Trouble in Paradise
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red flag
has anyone have a nagging feeling before they got married not too?
feel confused lots of time invested kids involved. dont want to be the bad guy
any advice
Re: red flag
This. At the very, very least, cancel the wedding and get some couples counseling until you are certain about the marriage.
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Always trust your gut.
it never fails.
Trust your gut. I didn't and I was divorced in a year and a half. Divorce is expensive and emotional.
Set your pride aside and at least postpone the wedding. Get counseling. Reevaluate.
Change this to 27 and it's me. Back out now.
yes i had those nagging feelings and i wish to God i would have listened to them, instead i was convinced by others that it was just jitters. and i felt bad because we were having a destination wedding and his family had non-refundable tickets and resort stay
it's so much harder to get out of the marriage. better to post pone or cancel than do it and end up divorced later.
Exactly this. I wish I had paid attention to the red flags, and addressed the issues then. Now I am separated/divorcing, miserable, and in way over my head. My case there are step kids involved, that I have grown attached to in the past 10 years, makes it even more difficult. We also have a son together, and that adds more guilt.
ETA: I am by no means saying if there are issues, to run from them. However, if there are, PLEASE address them now, and not wait for them to iron out on their own.