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Re: Angry Lady Vent!
Some people thrive in a military structure and fall apart without it. Both of my grandfathers were high ranking military men whose personal / family lives were a complete clusterfvck.
It sounds like your husband needs a drill sergeant, not a wife.
It is possible that he has some PTSD or other emotional/mental issues following his time in the service. Has he looked into this?
Well. Welcome to the rest of your life.
Love and a dollar will get you a cup of coffee. This man is destroying you financially and emotionally; and is fine with letting you and his mommy carry his loads. 'Men' like this don't generally get better, they get worse. Stay or don't, but this is how he is and what your life is going to be like from now on. Good luck.
This. OP, this is probably just hitting way too close to home. My ex-h was a lot like your h right down to running someone over negligently (after we split). He was ruining my life. I am still struggling financially to recover. It's not going to get better if you stay.
mine too... Ex
I hate to say it, but sometimes love is not enough to make a marriage work. Even though, you love each other, it doesn't seem like he's mature enough to be the partner you need and deserve.
If you both want to stay in this marriage, I would advise counseling and lots of it. He needs counseling on his own, to figure out why he's such a complete fcuk up now, whereas he wasn't before. Then I would also suggest couples counseling, so that you can work together at rebuilding your relationship. Also, maybe look into a financial management course, that you could take together. My mom's church actually offers one, once a year or so, I'm sure other places do as well.
Good Luck
I am a huge fan of working it out, going to counseling and doing whatever you can do (within reason) to stay married.
That being said, GET OUT. Like yesterday. This guy is toxic.