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Re: lenght of marriage?
Together total: six years, give or take
Married: 3.5 years (when we separated)
How long was it a good marriage? At the time I would've said up until the last year, but if I am being totally honest, never. Zero communication. We had nothing to talk about and probably NEVER had a deep conversation. We fought often, at least once a week and things always got blown out of proportion. I couldn't say what was really on my mind for fear of the fallout. He was emotionally and verbally abusive and incredibly manipulative. And that was during the good times. The bad times were truly horrible and without a doubt the worst time in my life. The abuse escalated and he was blatantly cheating on me, and I found out later that he was abusing drugs.
How long were you "together": 10 years, some of it off and on while dating
How long were you married?: 2 weeks shy of 4 years
How long was it a good marriage?: it really wasn't, i can't say i really enjoyed being married at all, as soon as he moved in i felt like i was in a cage. it wasn't horrible, but it was't happy and i knew before i got married that it was a mistake, which i did anyway because it was a destination wedding and people had non-refundable tickets and stays at the resort.
6 years, 5 years at time of official divorce, I thought the marriage was good all the way until he told me he wanted the divorce in July of this year.
This is me:
How long were you "together"? 4 years
How long were you married? still married, legally - but actual marriage lasted 8.5 months
How long was it a good marriage? 2.5 months
How long were you "together" We were together 2 years
How long were you married? we were married 1 year when he walked out and divorced at 4 years
How long was it a good marriage? I don't think it was ever really good. I was so in love with him I couldn't see the red flags, tell he was abusing me or that he was cheating which had gone on since I met him.
6 yrs before getting married
5 years married
maybe 3 months.
15 years total
Married 8 years
It was a good marriage for about a good five years, then he started to shop out of control. Then, we bought a house, I thought that would stop the shopping and it didn't, it only got worse. Then the abuse began when he felt like I was trying to control him.