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Re: Sex is horrible, please help me!
Yeah. I hear you on that one.
My H has a hard time controlling himself too, but honestly.. it doesn't bother me.
I know that the more we have sex, the longer it will last the next time for us. It's like a game... I am very sensitive to how our sex life works and I try not to let it bother our relationship.
I know the reason he goes so fast... is because I'm freaking hot! and he loves me. haha. that's why it doesn't bother me.
I am going through the same thing! My husband means everything to me and we have the most amazing relationship...he is absolutely my best friend! But I am so frustrated when it comes to sex it pretty much makes me avoid it.We work opposite shifts so we see each other for lunch and on weekends, trying to have sex often is not really possible! He will *** within 2-3 minutes and leave me frustrated! I don't like foreplay that much and don't want to be pleased first.
I have had many partners before him and have never had this issue!! I know it makes him feel awful and that is the last thing I want! I can't even talk about it with him because he gets upset. If I were to bring up any alternatives like going to the doctor or looking into natural options I know it would kill him - I've done it before and it really does deeply hurt his feelings no matter how gently I put it.
I dont know what else to do and am so scared that it will really affect our marriage in the future. I've read this whole conversation and haven't seen any suggestions that I feel would work - especially given how sensitive he is about this.
Has anybody been through this and solved it without hurting his feelings? Again, things like doctors appointments and anything he would need to change would have to be EXTREMELY gently put!
Sounds like you two have a busy schedule. Are you trying to get it in at bedtime? I know the schedule isn't conducive to this, but try during the middle of the day. As a man, I know if my wife and I wait until 11:00PM after we are both exhausted from the day, I don't last nearly as long as I can if we have some afternoon delight. It sounds simple, but it just might be the key here.
This may sound counter intuitive as well, but have your H try and get off frequently. As the advice above posts, the more frequent sex occurs the longer he may last -whether this is by himself or with a little help from you.