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Niners
So, I haven't really been hiding out. More so trying to gather my thoughts on what to say here.
I feel that there are a few subjects that I feel passionately about. My faith, and my stance on racial equality and cultural topics that go along with them. Also that red lipstick and a pair of great heels can be a girl's best friend.
For what I thought would be a unity horse issue, turned into a continual, deflecting, personal jabbing hot mess of a post.
ETA - I just realized there were two polls. I can't roll my eyes hard enough.
I just wanted to say that I'm passionate about certain things, as arguable as that might be, and I feel strongly enough to take a stand against it. That is all.
I am very sad that this board has become a place where people feel threatened by others so much so that they can't chime in to something that really should be a unity horse issue. The fact that there is so much intimidation that people feel like they'll get attacked by certain people, and they'd rather remain silent in order to avoid that says something horrible about the people on this board.
I started this post with every intention of it being my last as a Niner. Because while I do appreciate and care for a lot of people on here. I have celebrated, shared concern, love and support for all the women on this board at one point in time if not many occasions. I am still very happy for people here. I hope all of our lives are full and happy.
So, sincerely without any intention of seeming like a martyr, I honestly do not want to contribute to this board. Call it GBCNiners or whatever you will. I don't really care.
This is absurd and shameful. I don't want to be a part of it.
For those that have exciting times and events coming up, I will try to do my best to support you through facebook and other means. I really do appreciate the friendships I have here. I hope that you all understand that I'm just don't care do deal with it all anymore.
Zuma Zoom
Re: Niners
i totally understand that you are passionate about certain topics, and i applaud you for fighting for what you believe in. truly, i do. i think my main issue is that you are SO dedicated that at times, you are unable to see where others are coming from. but, we all get that way from time to time.
i do not apologize for what i said, because its my truthful opinion on the subject and how you handle things. but, i do apologize for joining in on the personal attack on you when it probably wasnt the best of places/times.
believe me, it hasnt been lost on me that you can't say anything nice to me, but i do honestly wish you the best if you do decide this isnt the place for you anymore.
Really sad because I enjoyed hearing a different point of view and I think it's necessary in life for ALL of us to challenge our own thinking and experience. To learn from another side of the equation.
I felt you added an important perspective, that many ladies here are too afraid to say themselves, for fear of basically what happened to you.
Really sad.
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Well, I guess the terrorists have won after all, huh? Hyperbolic? Perhaps, but that's what this amounts to.
I'm sad to see you go, Smo, but I am proud of what you wrote here. As usual, a class act. Too bad we can't say the same for the moron majority.
.... what is that supposed to mean?
updated 10.03.12
I just call it as I see it. Keeping it real.
This basically took the words out of my mouth. I did apologize in the post below for the mocky post, but I stand by my posts expressing my annoyance in the way you handle things and "speak" to people. Like I said in one of my posts below, I may have picked a bad topic to speak out on, but my feelings toward you remain the same. Mary took down the polls before I saw them so i don't know what the subject matter was and therefore can't speak to them.
so just because I don't agree with Smo means I'm a moron?
Seriously....
updated 10.03.12
I am actually going to post this and be done. I don't need people to run off and spout off crap about me being against gay marriage and that I discriminate against it.
I finally just read, or skimmed rather, through that post, because what really could be worse than two polls about whether you're worth the air you breath? Nothing like that to get your Monday going huh?
To clarify, I think it is fully within someone's rights to get married to whomever they choose to love. I do not judge people or look down on them. It is my choice for me to live my life by my faith. What other people chose for their faith is completely up to them, and I will not put them lower because of it. Bottom line.
My point in bringing up gay marriage in Friday's post was simply to state that in other forms of discrimination are brought up on this board. They're disputed as being offensive and objectionable without so much trouble as what was brought on Friday and over the weekend.
Zuma Zoom
I don't know what else to add, but the polls were utterly ridiculous.
Like Riss, I felt that your POV was important, and it's sad to see what happened to you when you spoke up.
Okay, I feel like I should say something now since my name has been brought up.
Smo, if you feel like you should take time off from the board, that's your choice. Sometimes it can be helpful to step away for a while. I will say that I am sorry that the post got so out of hand. I didn't mean for my post to start such a horrible thread.
However, this weekend I was called some of the most terrible things. No one has ever torn me down the way I was torn down in that post. Maybe not by you, but by others. And my friends that came to my aide shouldn't be labeled as "mean girls" for trying to stick up for their friend.
I can be a biitch. I'm not above admitting that. But I'm also not above admitting when I'm wrong. And I don't think it was wrong of me to try to defend myself.
Lastly, to anyone who didn't post in the thread because they were intimidated - don't be. The last thing I want is for someone to be afraid to talk to me. Say what you think and I'll say what I think. That's the beauty of a message board.
agree totally. i would much rather have someone speak up and say, "stees youre a b!tch" than be passive aggressive and say "there are mean girls" or "like those morons." if you are talking about me, say my name. if im being a biitch, ill admit it. people have called me names on here before and i can put it aside.
The means girls comment was for the polls. They were uncalled for and created for the sole purpose of hurting SMo, they had nothing to do with trying to stick up for you. I'm pretty sure we all know who does or does not get along with her, so saying that the creator of the poll was "just curious" is BS.
Agree.
updated 10.03.12
If you created the poll, then you're a biitch.
My mistake.
dont know if that was rhetorical or not, but i didnt. although clearly the answer that i chose is no secret.
Ah yes, because voting in a poll like that when you're going to choose an answer that will intentionally hurt someone is much better.
i didnt say it wasnt biitchy of me to vote, i just said i didnt create it but i did participate.
ive created polls before on who likes or dislikes SW2B, and whether we should vote her off of the board or not. that didnt get taken down by the nest gods or have nearly as much animosity surrounding it. so that should tell you something regarding the importance of your opinion on this board, Smo.
Honestly, if that poll was made about anyone else - me, for example - I really don't think y'all would be in this much of an uproar. Just saying.
updated 10.03.12
Smo (you not so Yankee Broad
), you know more often than not, we don't get along. That's obviously no secret. I did not have an opportunity to see these polls but another Niner informed me of what they were. I am disgusted and appalled that someone would create such drama.
I know I have straight out attacked you on the board before, and for that, I am sorry, if that has impacted your decision in anyway. Sometimes, I think you take what you're passionate for to the extreme, but I do as well, and I think that's where we've had our issues.
You have to do what you have to do to take care of yourself, but although I don't agree with a lot of what you say, you help keep this place interesting. I hope you come back someday.
ETA: Damn nest posting before I'm done!
Of course not.
But willfully creating and taking part in a poll that served no purpose other than to try to hurt someone was moronic.
This is exactly how I feel. We frequently disagree on a lot of things but that doesn't mean you don't have a right to be here. I would never say otherwise.
Stand up for something you believe in.
Yeah, but when nearly every time you post something, you're unfairly berated by a group of people - why would you want to be here? It's so hostile. No one is saying she doesn't have a right to be here, but they're certainly treating her like she might as well leave.
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