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Are your rings soldered together?
A post on Married Life asked about this. The consensus from many posters is that is it "tacky" and from the 1970s... 
Mine are soldered together and I think there is nothing tacky or 1970's about it...
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Re: Are your rings soldered together?
I don't, but then I only wear my wedding ring.
If I wore both a wedding and engagement ring together all the time, I would have them soldered them for sure.
Until the last few years, I didn't know that people would wear 2 rings and not have them soldered together. I guess I don't check other peoples' rings all that closely. My mom has hers soldered together, and I thought that's what everyone did. Then again, maybe that's a sign that it was a 1970's trend - my parents were married in '73 :-)
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It would drive me nuts if my rings spun independently. I like the center stone centered on the band. Maybe I'm a bit OCD about it... :-)
I picked my wedding band because it lays flush with my e-ring and there are no weird gaps. Weird gaps bug me. I also don't like when people's rings slip on their finger and you can see finger skin between the rings.
Hmm....so yeah, it's quite possible I'm just a weirdo about this!
Regardless, I like it for me. :-)
I ended up buying a separate thin white gold band that I wear when I don't feel like wearing my set (like at the cabin during the summer...or on vacation like you did.)
Thanks for saying that....that was my grand master plan. :-)
The peeps on ML made it sound "wrong". For some reason I feel like a little kid who stomps their foot and says, "But....but.....!" :-)
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My bff's little sister has a bunch of wedding rings that stack and are all different styles & metals even. It's unique but I love it. I don't think any of hers are soldered and in that case it doesn't bug me.
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that's super cool.
to answer your question, my rings are not soldered and i don't want them to be. sometimes i only wear my wedding ring when we ride the motorcycle because my setting gets caught on my gloves. not comfy.
Mine are not. My rings are different metals (one is platinum, one is white gold), plus they don't fit together exactly, so soldering would be weird.
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My ring is very similar to your ring and mine aren't soldered together. But it isn't because I think it is tacky, it is simply because I like to wear my wedding band alone without my engagement ring sometimes. It does bother me on occasion that my diamond isn't perfectly centered above my band, but a majority of the time I don't notice.
I have 3 rings...
My e-ring, and two pave setting bands (1 on either side of the e-ring). There is no way in heck I would want 3 rings spinning around on my finger. They're all soldered together.
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I saw that thread, and I thought it was strange too... I always thought the solder/not solder debate was a matter of personal preference, not a matter of "tackiness". But what do we know--living in the Midwest and all :P
My rings are not soldered, and I never had any interest in soldering them together. I like the versatility of keeping them separate, and like a pp said--I actually kind of enjoy lining them up and fussing with them. They stay lined up pretty well on their own, but I like playing with them
It never would have occured to me to judge someone for soldering their rings though...
Mine are not currently but I likely will get them soldered at some point. Mine tend to spin in opposite directions - odd huh? I have 6 small diamonds across the top of my wedding band and a 3 stone engagement ring. I'm concerned that over time the prongs of the wedding band (which I don't have warranty for because I got it at a going out of business sale for an insane deal) will rub up against my e-ring enough to break and I'll be out the cost of replacing the diamond(s) and re-setting them.
My e-ring is sorta oval in profile if that makes sense, and my wedding band is very much round - I don't want the wedding band bent to fit nicely along the side of my e-ring because I don't like how that looks which is why I didn't get the band designed to go with my e-ring - so they'll have to probably just solder the very bottom third or so.
My rings are soldered together. I didn't want them to be originally - I wanted to be able to just wear my wedding ring for certain activities - like riding on the motorcycle - but in the end I hated when they spun around and weren't lined up, so I had them soldered together. Joe and I shopped for my e-ring and wedding ring together, and we specifically looked for a style that the rings would sit flush together - soldered or not. My rings are platinum, the engagement ring is an asscher cut solitaire with 5 small pave-set round diamonds on each side, and my wedding ring is 13 small pave-set round diamonds, same thickness. I love how they look soldered and am glad that we decided to do that. Having them be on but not lined up was driving me crazy!
I did end up getting a cheap white gold band that I can wear when working in the garden, on the motorcycle, etc. I hardly ever wear it though.. I'll just go without a ring if I don't want to risk damaging/dirtying my diamond ring. Should have saved the money on that one, even though it didn't cost much!
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another vote for no.
Mine spin around quite frequently and it doesn't really bug me. Actually, I kinda like when they spin and for whatever reason when I'm looking at the palm of my hand, I like seeing my wedding band's diamonds on the other side of my hand.
I like having the option to just wear just my wedding band if I choose. Although, I haven't chosen to do that for any reason yet...lol.
Not soldered. I am a nurse so I usually (if I remember) just wear my band to work...its a germy breeding ground with my e-ring. I, too, kinda like the habit of turning them back together. It's all what you get used to.
I want a third band to go on the other side of my rings, and if I ever got that, two would be soldered and one independent. If that makes sense.
mine are not. I would LOVE to, but I was told that we would lose one diamond guarantee or the other if I did. The rings are from 2 different stores. But my band has 3 stones on the sides that surround the main diamond so it doesn't slide much at all.
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Mine are, I was OCD about having them line up. When we were shopping the salesman at Jared said that e-ring/wedding rings sets were out-dated. That's the route I went. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned altogether.
Interesting perspectives! It's funny that some of the reasons listed for not wanting to solder are some of the reasons why I DID. :-)
It's definitely a matter of personal preference....thanks to everyone for not making me feel "tacky"!!
mine are, but my wedding band has a little "V" that fits into the engagement ring. it would look funny if they rotated.
I have a really old band so I'd never solder it to anything. The other band is a super simple gold band and I've done enough traveling to semi-dangerous places that I love the idea that I can travel without "bling" but still mark that I'm married with the band.
It wouldn't occur to me to say it's tacky though to solder them together!
Mine are not soldered together, but I certainly don't think it looks tacky to do them. I probably won't solder mine together either, because I'm just lazy like that.
They don't slide around too much though anyway.
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Mine are not soldered together. I have a European Shank (flat bottom to my ring) that prevents them from spinning too much and they stay pretty much together (unless it's really cold out). I like to golf and when I do that I don't wear my engagement ring so I always wanted the option to just wear my band, otherwise I probably would have had them soldered together. I don't think it's tacky at all to have them soldered either! If I had a different style ring I might have had it soldered. I have lots of friends that have their soldered for some of the same reasons people have said here!
Mine is a set too, so it fits perfectly together, but it's a pretty basic ring. 13 pave stones on the wedding bad and 10 on the e-ring...however, you can't really tell if they rotate from each other and they are not centered.
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No soldering for me. It would be difficult considering my rings are different shapes/styles. The wedding band is pave' with 55 small diamonds over an arched band while the e-ring is a standard solitaire in a cathedral 4-prong setting with flatter edges.
They are both platinum and while the e-ring prongs are wearing a bit, I've been told that because it is platinum, the metal isn't "wearing off" - it is just sort of shifting. The prongs are pretty thick too, so I'm not too worried about it yet (but I may have the diamond reset in the future). My jeweller told me that the pave' diamonds in my wedding band actually become MORE secure over time because of the rubbing against the e-ring. Again - because it is platinum, the metal shifts and "hugs" the diamonds more.
I never considered having them soldered (even if they did match) because I like the versatility of one or the other or both. Plus, if/when I ever get pregnant/fat(ter)/old-and-swollen and they become tight, I know I can relieve some of the pressure by removing one. And like other people said, I like turning them around and playing with them!
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