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Re: crazy dilemma
That was hard to read... point taken. This may be the most concise and poignant thing on here. I can't believe I didn't see it. (and no, I'm truly not being sarcastic) This is why I love these boards. No one can tell me like it is like a true outside person. Ugh. Yes, I am falling right back into the same pattern. Ew.
HE is crazy if he is hopping on her crazy train. YOU are crazy if you think he is justified in breaking up with you and/or sleeping with the ex.
Seriously. If he was really ill at the thought of this HE WOULD NOT BE DOING IT.
It's really not fair for me to answer this question. You can see why I need to protect people's privacy.
Hold the phone!
You are a psychologist and you think that this is acceptable behavior from this man? I don't know exactly what you do, but what if a client came to you with this 'crazy dilemma'?
You aren't divorced yet but have stars in your eyes over a guy you met 6 weeks ago, who has a psychopathic ex-GF and is planning a fake get together with her which may or may not include a charity f*ck so that he can possibly maybe see his child again while hoping that he doesn't get her pregnant.
Here's an idea: RUN LIKE HELL.
He doesn't have to put you first, especially over his child. You aren't his GF. He JUST MET you 6 weeks ago. You sound as psycho as the ex-GF.
Yeah, I can't believe you're a psychologist. Are you in counseling??
Oh, I think a break from dating would do you a WORLD of good.
Oh yes, indeedy.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Ouch... I've known him for longer than I've been dating him. He's a friend's roommate. But still. psycho? ok...
I get it... this is a bad idea. Can't a person be in a bad place and feel really good when someone makes her laugh again? That's where I've been. I never said it was a brilliant idea. But it sure as shiit felt amazing, and I'm really going to miss him.
People that do hardcore drugs like heroin will say it feels amazing BUT IT STILL A REALLY FVCKING STOOPID TO DO THE DRUGS.
LEAVING ASIDE the entire f*cked-up-edness of the ex-girlfriend, do you really want to be involved with a man who voluntarily signs himself up for several rounds of 18-year child support and contact with this woman?
This is fully ridiculous. If you can't see how dumb and Jerry Springer this entire thing is, then you deserve each other.
Updated September 2012.
Just no. I would never be okay with this crazy. The fact that he's going along with it would be the nail in the coffin for me. You can do so much better than this.
I also agree that he's not thinking clearly here either. Please do not hang around for this man. He's got years and years of dealing with his ex. You're facing a lifetime of disappointments with him in regards to his child and the BSC ex.
Move on.
Do you think it is possible that it felt so amazing simply because you were hurting so much. Two months ago you were on here talking about how much you missed your exH. Two weeks later you started to date this guy.
Do you think that if you weren't coming from a place of loneliness and heartache and instead a place of happiness and confidence that you would have even given this guy a second look.
Your BS meter is broken. Dude should NOT sleep with a woman he believes to be crazy. I'm just flabbergasted that this is even a question! The fact he would even CONSIDER sleeping with her is like a sky full of red flags. Move on. Go to counseling, be alone, and get your life in order.
Add me to the list of those that are shocked that you are a psychologist.
It was only two months ago (8/14 to be exact) that you were posting about your H and how badly you wanted to work things out. You were desperate to keep him even though he was clearly done with you and you started dating this guy two weeks later?!?!? How on earth did you make that jump?
You need to take a serious break from men and dating completely. Figure out how to be happy with yourself and why you are so desperate to be in a relationship that you'll put up with anything, including a husband that strings you along while he starts a relationship with someone else and a BF that asks you to wait for him while he bangs the ex.
I would cut off all contact with this guy and swear off dating for a solid year.
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