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Is there an age where you side eye someone for....?
Is there an age where you would side eye someone for never being married? I don't know when the exact age is, but at some point it seems odd to me to not settle down. Maybe I am too judgemental and some people truly are okay being alone.
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This! I recently had a girl that I used to work with who married someone online - never met until their wedding day - just because "She felt like it was time." Two months later, they are letting their divorce lawyers fight it out. Oy vey.
True. I didn't mean being in one relationship long term either. I guess it is still better to switch relationships a lot than get married just for the sake of getting married.
No, not at all. I know a number of people who aren't married and don't know if they ever will. Thinking of one friend in particular - she woudl like to meet someone and get married, and have kids. But she isn't going to settle just to make that happen. She also have a very full life w/ friends and family and finds fullfillment in that.
Not everyone has the luck of finding the right person. I can judge w/ the best of them, but I find this a really odd thing to judge a person over.
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No, it took my H 45 years to get married, thank god i didnt side eye him!!
I actually have more respect for them then I do the 20 yr old brides.
That goes for both sexes.
Being unmarried doesn't mean the person is alone -- maybe the person's actively dating and dating a lot; maybe the person is "alone" but not lonely. Maybe they are single and looking and they don't like the selection, but in the meanwhile, they're active in other things and do lots of activities with friends.
Nope.
It's better to wait until you find the right person then get married to the first guy who comes your way.
No judgement from me.
LOL!
Crap. Hi there, dearest grandmother. I didn't know we posted on the same forum.
Oh please, you're a moron. How about being single period? Do you seriously think life is only about being in an intimate relationship?
Who I side eye:
A single JERK.
Example: Jerk is seeing 3 or 4 different women; the women don't know about each other.
He's got a history of getting caught; the last time he did, forget it: hurt feelings and worse.
I don't get this whole "player" thing -- I think it's sick and cruel.
Want to date casually? Fine --- make sure you tell the women up front "I do not wish to have a serious relationship; I am casually dating a number of women" and let them decide from there if it's yes to this guy or no.
I don't want to hear "oh this is the thrill of the chase" -- again, this is sick and cruel and you're only going to wind up hurting somebody and badly. It's only a matter of time.
THis person is NOT a young man -- this is somebody who should know better and be a bit kinder to people.
I know someone like this. He is married and they have 7 children between the two of them. She recently found out about one of his affairs and somehow he managed to turn it around on her and now she is begging for him to come back.
I don't think all people are meant to be in a marriage. I have more respect for someone that recognizes that and doesn't get married than someone who enters a marriage that they shouldn't be in.
Bad news...and yeah, you're right: there are some people who should noit marry.
Tough for the wife, tougher for the kids. Ugh...what a great dad and great H.
Absolutely not. Some people aren't interested marriage. Some people aren't interested in monogamy at all, so maybe they aren't even in a long-term relationship. I have a hell of a lot more respect for them for knowing that and doing what makes them happy instead of just conforming to society's norms because they feel like they'll be side-eyed otherwise.
I could say that for most things, though.
I side-eye the hell out of women who think if they aren't married by some arbitrary age, say 25, that they've lost at life. Many girls in my HS class were like this. At our 10-year reunion they were stuck with kids in miserable marriages to their HS or college sweethearts because goddammit, they were gonna be married absolutely no later than age 25 and squeezing out kids absolutely no later than age 26 if it was the last thing they did. At our 20-year reunion the majority of them were divorced or in the process.
So yeah, as a PP mentioned, I side-eye anybody who will settle for whoever happens to be there just because they're worried about what other people think. And yes, I'm side-eyeing the hell out of you right now for having this ridiculous opinion that there's a certain age other people should be married by in order to earn your respect.
haha single jerks. lol!
i would add to that and say single weirdos that live in their moms basements and play WoW and second life and crap like that.
or sometimes they're just serial killers. who knows. i just get a really bad feeling about old dudes that live in their moms basements.
So, Julie, I didn't date at all from age 24 to 36. I've never been married. I went out on a few dates, but they didn't get past the first date. I never felt lonely or alone or like my life wasn't fulfilled because I wasn't married or in a serious relationship (of course I had moments where I wished that I had someone around, but I got over it pretty quick...just like some married people wish they were single sometimes).
I had my son, friends and family to fill my time and I actually enjoyed being single.
I guess you would be giving me the hard side eye because I fall into your category of loser.
I like my loser life, than you very much.
I don't side eye anyone who has not been married or has no interest in marriage. I also don't think it's weird when people choose to be single and enjoy their life. I think it's weird to assume that all people feel complete by being married or by being in relationships.
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Quite honestly, when I read this post initially, my thought about the OP was "you're probably one of those people who doesn't have single friends because you "have nothing in common with them"". Because that attitude has a hint of looking down on people who aren't married, which this post very much feels like too.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10