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  • I am so grateful that we have family who can babysit for us, it is really awesome! 

    But last night MIL put the babies in a walker?! They are 3 months. She put these towels around them to help hold them up. I told her they are still young for those earlier this week, but she went and bought them anyways and then used them last night while she was babysitting for us. I am mad because they are too small for that and annoyed because I don't think it's fair for her to be putting them in new toys before us. I am aware that last part was very whiny...but this is flame free :) 

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    I am so grateful that we have family who can babysit for us, it is really awesome! 

    But last night MIL put the babies in a walker?! They are 3 months. She put these towels around them to help hold them up. I told her they are still young for those earlier this week, but she went and bought them anyways and then used them last night while she was babysitting for us. I am mad because they are too small for that and annoyed because I don't think it's fair for her to be putting them in new toys before us. I am aware that last part was very whiny...but this is flame free :) 

    That would make me mad too! My MIL gave DD a paci twice behind my back when she was here (DD was 3 weeks old and I didn't want to give it to her yet. She really didn't need it then either!). She spit it out pretty quickly both times, but I am still mad to this day about it.

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  • I am totally milking the fact that I am pregnant to be lazy and eat whatever I want.  DH is wonderful about helping out with DD, rubbing my feet and helping out with household chores and errands.  I look at it this way, this is my last time ever being pregnant so I am going to pamper myself :-)
  • If I see one more person on FB post the lyrics to "Born This Way" by Lady Gaga as their status update I'm going to vomit.  Blah Blah Blah I get it...you were "born that way"!!!

     

  • My friend (T) is having a very, very hard time with life right now.  T and her H have been served a truckload of bad news over the past 3-6 months.  Unfortunately, she lives far away and there's not much anyone can do to help - we can't cure cancer, we can't bring back the dead, we can't fix infertility and we can't just make jobs appear out of thin air.  But the one thing we COULD do was collect a few pennies to help cushion the expense of flying to see her dying mother, help pay rent, or whatever.  A mutual friend of ours and I rallied all of our mutual friends to contribute to the cause.  We've raised a nice wad of money for T and her H and Mutual Friend is mailing it out to her today or tomorrow.  I talk to T on a daily basis and this week has been a very bad one for her.  She keeps saying how she thinks our mutual friends hate her for being so depressed, what a bummer she has been and how she needs to cut out the world so that she's not burdening us with her woes.  I keep reassuring her that everyone loves her dearly, but words are not actions.  I think she will be FLOORED when she gets the check early next week.

    Not really a confession, but I am struggling to keep the secret.  Big time. 

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  • imagenicoleg1982:

    My friend (T) is having a very, very hard time with life right now.  T and her H have been served a truckload of bad news over the past 3-6 months.  Unfortunately, she lives far away and there's not much anyone can do to help - we can't cure cancer, we can't bring back the dead, we can't fix infertility and we can't just make jobs appear out of thin air.  But the one thing we COULD do was collect a few pennies to help cushion the expense of flying to see her dying mother, help pay rent, or whatever.  A mutual friend of ours and I rallied all of our mutual friends to contribute to the cause.  We've raised a nice wad of money for T and her H and Mutual Friend is mailing it out to her today or tomorrow.  I talk to T on a daily basis and this week has been a very bad one for her.  She keeps saying how she thinks our mutual friends hate her for being so depressed, what a bummer she has been and how she needs to cut out the world so that she's not burdening us with her woes.  I keep reassuring her that everyone loves her dearly, but words are not actions.  I think she will be FLOORED when she gets the check early next week.

    Not really a confession, but I am struggling to keep the secret.  Big time. 

     

    It sounds like you have a pretty incredible group of friends! 

  • imageblossomtg85:

    I am so grateful that we have family who can babysit for us, it is really awesome! 

    But last night MIL put the babies in a walker?! They are 3 months. She put these towels around them to help hold them up. I told her they are still young for those earlier this week, but she went and bought them anyways and then used them last night while she was babysitting for us. I am mad because they are too small for that and annoyed because I don't think it's fair for her to be putting them in new toys before us. I am aware that last part was very whiny...but this is flame free :) 

    Yeah, that would make me a little upset as well.  My MIL is the same way though.  Whenever she watches Q she rarely puts him to bed at all.  She always says "He didn't want to go to bed."  Uhhhhh, he's 3!!! He doesn't make the decisions.  Oh well, at least I don't have to pay her for that nonsense.

    Nicole - what an awesome group of friends you have.  I hope this helps out your friend and boosts her spirits.

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    imagenicoleg1982:

    My friend (T) is having a very, very hard time with life right now.  T and her H have been served a truckload of bad news over the past 3-6 months.  Unfortunately, she lives far away and there's not much anyone can do to help - we can't cure cancer, we can't bring back the dead, we can't fix infertility and we can't just make jobs appear out of thin air.  But the one thing we COULD do was collect a few pennies to help cushion the expense of flying to see her dying mother, help pay rent, or whatever.  A mutual friend of ours and I rallied all of our mutual friends to contribute to the cause.  We've raised a nice wad of money for T and her H and Mutual Friend is mailing it out to her today or tomorrow.  I talk to T on a daily basis and this week has been a very bad one for her.  She keeps saying how she thinks our mutual friends hate her for being so depressed, what a bummer she has been and how she needs to cut out the world so that she's not burdening us with her woes.  I keep reassuring her that everyone loves her dearly, but words are not actions.  I think she will be FLOORED when she gets the check early next week.

    Not really a confession, but I am struggling to keep the secret.  Big time. 

     

    It sounds like you have a pretty incredible group of friends! 

     

    ditto! 

  • I have baby fever... Like bad, I want to get a puppy or something to calm it down. We don't really want kids, not now and most likely never but all you pregnant people and pulling on my maternal strings!

     

    Who needs a babysitter?? I seriously need some baby connection in my life! 

     

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  • Nicole, you are such an awesome friend.

    My FFFC is (like always) about STBXH. A$$hole calls me yesterday bragging about how he made $400 for a flood referral and all he had to do was make a 2 minute phone call. He then comes over to see DD and decides to stay the night on our couch. I get up this morning and he left me $20... REALLY $20 ??? he gets paid on Fridays and I know his check is around $500-600 and all that sorry bastard can leave for his daughter is $20.

    And my second confession... Im going to spend the night with the guy I have been dating since December :)

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    I have baby fever... Like bad, I want to get a puppy or something to calm it down. We don't really want kids, not now and most likely never but all you pregnant people and pulling on my maternal strings!

     

    Who needs a babysitter?? I seriously need some baby connection in my life! 

     

    Wha, wha, what?  Didn't your H get a vasectomy?  

  • H works all.the.time.  I feel like I've lost a best friend.  I'm an independent person, but I've had enough of doing everything by myself.  

     

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    H works all.the.time.  I feel like I've lost a best friend.  I'm an independent person, but I've had enough of doing everything by myself.  

     

    Want to meet me for a drink after work?  You could convince your H to come along, too.  ;) 

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    image*Mrs.CPH*:

    I have baby fever... Like bad, I want to get a puppy or something to calm it down. We don't really want kids, not now and most likely never but all you pregnant people and pulling on my maternal strings!

     

    Who needs a babysitter?? I seriously need some baby connection in my life! 

     

    Wha, wha, what?  Didn't your H get a vasectomy?  

    Yes and I'm very very thankful for that fact, If he wasn't fixed I'd probably be trying to get knocked up. :P 

  • I feel like I don't fit in anywhere. Almost everyone I know has, or is trying to get pregnant. yay for them, but I definitely don't understand that feeling of wanting to be pregnant, or having kids.

    I have two good friends that don't have any desire to have kids, and they both live 2 hrs away in the opposite direction and they aren't friends. Not bc they don't like each other but bc one is a friend from my child hood and another is a friend from when H & I lived in d-port.

    edit: Oh. and i'm also effing sick of being injured. I want to run. freakin' A, is that to much to ask.

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  • I want a baby so badly. We tried for a little while... quit bc we decided we wanted to save more $$$ so we will be "ready". I can't remember when I had my period last. I know it was after I got home from FL (sometime after March 27th). I am secretly crossing my fingers that I am KTFU. I didn't even celebrate Cinco De Mayo just in case. It is probably just late but a girl can hope.
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  • This maybe a little silly, but it's FFFC, right?!

    Our closest friend here is a guitar player for a local band.  Well a few years ago he was apart of a AWESOME band that we use to go and watch every weekend before we had Macy.  A few of the members moved away and the band broke up.  Well, today they are going to be having a reunion show and my H and I really, really want to go.  

    My H and I are having a problem finding a baby sitter so my H nicely suggested that I call my friend Nubia to see if she wanted to go with me and he would watch Macy.  I thought it was a good idea because I haven't really seen Nubia socially, only when she calls for me to babysit her 4 month old.  So, I called Nubia and the first thing she asks me is if I could watch her kid on Friday night so she could go out to the concert.  I told her no, but I am a little upset that we only talk when she needs a baby sitter.  We use to be super close and go out all the time and it bothers me that I am her go to person to watch her kid :(

    Can I have another FFFC?  Last month my friend Nubia called and asked if I could watch her daughter for two days because her baby sitter couldn't watch her daughter.  I said sure, and when I showed up early in the morning I discovered her daughter was sick.  Like REALLY sick.  She had the flu with a high fever.  I was a pissed she didn't tell me and knowingly put Macy in that environment to get sick too.  Thankfully Macy didn't catch anything but it was still bothersome.  Even a month later it bothers me.....

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  • imagemoonstone523:

    H works all.the.time.  I feel like I've lost a best friend.  I'm an independent person, but I've had enough of doing everything by myself.  

     

     

    Sigh. Mine too. I appreciate that I always get to have "Girls Night Outs" but I always feel awkward at birthdays and events where everyone is coupled off. I know I shouldn't but it sucks. I know he is cranky about missing out but neither of us have a choice. Suggestions!?

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  • I decided not to do marriage counseling. My heart just isn't in it anymore. I am however going to go to counseling for myself to help get through all this. I haven't really told H yet but he knows I have been feeling really depressed lately. I did tell him I was going to counseling and he asked me if it was our marriage that was bothering me. I just told him "I don't know. It does frustrate me. I just need to go to counseling to help me figure everything out." And he didn't respond.

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  • image*Mrs.CPH*:

    I have baby fever... Like bad, I want to get a puppy or something to calm it down. We don't really want kids, not now and most likely never but all you pregnant people and pulling on my maternal strings!

     

    Who needs a babysitter?? I seriously need some baby connection in my life! 

     

    whoa!!  

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  • My FFFC is baby related... funny cuz everything else in my life seems to be too.  Seriously like everything I do, I feel like I tell myself "well, it might be the last time you do it before you get KU".  I need to stop, we just started trying!  It could be months before I am KU!!!!  I just got an email about babies R us having a sale on baby furniture and I was like, maybe we should go look at it.  Um, NO!  You aren't pregnant!!!!  Also, I want to schedule a trip up north to see my friends, but I don't want to go during a time a might be ovulating, and I would really love to be KU by the time I go so I have just been putting it off.  I am crazy.
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  • imagemoonstone523:

    H works all.the.time.  I feel like I've lost a best friend.  I'm an independent person, but I've had enough of doing everything by myself.  

     

    This is me too (except scale down the independent part. I really wouldn't use that word to describe me). I'm insanely proud of H for getting the huge promotion he has spent the past 8 years working towards- but one day off a month sucks. He didn't even get to take a single day off for the first 2 weeks after the baby was born and instead has been working 60-70 hr weeks. I can not wait for their slow season, just so I have a husband around again.

     

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  • I'm also ready to have a baby like yesterday ready, we are actively trying and its only our 3rd cycle but H is even more obsessed about it than I am! I know our time will come but were just ready now!
    It also doesn't help that this weekend is Mother's day and  my EDD is quickly approaching it's hard to think I should be giving birth next monthI always feel like I have to be SO strong which is why I won't say anything I hate the pity looks and its just awkward.. I think ive dealt with it ok i'm sincerely thrilled for my friends and you nesties but lately ive just been in a funk ;(

     

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    I decided not to do marriage counseling. My heart just isn't in it anymore. I am however going to go to counseling for myself to help get through all this. I haven't really told H yet but he knows I have been feeling really depressed lately. I did tell him I was going to counseling and he asked me if it was our marriage that was bothering me. I just told him "I don't know. It does frustrate me. I just need to go to counseling to help me figure everything out." And he didn't respond.

    Good for you.

    As I was explaining to a friend, there comes a breaking point and (for me) it all hinges on hope.  If there is no hope and no motivation, nothing you do will help.  And if both people lack hope and motivation, it's pointless to keep trying.  Especially when going and being at home is the dark cloud hanging over your life.  When you get the point where you want to move on, naturally you channel your energy into being happy, healthy and providing the same for your child.  It's like night and day.

    If I had the room, I would invite you and A to come stay with us for a weekend of goofing off.  Sometimes you need to just not go home. 

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  • Wow, these are all great FFFC's.  I don't really have anything good except DH's sister is a mess and it really makes me sad.  Over the past 3 yrs it has gotten really bad and we've both deleted her from our facebooks.  I did it because it is just infuriating to see how badly she treats her mother who she is living with and torturing.  It makes me almost hate her and I don't want to feel that way.  We didn't see her for Thanksgiving or Christmas last year, and we haven't even told her about our BFP.   DH is sad deep down about it (they used to be so close) but he is not budging.  Until she changes something he is done.  Sigh.
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  • I have serious baby fever too. Our plan now it to start TTC in July on our anniv. trip, but I feel like it always ends up getting pushed back because of school,work, life etc. I also can't wait to be done with school because that is what has been holding up this whole getting PG, TTC for us. I have only three classes left and I finish the last one in Dec(I go only part time while working full time), I am really hoping I get KU by Fall since I will be so close to finishing college and that would be awesome!
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    I'm also ready to have a baby like yesterday ready, we are actively trying and its only our 3rd cycle but H is even more obsessed about it than I am! I know our time will come but were just ready now!
    It also doesn't help that this weekend is Mother's day and  my EDD is quickly approaching it's hard to think I should be giving birth next monthI always feel like I have to be SO strong which is why I won't say anything I hate the pity looks and its just awkward.. I think ive dealt with it ok i'm sincerely thrilled for my friends and you nesties but lately ive just been in a funk ;(

     

    I know what you mean!  My EDD was in August and I really thought I would be pregnant again by then, however I am losing hope that will happen.  Like you said, I am completely happy for people who are KU but I whenever I stop and notice all the pregnant people around me it makes me sad.  Not because I am not happy for them (that's NOT it at all) but because I am frustrated with my body :( 

    I just got back from the OB and I am going to take this month off from Clomid since I will be out of town during my potential O dates.  So the delay isn't helping my sprits either.  Patience is not my strong suit!

    GL to you! 

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    imagemoonstone523:

    H works all.the.time.  I feel like I've lost a best friend.  I'm an independent person, but I've had enough of doing everything by myself.  

     

     Sigh. Mine too. I appreciate that I always get to have "Girls Night Outs" but I always feel awkward at birthdays and events where everyone is coupled off. I know I shouldn't but it sucks. I know he is cranky about missing out but neither of us have a choice. Suggestions!?

    It doesn't help that if I drag my H to one of these events he is totally a ball of nerves because he is so stressed out.  

  • I'll add a couple more, mostly financial (and baby) related.

    1. I really want to have another baby.  I never wanted my kids to be this far apart in age.  Even if I got pregnant today, they would be almost 4 years between them.  But not having insurance and a decent place to live is stopping that.  Hopefully my new job will help us out with that, but its still not a ton of $$.  I know I should be thankful I have Q, and trust me I am, but I've always wanted more than 1, so having to wait and having no end date in sight sucks for now.

    2. I really miss IL, and I have no idea when I'll be able to go visit again.  I haven't been since I was 16 weeks pregnant with Q, so Sept 2007.  We can't afford to take trips and stuff, which is understandable, but I still consider that my home and I have so many friends there I haven't seen in almost 4 years.  None of them have met Q.  I'm hoping to go in Oct, but that's not a definite.  My family moved to TN after I moved here, so even going to see them is not going home.  Plus it irritates me when my grandma asks when I'm coming home...TN is NOT my home!

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