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Re: Fact: the Air Force doesn't care about working spouses.
MrsOz, I've stuck up for you a lot in this post and that's why it turned into such a long ordeal. I will say, though, some of the complaints you have don't have to do with working or not, nor is it necessary to be snarky and say that ppl don't understand because they don't work.
Unless they had a get-together during work hours where they disseminate information and then didn't call you, I don't think you can blame the operator error on the fact that you work. It could be that you would get more information if you knew more of the spouses, sure, and that can be affected by whether or not you are able to attend events. But I think in general, people can suck at keeping you informed regardless of your working status. For the record, I'm always invited to stuff, I just frequently can't go, and since I can't, I don't have a ton of friends (and so we don't get invited to socializing things that are less inclusive, like when only 2 couples get together or 3 women go to lunch or something, but that makes sense). It also means I don't get things that come up through the grape vine since I'm not able to socialize during the day. It doens't mean I get left off official communications, which sounds like what happened here. LIkely not on purpose, might I add.
For the Dr., I do agree with you that it's frustrating that they 1) didn't let you know when you called to confirm your appointment that they didn't have the Mirenas in stock (I will say though, maybe the front desk ppl just didnt know why you were coming in, I doubt it was malicious) and 2) that their only solution was a same day appointment. Obviously, as Killer pointed out, you don't have to go on the same day if you can't make it...but I do understand how frustrating it is to take a day off and go to an appointment only to have to do it all over again in a couple of weeks.
For the flight...it does suck that you can't go unless you take time off. And I do think they *should* try to vary things like that up, having some on weekends, some in the evenings, and some during the school day. They could also easily hire a babysitter or two for childcare--everything I've ever gone to on base has had childcare provided. I understand being frustrated, but it does sound like you're taking it all very personally.
Sounds pretty similar - when I gave my boss my resignation letter after DH got orders to a base in another state, my boss came to me to ask if I was willing to try out telecommuting... It has it's ups and downs, but for the most part, it's mutually beneficial. And, while my boss doesn't have a clue about anything military, the environment at my office is professional enough that if I say "hey, I have this thing I need to go to, it doesn't conflict with any meetings I need to attend, and I'll make up the hours later", it's all OK. But, it's OK because I don't take advantage of it.
I did come close to losing my job once, when DH was coming home from his first deployment. Unfortunately, the return window we were given overlapped with a project I was supposed to handle on site. I tried to explain to my boss, and give him as much notice as I could, and gave him options for how to remedy the situation, but I could tell he was pretty frustrated with me at the time. It came down to literally saying the words "Boss, my husband is coming home from 14 months in a war zone. I will be there to meet him when he lands." After a tense day or two, my boss seemed to realize he was being an ass trying to make me go out of town during the very short window we had for homecoming (the trip would have been over half the window).
I'm trying to decide if we need to go the Nanny route, or if we can get away with daycare and a backup (or two) in town that can help out if something happens that we can't manage. It's a lot to ask, but we have a couple close friends in town that I know _I_ would trust enough to watch my child, but I'd need to talk to DH about it, and see what he thinks. (this whole revalation that I want to continue working after having kids hit me while on the road for work... I'm waiting to discuss it with him in person, because I think it'll be a better conversation that way)
But, it's still a while off. We won't be able to TTC for a few months yet, due to other things...