I judge....

Mrs. Mo · March 2011

ChristinaDawn:
I judge Mom's who judge Mom's about their choices in feeding their baby. As you all know we ended up supplementing with formula this past week and I've been pumping and bottle feeding on top of nursing as well. Tonight I'm going to our first Le Leche League meeting (our Bradley instructor goes and the leader is the wife of one of Joel's friends). I'm excited to go for the support with the breastfeeding but I'm dreading the looks we're going to get if we admit we've already bottle fed Alex. We're thinking we're just going to lie about it to avoid the whole situation, but how terrible is that that we feel like we're going to have to lie at a support group just to avoid the nasty looks and remarks?! It's a pretty small group and they're all exclusive breastfeeders. Our Bradley instructor BF her daughter up to the age of three when her daughter decided she didn't want to anymore........I judge that too. If the child is old enough to ask for it, they shouldn't be doing it anymore.

Ditto ! It's a personal choice and no one should make anyone feel like a bad person based on their choices. There is enough support/studies out there to prove that both are good ways. I hate it when someone pulls up a biased article to support their argument and does not realize there are just as many that show the opposite.

tdmd09 · March 2011

Oh, I thought of another one. I judge people who post a million photos of their baby doing almost exactly the same thing. If you want to post a photo of your child playing with a toy, fine. But I don't need to see 10 photos taken seconds apart with the child playing with the same toy, but one time their eyes are looking at the camera, one time their tongue is sticking out, one time their right arm is 2" to the right of where it was in the last shot.

A girl I knew in nursing school put 150 photos of her new daughter on facebook within 2 days of her birth. That's 75 photos a day. That's too many.

Mrs. Mo · March 2011

Another FB complaint: I HATE it when someone puts some cryptic status and then will not post what it is about when asked. Someone wrote "The WORST thing happened to me today ! " and when someone asked what, they put " I'll send you a message about it" . Ummm, hello ?!?!? If it's something you do not want to write in the first place, do not lure us into questioning what happened!

steeser03 · March 2011

SocialWorker2B:
steeser03:

- also people who say they are broke yet get their nails and hair done. ESPECIALLY if these people have children. you cant offord stuff for your kid but you can get your hair cut and colored?

- people who gladly push work off on others yet take credit for it anyway

- people who practice open marriages and polygamy

- people who swear at their children, especially in public

I disagree.

The only thing I judge about polygamy is when they use it to defraud the state - welfare fraud. Other than that, I think polygamy can be very healthy and beneficial for the children. I firmly believe that you can not get ALL your needs, both emotional and physical, satisfied by just one person. Having sister wives, or multiple wives, or multiple mothers, allows more of these needs to get met. It also makes sure that the children are well taken care of (multiple moms) and they have a big family to grow up with.

And, open marriages - just like homosexuality, if it doesn't affect you than why does it bother you?

because as i said in michelle's thread, i believe that marriage is between two people and that all aspects of marriage should be sacred between two people. note that i did not say between a man and woman, i said two people. also as i said previously, if you dont want to be in a MARRIAGE then dont get married. if you want to be single, be single. i dont judge people who are single and have multiple partners, to each their own. but when you commit to marriage, you are committing to one person. not one person when it suits you and when they are giving you what you want. you commit to that one person for better or worse whether they meet your every need every day or not.

Mrs. Mo · March 2011

steeser03:

- also people who say they are broke yet get their nails and hair done. ESPECIALLY if these people have children. you cant offord stuff for your kid but you can get your hair cut and colored?

- people who gladly push work off on others yet take credit for it anyway

- people who practice open marriages and polygamy

- people who swear at their children, especially in public

I'll piggy-back on this and add that I judge parents who allow their (little) kids to swear. We know someone that allows their 3yo to say swear words and doesn't think it's a big deal. Now, we're not talking about the kid saying a normal word and it sounds like a swear based on how they say it. I mean flat out saying sh*t, fvck, etc. I just can't wait until they are in school and say those words and see what happens then !

Diamond_Doll · March 2011

maryandkirk0909:
lneuner09:

Diamond_Doll:

I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.

ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

I will say, I disagree with this sometimes, because sometimes the kids have issues that you can't see. For example, my sister is autistic and she has serious issues with texture- she is a vegetarian because of this.

My mom didn't cook for her desires for a while, but eventually, when it became clear this was a life choice and not a phase- she started either making 2 meals (I'm a total carnivore) or making things that she would eat. 16 years later, she's still on that kick, so I'm pretty sure it is going to stay.

Oh, I completely understand this. Some of my autistic students have very limited diets and I 100% understand why. Also, if my child chose to be vegetarian, I would support that, but it would be "Ok, You're vegetarian, but you're still going to need protein and that means you'll eat xyz to get it."

tdmd09 · March 2011

Mrs. Mo:
Another FB complaint: I HATE it when someone puts some cryptic status and then will not post what it is about when asked. Someone wrote "The WORST thing happened to me today ! " and when someone asked what, they put " I'll send you a message about it" . Ummm, hello ?!?!? If it's something you do not want to write in the first place, do not lure us into questioning what happened!

This makes me nuts too. There was a post on failbook or one of those sites with this girl who posted something cryptic mentioning she had a miscarriage. Someone responded and said "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't know." The girl replied "That's okay, I don't like bringing attention to myself by mentioning things like that." BUT YOU PUT IT ON FACEBOOK! How is that not bringing attention to it? LOL

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

steeser03:
SocialWorker2B:
steeser03:

- also people who say they are broke yet get their nails and hair done. ESPECIALLY if these people have children. you cant offord stuff for your kid but you can get your hair cut and colored?
- people who gladly push work off on others yet take credit for it anyway
- people who practice open marriages and polygamy
- people who swear at their children, especially in public
I disagree.
The only thing I judge about polygamy is when they use it to defraud the state - welfare fraud. Other than that, I think polygamy can be very healthy and beneficial for the children. I firmly believe that you can not get ALL your needs, both emotional and physical, satisfied by just one person. Having sister wives, or multiple wives, or multiple mothers, allows more of these needs to get met. It also makes sure that the children are well taken care of (multiple moms) and they have a big family to grow up with.
And, open marriages - just like homosexuality, if it doesn't affect you than why does it bother you?
because as i said in michelle's thread, i believe that marriage is between two people and that all aspects of marriage should be sacred between two people. note that i did not say between a man and woman, i said two people. also as i said previously, if you dont want to be in a MARRIAGE then dont get married. if you want to be single, be single. i dont judge people who are single and have multiple partners, to each their own. but when you commit to marriage, you are committing to one person. not one person when it suits you and when they are giving you what you want. you commit to that one person for better or worse whether they meet your every need every day or not.

I see what you're saying.

What if the people in a polygamous marriage are completely committed to each other and making it work? Is it still going outside the marriage? I actually think polygamous marriage is harder, in a lot of ways, than traditional marriage because you are 'making it work' every day with more than one person.

A lot of divorces are caused by unmet needs so I believe if you can get most of your needs met by others, while still in a committed relationship with your primary partner, than you're good.

Also, we've all been married a very short time so it would be interesting to see whether, in 10, 20, 30 years, you all feel the same way about sucking it up when you have unmet needs.

Again, not being sarcastic, honestly curious since studies show that people's opinions on these types of things tend to change over time in a marriage.

amelianguy · March 2011

steeser03:
SocialWorker2B:
steeser03:

- also people who say they are broke yet get their nails and hair done. ESPECIALLY if these people have children. you cant offord stuff for your kid but you can get your hair cut and colored?

- people who gladly push work off on others yet take credit for it anyway

- people who practice open marriages and polygamy

- people who swear at their children, especially in public

I disagree.

The only thing I judge about polygamy is when they use it to defraud the state - welfare fraud. Other than that, I think polygamy can be very healthy and beneficial for the children. I firmly believe that you can not get ALL your needs, both emotional and physical, satisfied by just one person. Having sister wives, or multiple wives, or multiple mothers, allows more of these needs to get met. It also makes sure that the children are well taken care of (multiple moms) and they have a big family to grow up with.

And, open marriages - just like homosexuality, if it doesn't affect you than why does it bother you?

because as i said in michelle's thread, i believe that marriage is between two people and that all aspects of marriage should be sacred between two people. note that i did not say between a man and woman, i said two people. also as i said previously, if you dont want to be in a MARRIAGE then dont get married. if you want to be single, be single. i dont judge people who are single and have multiple partners, to each their own. but when you commit to marriage, you are committing to one person. not one person when it suits you and when they are giving you what you want. you commit to that one person for better or worse whether they meet your every need every day or not.

I will piggy back this and say that everyone should have the right to get married. EVERYONE. But I would disagree with open marriage in any kind of marriage - gay, straight, whatever. It's not the homosexual community that's ruining the sanctity of marriage, it's the people who don't take it seriously and don't have enough respect for their spouse to keep their pants on.

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

I agree that there is nothing wrong with gay marriage. This shouldn't even be an issue and the government should keep their noses out of it. The churches should DEFINITELY keep their noses out of it.

Now, keeping their pants on - 1. what if both spouses know about it and agree and are doing it - that's still not enough having enough respect for their spouse? 2. what if they're doing it together - is that different, in this respect, from open marriage?

Diamond_Doll · March 2011

SocialWorker2B:
Diamond_Doll:
lneuner09:

I judge people who refuse to learn how to cook even the basics. I know not everyone wants to learn to be an expert, nor do I think everyone has to learn at that level. But I judge those who refuse to learn to follow a recipe to cook for their families and just eat fast food and take out all the time. Learn to provide healthy food for your family FFS.

I also agree with this one! SIL is like this and it drives me crazy. She's 36, has 2 kids, and she never ever cooks. They eat take out or make "paninis" (white bread, ham, and cheese smushed on the George Foreman) every night.

I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.

Is she married? Does her husband cook?

If he does, then problem solved.

If he doesn't, then why aren't you judging him? Why shouldn't fathers have to cook?

This is a very valid point, SW2B. She is married. Her husband coaches middle school football and basketball, so he works late hours often, but he should cook more often, too. When we go to the beach, he's always the one who takes the lead on the cooking, but he doesn't do it regularly. I agree that men should be expected to know how to cook, too. Robin tried to cook a frozen bag entree recently and almost burnt the house down (not exaggerating again, totally started a grease fire Confused ).

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

Diamond_Doll:
SocialWorker2B:
Diamond_Doll:
lneuner09:

I judge people who refuse to learn how to cook even the basics. I know not everyone wants to learn to be an expert, nor do I think everyone has to learn at that level. But I judge those who refuse to learn to follow a recipe to cook for their families and just eat fast food and take out all the time. Learn to provide healthy food for your family FFS.
I also agree with this one! SIL is like this and it drives me crazy. She's 36, has 2 kids, and she never ever cooks. They eat take out or make "paninis" (white bread, ham, and cheese smushed on the George Foreman) every night.
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
Is she married? Does her husband cook?
If he does, then problem solved.
If he doesn't, then why aren't you judging him? Why shouldn't fathers have to cook?
This is a very valid point, SW2B. She is married. Her husband coaches middle school football and basketball, so he works late hours often, but he should cook more often, too. When we go to the beach, he's always the one who takes the lead on the cooking, but he doesn't do it regularly. I agree that men should be expected to know how to cook, too. Robin tried to cook a frozen bag entree recently and almost burnt the house down (not exaggerating again, totally started a grease fire ).

haha, that's too funny. I've been to known to do things like that - starting the grease fire, lol.

My husband loooooves to cook, and is very good at it, but sometimes society makes him feel like he shouldn't enjoy it so much. Or that *I* should be the one doing it.

That's a good point about working late. But, if he really was so concerned about his children's diet (which I agree - parents should be!) than he could do the cooking for the week on the weekend, or whenever he has a day off, and freeze them for your SIL to heat up. There's always ways to do it.

But, yes, in general - society should expect BOTH parents to know how to cook and to care about their children's diet. :-)

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

And, speaking of what people and society should not do, *I* should not have assumed she was married to a man. Or that she was married at all. There are so many different family structures that assuming a man and a women have to be married to bear children is antiquated.

I need to work on that.

SMorriso · March 2011

SocialWorker2B:
And, speaking of what people and society should not do, *I* should not have assumed she was married to a man. Or that she was married at all. There are so many different family structures that assuming a man and a women have to be married to bear children is antiquated.
I need to work on that.

She did say SIL in her OP. So, not a total assumption on your part, other than the man thing.

Mrs. Mo · March 2011

Stupid nest ate my post. Watered down version b/c I don't feel like retyping it:

Being married but openly sleeping with others defrauds the gov't. You act single but get to take the tax credits of a married person. You also get to have your spouse added to your benefits ( health insurance, etc) that a single person cannot do.

amelianguy · March 2011

SocialWorker2B:
I agree that there is nothing wrong with gay marriage. This shouldn't even be an issue and the government should keep their noses out of it. The churches should DEFINITELY keep their noses out of it.
Now, keeping their pants on - 1. what if both spouses know about it and agree and are doing it - that's still not enough having enough respect for their spouse? 2. what if they're doing it together - is that different, in this respect, from open marriage?

For me, it's the same whether you're in agreement about it or not, because if you don't want to commit to being with only each other, you shouldn't have gotten married. My husband and I took the time to explore these possibilities BEFORE we decided to get married and commit ourselves only to one another. We got it out of our system long before we said the vows.

Now, I'm not saying that for others, participating in group sex with your spouse involved couldn't be a fulfilling part of your sex life with your spouse. But for me, no matter how it's sliced, having another man's lips on mine and another man's penis penetrating me is a full on betrayal of my marriage vow.

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

SMorriso:
SocialWorker2B:
And, speaking of what people and society should not do, *I* should not have assumed she was married to a man. Or that she was married at all. There are so many different family structures that assuming a man and a women have to be married to bear children is antiquated.
I need to work on that.
She did say SIL in her OP. So, not a total assumption on your part, other than the man thing.

Oh, yeah, duh. Didn't get enough sleep last night.

In my head, I never assume these things but writing and talking as PC as my thoughts are doesn't always work out well. :-)

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

amelianguy:
SocialWorker2B:
I agree that there is nothing wrong with gay marriage. This shouldn't even be an issue and the government should keep their noses out of it. The churches should DEFINITELY keep their noses out of it.
Now, keeping their pants on - 1. what if both spouses know about it and agree and are doing it - that's still not enough having enough respect for their spouse? 2. what if they're doing it together - is that different, in this respect, from open marriage?
For me, it's the same whether you're in agreement about it or not, because if you don't want to commit to being with only each other, you shouldn't have gotten married. My husband and I took the time to explore these possibilities BEFORE we decided to get married and commit ourselves only to one another. We got it out of our system long before we said the vows.

Now, I'm not saying that for others, participating in group sex with your spouse involved couldn't be a fulfilling part of your sex life with your spouse. But for me, no matter how it's sliced, having another man's lips on mine and another man's penis penetrating me is a full on betrayal of my marriage vow.

Interesting point of view. Thanks for sharing. :-)

ChristinaDawn · March 2011

lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:

I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.

ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.

My parents subscribed to 'eat what's on your plate' which I think is a good philosophy HOWEVER they also made me very self conscious about eating.

For example, I liked to eat bagels for my dessert at night and over time, still looking like an average teenage girl (with respect to my body), they started telling me I had to eat only half a bagel and low fat cream cheese. That I don't agree with.

And, the whole try one bite thing really works. Sometimes once a kid tastes something they don't think they're gonna like, they like it.

amelianguy · March 2011

ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:

I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.

ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.

I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

amelianguy:
ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.
I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.

Good for you! This can be soooo damaging to a child!

I have a lot of food issues as an adult now from this happening to me as a child/teen, etc.

ChristinaDawn · March 2011

amelianguy:
ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:

I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.

ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.
I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.

Yes I'm planning on doing the same thing with Alex. My parents never made a big deal out of food. We did always eat dinner as a family whenever possible at the table and we were expected to try everything. If we tried it and didn't like it we had to finish the small portion that was given to us but we didn't have to have any more after that. But like someone else mentioned, once we tried it we typically liked it anyways.

Diamond_Doll · March 2011

SMorriso:
SocialWorker2B:

And, speaking of what people and society should not do, *I* should not have assumed she was married to a man. Or that she was married at all. There are so many different family structures that assuming a man and a women have to be married to bear children is antiquated.

I need to work on that.

She did say SIL in her OP. So, not a total assumption on your part, other than the man thing.

Actually, she's my SIL, because she's Robin's sister. My sister isn't married. Ha! She doesn't even date. It's a common assumption though, SW2B. The majority of people are married and in a heterosexual relationship. Not really something to beat yourself up about.

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

Diamond_Doll:
SMorriso:
SocialWorker2B:

And, speaking of what people and society should not do, *I* should not have assumed she was married to a man. Or that she was married at all. There are so many different family structures that assuming a man and a women have to be married to bear children is antiquated.
I need to work on that.
She did say SIL in her OP. So, not a total assumption on your part, other than the man thing.
Actually, she's my SIL, because she's Robin's sister. My sister isn't married. Ha! She doesn't even date. It's a common assumption though, SW2B. The majority of people are married and in a heterosexual relationship. Not really something to beat yourself up about.

Thank you, I feel better now!

I am still gonna try to work on it though. :-)

amelianguy · March 2011

SocialWorker2B:
amelianguy:
ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.
I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.
Good for you! This can be soooo damaging to a child!
I have a lot of food issues as an adult now from this happening to me as a child/teen, etc.

Me too. I can remember being like 8 or 9 and my mom yelling at me for eating an apple. She told me I ate too much and needed to stop or I would get fat. Hello, bulimia!

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

amelianguy:
SocialWorker2B:
amelianguy:
ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.
I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.
Good for you! This can be soooo damaging to a child!
I have a lot of food issues as an adult now from this happening to me as a child/teen, etc.
Me too. I can remember being like 8 or 9 and my mom yelling at me for eating an apple. She told me I ate too much and needed to stop or I would get fat. Hello, bulimia!

Wow, that's horrible. I'm sorry. :-(

At least you were eating an apple, I was eating veggie bagels, lol!

amelianguy · March 2011

SocialWorker2B:
amelianguy:
SocialWorker2B:
amelianguy:
ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.
I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.
Good for you! This can be soooo damaging to a child!
I have a lot of food issues as an adult now from this happening to me as a child/teen, etc.
Me too. I can remember being like 8 or 9 and my mom yelling at me for eating an apple. She told me I ate too much and needed to stop or I would get fat. Hello, bulimia!
Wow, that's horrible. I'm sorry. :-(
At least you were eating an apple, I was eating veggie bagels, lol!

it's okay, thanks. It's something I still struggle with, but having Ellie has made me determined not only to teach her to have a healthy relationship with food, but to teach myself to have one as well.

Mmm, bagels. LOL. I've always been a fruit and veggie eater, though. Nom nom nom.

SMorriso · March 2011

amelianguy:
Me too. I can remember being like 8 or 9 and my mom yelling at me for eating an apple. She told me I ate too much and needed to stop or I would get fat. Hello, bulimia!

My dad was one of the worst for this type of behavior. I didn't really suffer from any eating disorders, thank God. He did some things and said some things that were like tattoo words. They're permanent no matter how much time passes and fades them.

SocialWorker2B · March 2011

amelianguy:
SocialWorker2B:
amelianguy:
SocialWorker2B:
amelianguy:
ChristinaDawn:
lneuner09:
Diamond_Doll:
I also judge people who let their kids being extremely picky eaters. A little pickyness is understandable, but some family friends let their child subsist on peanut butter and vanilla pudding for 5 years (not exaggerating). SIL's daughter is 9. I've never seen her eat anything that wasn't white or yellow. Ever. When we go to the beach for a week and all cook, she eats cereal and maybe a roll.
ooooh yes! Good one. There is no such thing as a picky eater. That only means that there are pushover parents who don't know how to say "nope, this is what's for dinner."

This. All of this. I totally 100% agree. Nothing bugs me more than a mom who will only feed her child mac & cheese, hot dogs and chicken nuggets because he doesn't like anything else. My mom made us at least try a bite of everything, we didn't have to like it but we had to try it. She was really good at introducing us to a wide variety of foods and I think this was great because I liked a wide variety of foods at a young age.
I am using this strategy with Ellie. I am desperate (desperate!) for her not to turn out like her father. When I met Guy, he literally only ate chicken strips and fries from fast food places. His mother does not cook at all (literally, if you go to her house the only thing in her fridge is condiments and bottled water) and he ate fast food 3 times a day as a child. And we wonder why he has a weight problem.... anyway, so I really want Ellie to learn good, healthy eating habits. I want her to eat well and I don't ever want her to feel guilty for eating (which is a problem I had a lot as a child and teenager.)

Also, I have a friend who feeds her 22 month old nothing but cut up hot dogs (hello, choking hazard!), fries, chicken nuggets, and goldfish crackers. This will not be happening at my house.
Good for you! This can be soooo damaging to a child!
I have a lot of food issues as an adult now from this happening to me as a child/teen, etc.
Me too. I can remember being like 8 or 9 and my mom yelling at me for eating an apple. She told me I ate too much and needed to stop or I would get fat. Hello, bulimia!
Wow, that's horrible. I'm sorry. :-(
At least you were eating an apple, I was eating veggie bagels, lol!
it's okay, thanks. It's something I still struggle with, but having Ellie has made me determined not only to teach her to have a healthy relationship with food, but to teach myself to have one as well.

Mmm, bagels. LOL. I've always been a fruit and veggie eater, though. Nom nom nom.

Good! Yeah, even if you teach her to have a healthy relationship with food, if you don't - it won't do any good. So, it's good that you realize that. :-)

Hmmm, bagels. Yeah, they're good. Veggie and everything bagels are my favorite with either veggie or chive cream cheese. I think I'm gonna have a bagel now! :-)

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