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Can I give a little semi-craft related vent?
I can? Fabulous!
Okay, so I've got a friend who is having a baby shower/wedding shower this saturday. I've been working for almost 3 weeks on gifts because we can't afford the things on her registry. A made a diaper cake and I'm working on making a casserole dish carrier/warmer with her new last name etched into the dish.
Anyways, so she called to talk and asked what I was doing. "Oh, just finishing up your gift for your shower" And she says, "finishing it up? You mean like wrapping it?"
"No, finishing making it."
And she paused for a second. Then she says, "So you're not going to get us anything from our registry? That's why we made it, so people would know what to buy us."
"Well I hope you'll like this, too because I've worked really hard on it for you."
"Yea me too, because we can't return it if we don't." And then she laughed. I don't know if it was a just kidding laugh or what.
I didn't know what to say. So we made some small talk and then got off the phone.
I feel offended. How would you feel? I'm so tempted to just keep the casserole dish and carrier for myself.
Shy & Zeus
Re: Can I give a little semi-craft related vent?
Don't think to hard about it. I think your gifts sound very thoughtful. She is pregnant and while that isn't an excuse, I'd just ignore her.
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Thanks, but this isn't the first time she's done something like this. I wasn't even going to go but I like making things. Before I got married she called me a whore because I was getting married so young. Well, at least I'm not getting married being I'm KU.
I'll give her the BOTD and write this off to hormones.
Shy & Zeus
wow, she sounds lovely! Also, the bolded part was my first thought - hormones really only enhance things. I'm really sorry she said that, your gifts sound awesome
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I think that is incredibly rude! I don't think that can be blamed on hormones either, because well I'm the same situation and honestly would probably start crying at someone's thoughtfulness
If you'd prefer someone who would appreciate your gifts I'm engaged and knocked up too hehe:)
You seem like you'd be more grateful than she will.
I hope she cries at the sheer awesomeness of my crafting ability and for acting like a b*tch when she opens it at the shower.
Does that make me a bad person? hehe
ETA, random, but I have decided I do not like the smile emoticons on here. They have weird mouths...I don't trust 'em!
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Oh good grief. Get rid of her. Who needs friends like that? I'm sure you've got someone else in your life that would love the casserole carrier.
Well, take this for what it's worth...
I have 3 pregnant friends that I'm sewing for. I went all out for one of them (diaper bag, changing pad and 4 burp cloths). For the other 2, I made 4 burp cloths each, and everyone got a hand made card. Well, for 2 of them, I didn't know what the baby was, so for the set, I used Bliss by Moda (check it out, I'm obsessed with that line). For the other, the girl is still kind of childish herself (old high school friend) so I made everything in the Robert Kaufman Dr. Seuss line. Well, she kept saying how she DOESN'T WANT purple for the baby. She doesn't WANT this or that. Dont you DARE buy me this. And then she found out it was a girl and went off on a tirade abotu how much she hates pink and her daughter doesn't 'want' any pink things.
Well, even though I didn't make any of those colors I was so put off that I'm sending all her stuff to the other two girls. ::hmph:
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You don't need her as a friend. Sounds like she is a little gift greedy. Even if I wasn't into crafts and liked handmade stuff I would still appreciate a gift like that because it came from your heart and you spent time on it.
I know we have our moments being PG (and even not PG) but I am not writing her comments off to hormones because that is just a mean thing to say.
She does sound like a toxic friend and I wouldn't want that around me.
I hope when she opens it and every ooh and ahh over it that she will feel like a total jerk because of what she said.
What a BIA!!! It sounds like she is just a materialistic greety person! Something that is made takes A LOT more time and effort than something that is bought. I bet she was totally serious with the "we can't return it comment" the laughing was added to make it sound not as harsh.
I would be very offended. I'd be tempted to change my RSVP for the shower and say that I won't be able to make it!
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Wow. What a brat.
I would drop that girl like a bad habit and fast.
That was *incredibly* rude of her. Seriously.
I am fuming for you.
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If you go (personally, I wouldn't at this point), when she opens your gifts you should make a big deal about how you MADE the gifts. She sounds like a treat.
Isn't getting married the complete opposite of being a wh0re?
I get that she's KU and getting married, but having a baby/bridal shower? I'm sure she expects everyone to buy her a gift from each registry.. and generous gifts at that. Is she going to boo-hoo and complain if someone shows up with one gift? I know I couldn't afford to buy two nice gifts and then be expected to buy her a wedding gift as well.
I'm seething for you. I can't even come up with a decent response.
Are you done with the second gift? Because I wouldn't finish it unless you had someone else to give it to. Give her the one you're done with and then be done with her!
LMAO. That's hilarious!
I'm not super close with her. We were good friends in high school, but I haven't seen her since then. Maybe one time? I don't know.
This may be flameful, but you know how people have those fb friends that they're friends with just to watch the crazy happen? Well, I've got a feeling that will be happening. She met the guy at a party, hooked up with him, found out he got her pregnant and now they're getting married. Honestly, we don't talk that much. I think she just called because she was bored.
I'm mostly making the gifts because we can't afford anything on her registries (yes, she wants a gift from all of them!) and I remember how nice it was to get something handmade. We got a quilt and I love it. And though this is different, I'm hoping it will be appreciated.
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LMAO! I want to "like" this x1000.
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Surprisingly, no. Her mom is throwing it. I almost didn't go for that fact, too. She got married like two weeks ago. She should have had the shower before.
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Man...all the good stuff happens when I go back to work!
Ok, this chick needs to be put out like the garbage she is! She isn't a friend and she is a disgustingly rude person. Personally, I wouldn't give her a darn thing. I certainly wouldn't go to her shower and I would either enjoy the gifts myself or save them for someone who will appreciate them. Whatever you do, DO NOT give them to her. She will probably throw them away or donate them if she is as catty and obnoxious as she sounds.
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