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Ahhhhh I see the 17 year old (Joyce + Paul) who's getting married DD

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Re: Ahhhhh I see the 17 year old (Joyce + Paul) who's getting married DD

  • I don't understand this insane rush to get married at that age... I met my now husband when I was 17 and fell madly in love, but instead of ruining my life and marrying him I went to college and married him 7 years later after our relationship stood the test of time. I knew I'd marry him one day, and that it would be worth the wait.

    I know in most cases kids rush into marriage due to religion and waiting to have sex but really, if you marry for sex it's not going to be very good anyway. Or even if it is, it's going to suck down the road when reality hits and you have no education, no money, and no means to improve your situation. But I really don't understand these scenarios where they're not waiting and yet they still are getting married...

  • imagemmw&lmd:

    imageJoyce+Paul:
    Thank you very much. No one explained how it worked to me. This really helps. I can take care of us both if I had to, and in fact I already am. So we will be fine in that area. I have no idea what a noncom is. Yes there is hardly any support in getting married young. It isnt anyones choice but ours and we are very happy with it. We have our parents and his grand parents support and a few others and thats all we need. P.s I'll be 18 when we get married. I am more mature then most adults so is he. If I didnt think we could handle it we wouldnt be doing it. Thank you for your advice. Have a great day ladies:)

    I wish you the best, really, but I can't urge you enough to reconsider.   What's the hurry to get married?  If you know you can support each other and will be together forever and live happily ever after in your glass slippers, why can't you wait until you're older to get married?  Did you know that you don't fully mature until you're 25.  Twenty-five. You're seventeen.  You have EIGHT YEARS of change ahead of you.  Buckle down and go to school.  Get a degree.  If it's meant to be, you'll still be together by then!  Honestly... I thought I was in love, more mature than girls my age, and I was going to marry the guy I was dating at 17.  If I had ... holy crap.  That would have been a disaster.

    I'm 23 and am 4 classes away from getting my degree. Been in a relationship with my H for almost 4 years. Let the girl do what she wants. You don't have to be her mom. Honestly. I wish I never went to school. I think the experience was nice to have, and I did grow in some way. I make AWESOME money now, the only problem is that I don't have mommy to help me pay back my student loans... like other people. I pay for everything MYSELF. If I didn't go to school I wouldn't have 400 worth of debt every month for something I don't want to do. People can be happy with themselves in just different ways than just "go to school.. get a degree... you will be so much better off... blah blah blah." Actually, in my shoes... I would be better off not having to pay back student loans.. and for the next uggghhh... 20 years. haha.   

    BUT... 17 is really young. I didn't even know who I was back then. Whatever makes you happy though. You make your own bed. 

    m/c on Dec. 30th 5w 5 days We will try and try again until we succeed. i love you.
  • LOL. Dang... that's a hostile statement.

    Everyone goes through rough patches. I am a newlywed but have been with my H for almost 4 years and have lived together for almost 3!!!

    Life is what you make of it, and so is your relationship. Not saying it's not going to get hard. I KNOW it does... a lot has sh!t on my yard but my marriage is still AWESOME.  It's all about who you pick to be honest. 

    m/c on Dec. 30th 5w 5 days We will try and try again until we succeed. i love you.
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