What is the hardest thing you've ever done?

Re: What is the hardest thing you've ever done?

• bmcapra

  March 2011

  WOW, there are some amazingly strong women on this board.

  One of the hardest things I have had to do growing up was support my HS boyfriend after his best friend was killed. The friend was killed by guy his mom was marrying. A few years after the death my then boyfriend found out the mom was forgiving her boyfriend for killing her son. I am still friends with my high school boyfriend and he still has a hard time talking about it.

  I have also had to say goodbye to 2 of my grandparents last year. I know was very fortunate to have had all 4 of my grandparents for 27 years of my life, but I would give anything to have just one more day with them.

  

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• hecklet

  March 2011

  jennyk213:

  wittyschaffy:

  Most difficult and most rewarding all rolled into one - I was fortunate to have some time alone with my Grandpa when we knew the end was near for him but he was still pretty lucid.  I got to tell him how much his influence in my life meant to me and how much I loved him.  He got to tell me how proud of me he was and that his one biggest regret was that he wouldn't live to see me graduate from college but that he'd be watching over me from heaven.  I left it as "I'll be seeing you".  Gosh, it still makes me cry thinking about it.  I wouldn't have traded that time for anything though, as tough as it was.
  

  This made me cry.  It has been 12 years since my grandpa died but I still think about him and wish so badly that we could have had a conversation like that.  I know you said this was one of the hardest things but you are so lucky to have had the opportunity! 
  

  Totally agree with this! In no way does it make your loss any smaller but how fortunate you were to have the chance to say goodbye. 
  

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• Mrs. Sarah&Micah

  March 2011

  1. Bury my dad at the age of 18 and deal with depression. He passed away doing his favorite thing in the world- riding his motorcycle. For some reason which we don't know but he drove his motorcycle head on into a semi truck. We are thinking he had a heart attack or brain hemmorage right before his bike crossed the centerline and hit the semi. This happened 2 days before I was supposed to start college and sent me into major depression and I struggled for the next 5 years to graduate from college. Luckily with medication, many psychiatrists and a good support system, I was able to graduate from college after 5.5 long difficult years. 2. Having a child. My baby was born almost 4 weeks ago and so far this has been one of the hardest things I've done. But oh so rewarding!

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• mikeandmonica

  March 2011

  This was a GREAT post -- so many of you have gone through such dramatic things and you are all so strong.

  To the poster dealing with cancer -- you will be in my prayers.

  For me, so many of the things that you guys posted rang true for me too (especially the saying goodbye to grandparents - I'm still sad that DH had the ring to propose to me just before my gma died and she didn't get to know before she died that she was right - he was the one for me and we'd be married - of course I know she knows in heaven, but it still makes me sad).  One of the other difficult things was having 2 kids in my (small) high school die in the same year -- it was a VERY rough time and I still get sad when I think about it.  It really made our two classes realize how important we all are to each other - friends or not friends -- and how much of an impact someone you might not know very well can have on your life.  I agree with whoever said it is hard to be the one with the strong face when you are hurting too.  That was me in those two situations in high school.

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