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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: list "Stuff People Without Kids Just Don't Get" here
There are so many things wrong with this post I am not sure where to begin. Many of the sentiments expressed below are the reasons why many moms left the board. Plain and simple.
I will say, that I view people "without children" to mean those who have never tired or never desired to have a child. Saying those without children can be completely insensitive to couples experiencing a journey unknown to many and full of heartache and mixed emotions. To want something so badly and have no control over it, is something no one should have to experience. To add to all those emotions, there are people out there who think having a child is something you wake up and decide one day and are pregnant the next. The same people, who feel they can judge and mock those who do actually have children.
I am most irritated by the comment about public tantrums. I am quite certain the idea that the child may have special needs is never considered. Special needs that make tantrums a dialy occurence, make outings stressful for the mom who is likely already on edge, and she is then faced to endure the stares and judgement of ignorant people on the sideline.
I am a fairly laid back mom and can certainly joke about my mistakes and things I have done. However, I fail to see the humor in women poking fun at others trying to the best they can in a situation that can never accurately be articulated through words or prose. You must live it. Then, you can joke about the most annoying things others do but you likely won't because you'll come to learn that parenting is the hardest job on the planet.
Thank you everyone for contributing to this post. It was really interesting to see so many different views brought to the table. It's always helpful to know what others are thinking and feeling about a certain topic. Even though the post didn't go exactly where I thought it would, I do think it's good to have open dialogue.
And, (although a little ironic) I think it's great that some of the same people who seemed to dislike that this particular post was even started, still contributed appropriately by sharing "stuff people without kids just don't get" in it. So thank you for that! I hope you guys all have a fabulous weekend!
Jerry Springer Final Thought: "Take care of yourself, and each other."
Yes, the public tantrums things ticked me off too (I actually posted in the other post about it). I've spent hours helping children with special needs and their parents navigate public tantrums; anyone who judges them is an a**hole.
ONE STAR
I've been away so I'm late to the party but...
1) add me to the "I've never seen this topic before" group
2) I sort of appreciate that this group has schooled me about 'annoying moms' so that I can try to avoid being one.
3) I'll share some of the changes that have surprised me about myself in the last 16 months...it was actually easy to do things with Q when he was really small (less than 6 months) and he was super portable and could nap anywhere. I said I'd make him sleep anywhere and wouldn't bend to his schedule and that he wouldn't need to sleep in a quiet dark room...but now I'll do just about anything to be sure he's home (in his dark quiet room) for naps and that he's home in time for bed.