in a mood to be closer and keep our intimacy alive.

     

     

  • imagemloftin85:

    My husband Luke and I have only been married for five months but we have known each other for mor than 9 years. We met at a wedding when I was in high school and he was a freshman in college, we wrote emails, IMed and texted back and forth, hung out a couple of times in the following years then after 2003 we lost contact and didnt see each other again till may of 2009. I had suffered a major loss in my life and his timing couldnt have been better, he was driving through my town and he text me to see if he could stop and say hi. We fell in love one day at a time, we challenge each other and complement each other and we drive each other crazy but we couldnt imagine life without each other. We married September 18 2010 and have spent every day together loving and living each moment. He works long hours and is tired when he gets home but we try many different methods to keep the heat in our marriage, by flirting all day long through funny texts and emails. or sending pictures of my lingerie sitting on a chair.. he loves the teasing and is more than ready to come home to me. Other times we go on dates, pretending we are back in high school, going to the movies and sharing popcorn and a drink with two straws, or when random songs come on in a store he forces me to dance. We laugh and flirt and when we are home together it puts us in a mood to be closer and keep our intimacy alive.

     


     

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    thank you so much

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  • My hubby and I have been married for 1.5 yrs but together for 11 yrs, so it can be hard to keep things fresh; especially since we never had a honeymoon. Our method has been to try new things at a slow pace, so there is always something new and exciting to try down the road! We really never get sick of any particular thing but it allows us more things to add to our bag of tricks. So, lately I have been texting him pic's of me in lingerie he has never seen and I make sure it is a picture specific to that by not including my face, so it's mysterious. I will also surprise him on his lunch break by showing up in a long jacket with sexy new bra and panties peeping out as we have a quick picnic in the car before he has to go back to work. By the time he makes it home I'm all he can think about. Something we have always done is talk about other people who think we are attractive and desire us. For some reason it really turns us on just knowing there is someone else out there fantasizing about what we already have!
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