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Re: Help, please: sick of bs pressure
I don't think it is relevant if he goes down on her or not. She doesn't want to do this for him. Period. She has put a good faith effort into it but his stuff tastes horrible. No one should feel pressured to do something they hate by someone who supposedly loves them.
I pretty much guarantee you that if you give into this he will raise the bar. It's not about the exact act, it's about control. There are many ways to get pleasure and to focus so much on one specific act is very weird.
Good luck to you.
Hunter made the best suggestion, she beat me to it.
Let him take it in his mouth and taste it.
Tell your H that you have a fantasy about having a hot makeout session immediately after he cvmms in your mouth. If he protest say "I never get to try anythign that I want to do". This should close the topic for discussion.
Yes!
I could see if she whined, complained and forced him to go down on her...but didn't reciprocate.
But....if a guy still WANTS to go down on you, knowing FULL WELL you don't want him to finish in your mouth, then that's his choice. I very very very rarely let my FI finish in my mouth. I actually have to be a little tipsy or drunk to be able to stand it without gagging. It's just the texture, really. He KNOWS this. Respects it. And enjoys the bonus when I do. However...he LOVES going down on me. He knows I would never make him. But he LIKES it. So I don't feel it's one-sided at all. He has decided he wants to continue doing what he enjoys. Like the OP...I *DO* do oral on him. So It's not like we don't do it.. He just finishes by switching to sex or me finishing with HJ.
So whoever was rude saying she is selfish if he goes down on her is way off.
My DH wants the same thing. He doesn't pressure me for it or get upset. I've let him do it twice. The first time was about a year ago. I hated it so much that I puked. He, then, realized that I probably wouldn't be doing it again. His c-m tastes disgusting. I've heard that it can taste differently based on his diet or medications. If he eats a lot of unhealthy foods it's going to tasted worse than if he eats a lot of fruits and veggies and healthy stuff.
I'm so sorry your H is being such a jerk about this
A suggestion I have is to maybe let him do it in the shower so you can spit it out, or puke if you need to, and get cleaned off quick.
lol at some of the other post. honestly if he really wants you to tell him to eat a bunch of fruit, it makes it taste a little better, also you can try it when you have had sex earlier that day so theres not at much.
if he goes straight to the back of your mouth itll make you gag, maybe have him do some on the middle of your tounge then swollow then open up again.
but he should respect the fact that you dont like to do it.
I'm sorry, but your H sounds like total ass. There's no way he should be pressuring you into something like this. He's especially chauvinistic with the whole "you're my wife" bit, like you need to do what he says because he owns you or something. I think this issue goes way beyond the actual swallowing part, so I would have a serious talk with him about why he feels you should be doing this, even though you clearly don't want to.
Also on the compromise part, tell him you'll let him cvm in your mouth the second that he eats a piece of your crap. Literally. Because if you find it that disgusting, then that's exactly what he's asking you to do...eye for an eye...
I agree with this... the taste of semen can change up a bit according to what he eats. I know pineapples and pineapple juice works with my H. Also something that works for me is keeping my mouth open so all of his c_m doesnt enter into my mouth i just let it fall and some men still finds this just as attractive as swallowing.