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Re: What, in your opinion, is the best way to raise children?
I read this as you are trying to decide if you should SAH or not. Either way can be fine. Neither is inherently worse. It is a personal choice.
What I think matters is that the parents are reasonably happy. If you would be miserable staying at home, then your kid's childhood would be worse if you were a SAHM. If you would be miserable working while your child was with a nanny/daycare, then his childhood would be worse if you work.
And if these two scenarios describe your life, then you should be freaking grateful for the hand you've been dealt.
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I believe the way a parent relates to and treats a child far more influences the best way to raise them than anything else.
ETA- working parents are still "full time parents". It's not like being a parent comes with vacation time or days off. When you are home, you are still ON nonstop. You merely go from one job to another.
IMO the best way to raise children is exactly the way I am doing it. Don't most people feel this way??
Kidding aside, I think every family thinks they have it "right" or that they are doing something better than another family or that they are worse in areas of other families. I know that it is sometimes really hard to see other families and think that you are doing something wrong or right, or judge in general. With getting to know our kids school friends, we are seeing all types of families....blended families, mom SAHM and dad working families, dad SAHD and mom working families, both parents working families, single parent families, and a mixture of circumstances with everything parenting related....from daycare choices to vacation choices to school choices.....and the only thing I try to take away from it is that everyone is different. What works for another family might not work as well in ours. What works for US probably doesn't work for a lot of other families. And at the end of the day, what matters is happy, healthy kids and parents, so we just do our best and try to make things work in our house.
There are certain values that I want to instill in my kids, hard work, education, chores, for example, but I also have a lot of flexibility with how we tackle parenting in general.
Wow, if this is how you measure the "best way to raise children".....well crap, I got shafted as a kid!
I guess I just wasn't raised that well since we didn't go on overseas vacations or have horses, I had a regular old-fashioned pedal bike, and I had to pay for my own college. My parents really dropped the ball on that one alright!