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Re: FI mad that I won't do one thing
your bf sounds like a 5 year old douche and you sound like a child yourself. certainly not mature enough to get married. He is manipulating you using sex and you are so desperate that you are doing things you are ready to do sexually just to keep him.
do somethng that would show how mature you are and dtmf. you both are way too young to get married and the proof is in your post.
Others have pretty much covered it, but honestly this guy sounds like a sexually abusive, manipulative, douche-bag tool of a man. I doubt his abuse will end here and it will only get worse.
NO ONE SHOULD FORCE YOU TO DO ANYTHING YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH IN OR OUT OF THE BEDROOM.
Period. End of story. & yes, it requires yelling.
Bail on the engagement now. You won't be sorry and you deserve better. Now you just have to believe it.
People have already warned you about the red flags with this guy, but I think you are blind and have such a history with him you fear breaking up. He does understand you think he is your world, so therefore he has decided this gives him the power. The demanding, the pouting, the threats, and the cruelty of his actions is disgusting. This is not going to end once you give in again, he just takes it a step further. Please, believe the women on this board who tell you that this guy is a true case of DTMF.
You stood up for yourself and good for you!! Keep it up. Perhaps, you can be strong and tell him it is over. Your life will be so much better. Don't waste another minute.
You shouldn't have to do anything you're not comfortable with sexually in your relationship.
I'm sorry to be a pain but there are giant warning signs here that this is nto a good person for you to spend your life with. 1) that he won't talk to you when he gets mad, only texts. 2) That he tries to emotionally blackmail you by saying you shoudl do things you're sexually uncomfortable with if you loved him. 3) The fact that is supposedly sexually bored with your relationship even though you're only 21 and 22. You can do better than this, at the very least get pre marital counseling.
You should also get into individual counseling to figure out why it is that you allow yourself to be made to feel so crummy and to be put into these situations. Marriage is more than needing to be with someone, lust, or even love. Its about mutual respect and support. The issue here is not your ages, it really is 100% the way he treats you. I think the reason you're willing to put up with it is b.c. you're inexperienced when it comes to dating and don't understand that you can do better than to be made to feel so insecure and so desperate for another person's approval. And I say that as someone who has been with her DH since she was 18.