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Marrying your prom date
I'll admit it, I did it. Have the pictures to prove it. Started dating at 14, moved in together at 22, married at 26. We even survived a LDR for all 4 years of college.
The PIP imoan threw in the thread below (which was fantastic) made me wonder. How many other people are married to their prom dates and don't think they settled?
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No, but really, I did that. Went to prom my freshman/his senior year. We've been married for five years, together for almost eight. We certainly didn't settle. At least, I didn't. Sometimes I wonder if he did.
Hah! I know it is... and I'm ok if I get flamed. I can't be the only one who didn't take this advice and doesn't regret it.
I don't think there is anything wrong with marrying your prom date, if he/she is truly the right person for you. I do think there is something wrong with marrying your prom date because you are supposed to marry your prom date.
I think everyone under the age of 24 is an idiot about love and marriage. Including myself at that age. I think those relationships can work, but I think it is a rare case when they "magically" click and everything is really puppies and glitter farts.
lol
I married my prom date and I don't regret it.
Been together for 13 years, been married for 6... love him even more now than the day I married him. I don't regret it. But I also realize I got INCREDIBLY lucky.
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DH and I actually have a running "arguement" about why we didn't go to prom together. We were really good friends at the time and it was almost assumed we would go together. His assessment is another friend of ours asked me first, so he had to find someone else to go with. My story is DH already had a date, so I had to accept when the other guy asked.
When his prom date friended him on FB I feigned jealousy and yelled that I couldn't believe he'd friended Girl X and how could he!
It works for some people. My sister and BIL have been together since they were 19 and are perfectly happy to grow up together. My parents married when my mother was barely 21 and are obnoxiously in love 32 years later. Etc.
But for me, marrying someone I met at 19 was a disaster. I didn't know myself well enough at all to be making that kind of decision. I made a bad selection, and am divorced.
Ironically, if/when Mr. Bang and I get married I will once again be marrying someone I met at 19, but 10+ years will have elapsed.
Wait... so was that actually a picture of you and your H in the other thread? If so, awesome and adorable.
Yes m'am! That's me and Mr. imoan at my prom!
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One night I stopped at my prom date's house on my way home from being out with my friends. He and his friend were piercing their own nipples. With carpet needles.
Thank God I didn't marry my prom date.
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This, so so much. I find that any time someone finds out I got married so young, I am telling them this. It was probably a terrible idea to get married at 17. I got incredibly lucky in that DH and I really are a good fit and, if his mom was still alive, she wouldn't be giving him sensual massages. Oh, and he does play a lot of video games, but he also does more than his share of the chores and would probably respond right away if there was a kitchen fire. AND I've never had to sniff his peen.
I base my marriage's success on the failure of those on the nest.
My sister married the guy she started dating at 15, and they absolutely settled. Neither one of them have ever lived anywhere but our tiny hometown, and thus have never met anyone outside of that town. They're barely friends, but he got a housewife and she got kids out of the deal.
DH and I got all dressed to go to prom. We walked in, didn't even make it to the gym, and walked out. Had a lovely dinner with friends and danced for hours in the ballroom of a hotel. (Where we had dinner.)
We were not what I think of when people talk about high school sweethearts. We were friends for years and didn't go to the same school. Neither of us had a typical childhood/upbringing and were independent before HS graduation. We are polar opposites on paper but click in every other way that matters. We were way too young to be married, but we were also so much older in experience. We were lucky to have found one another and I think of us as the exception, not the rule.
I think this is awesome. My H and I got married 8 years after we met (when we eloped...our "second" wedding happened 10 years after we met). We knew each other for years before getting together, so once we did get together, we knew a lot about each other. I like the way things have worked out for us.
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I sometimes wonder what people think when they discover I married my high school sweetheart. I have a feeling people think that I know nothing outside of my small town and that I've never been anywhere or seen anything.
I swear... I'm good. I didn't settle. I just happened to have found the love of my life with no searching at 17.
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This. Early on we got the looks, and we absolutely had people do and say horrible things to us. Now everything is fine until that moment when they realize we got married so young and then their eyes change. I feel like we have to ost our resume's on our foreheads.
We've traveled, we went to college, we own homes and cars and our 401k's are good and then I realize there's nothing I'll ever say that will change it. So, I stopped caring.
Lol. We have a set of friends like this. They'd been together since 10th grade and are the most perfect people for each other.
Nice! So far it is working out very well for us too. We were friends through a lot of ridiculousness in our early/mid 20s. About a year ago when we started talking about dating, we both felt pretty sure going in that it would be serious. It's been really great starting something with someone I already knew fairly well but still getting to know him in so many new ways.
The idea of marrying the guy I went to prom with makes me want to gag, but that has nothing to do with the prom and everything to do with the guy. I could tell prom with him was a bad idea before we were done with dinner, so it's not like I was ever in danger of marrying him.
But I met and started dating DH less than a year later. 6 years of marriage and 11 years together later, I'm very happy I married him and don't feel that I settled. We would have had a fantastic time at prom together, but grew up and went to high school on opposite coasts.
I married the guy my best friend went to prom with :P
Yeah... now THAT is a can of worms.
But - we are very happy together. We "liked" each other since we were 17 - life twisted and turned, I went north while he went east etc etc. And in the end we met back up and said lets' do this together. We've been dancing circles around everyone since.
I married my prom date's best friend.
H and I have known each other since we were 15. We both had a crush on each other from about 16 and on, but a lot of stuff prevented us from actually getting together until my 21st birthday.
I'm actually surprised by the number of women who married their prom date/someone they knew in high school. I kind of thought that was frowned upon.
Maybe that's just when you marry them three months after going to said prom.
Maybe. I got engaged at 23, had a 2 year engagement and got married at 25.
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To be fair, the only people who really weighed in where people who married their prom dates.
Lurker jumping in here and raises hand
(DH and I are on the right)
We started dating when we were 17/18 and most consider us high school sweethearts even though he was already done with high school and we didn't go to the same school.
We endured 4 years of long distance when I was in college and 3 years of law school living together for the first time and got married 2 days after our 8 year dating anniversary and have been together for 10 years now.
Not one day goes by when I don't realize how lucky I am to have found him so early in my life and to have been able to share all of my most important moments and memories with him.
Oddly, to my knowledge, no one has ever given us the side eye for marrying our prom date
Well, yes, that's kind of the point of the post. I am just surprised at the number of people who DID weigh in. I didn't expect to see so many.
I have good friends from high school that started dating our junior year (their first official date was prom that year) and got married 2 months after they graduated from college. 3.5 years later they are still very happy.
My parents started dating at 16/17 and got married at 20/21. They are still blissfully happy 40 years later. Most of my aunts & uncles are much the same. None of them settled as far as I can tell. (Hello PDA!)
H and I met when I was 20 and he was 21. We married when I was 23 and he was 24. FWIW we never dated anyone else before each other.