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she has blocked the nest! changed her PW!
does not need anyone to tell HER what to do!
fcuking walkies who don't have her specific diagnosis! agoraphobia that comes and goes! magic legs!
you don't know her!
um, but anyway, I actually was afraid that this would happen, and it was like my own fault, i guess...I wanted to talk about her, but kinda secret so it wouldn't scare her away and did I open my big fat mouth? yes. yes i did.
but since I have nothing left to lose, I was holding back on saying this, but based on her lack of concern for...anything, and the fact that she mentions regularly in her blog that her pets are in need of maintenence...I'll bet her apatment smells like a butthole full of dead fish.
old decaying rat pee, dirty litterboxes, multiple pets and an incapacitated gamer?
p.u.
there, I got it out.
Re: she has blocked the nest! changed her PW!
that feels better, but I do still have some lower back pain.
BVal, I'm assuming.
Dude she is just off the charts crazy cakes it seems. It's one thing to disagree, it's quite another to get all butt hurt & continue to whine about it on a public blog. I thought she was much better than this whole " you don't know my life" bullshyt.
The self-pity & whining is maddening. Also, can someone explain (or throw out some theories) as to her obsession with this Annie chick?
I don't think she has blocked TN. I think she is just bluffing until this does down. I bet she is reading & enjoying the attention. After all, the more I think about it the more I am starting to believe this is all some ploy for attention.
Makes me feel like an idiot for all the sympathy & general niceness that were directed towards her. Apparently I have a hard time reading people. It seems like I am last on the get-a-clue-bval-is-cray-cray AW train.
she pinged my radar immediately because her SN is the same as a band I used to like a whole bunch, and I checked out her blog (via signature link) and I was like blown away that she seemed to be a respected regular over here- considering she's 4loco and a half! but yeah...the obsession with annie is frightful, and my excitable mind wonders if "brandon" the young spouse is even real...she posts such odd sentiments about everyone she seems to come into contact with. I wouldn't be very surprised to learn that she's mostly a figment of her own internetimagination
You're not alone Betty. I semi/kinda/almost defended her, for her physical disability/stress related issues, in the post where she said she couldn't walk again. In return, she brought up my "personal residence deficiency", in her FU-TIP blog post, as one of the things she could say "she would never do".
I'm not proud of the fact that we had to depend on our families in our transition from from OTR living to a "normal life", but it's a little hard to pay rent, student loans, house bills, car bills, vet bills, and buy groceries for two people, plus dog, on 1200 a month, if that much, sometimes. And I'll admit some of this was a result of a lack of foresight/planning on our part, but some of it was the economy, and some of it was bad luck.
But every step we have taken, has been in an attempt to better ourselves, and our position in life. When one plan stopped working, we went back to the drawing board and started over.
I was planning on being mature about this, but I'm starting to dwell on it, and since I've already vented about the rest of my issues and feelings, here. I think I will just say:
"You can suck it, BVal."
I've just been biding my time waiting for the schit to hit, as only the melodrama of a 23 year old really can. It's hard to distinguish where the ailments end and the hysterics begin.
I think she was "off limits" for such a long time because she preyed on our sympathies for the crap sandwich she's been handed, because a lot of the drama was confined to a blog most of us never read, and because she could bring the funny.
Someone on ML said that what this all boils down to is that she's unprepared to deal with life, and I think that's a fair assessment. Someone on ML also mentioned that this strange physical ailment might have more to do with her penchant for popping Klonopin like it's candy than it does actual anxiety. I hope she gets the help she needs, and only a small part of that help deals with her legs.
I admit, it has crossed my mind that there's probably a lot of truth to what was said if she has had such a reaction to the nest posts.
Was her blog only for nest people? That's the impression I got. That in itself seems strange to me.
I think it was an "everybody" blog, for the most part, and just referenced/directed the nest for individual posts, at times.
I think the medications she's been on have erased a lot of ambition and mood upticks. At the beginning of her blog she's very optimistic and has dreams and plans; and slowly over the course of a couple of years it gets steadily flatter and more "oh well, whatever."
I also very strongly believe that she enjoys being "sick," that it's her self-identifier, and that any suggestion of change or alternate remedy is therefore met with this kind of huge overreaction and defensiveness. Like with anything, if you narrow your focus entirely to one aspect of your life, it becomes everything to you. People with chronic illnesses and eating disorders have this problem very commonly.
Because of this obsession with her own mental health, I wonder how many of these symptoms she has are actually indicative of a mental disorder and how many are the result of her intense introspection and narrow focus.
And thus I suspect that the medications she insists she needs on a daily basis may actually be causing some of her issues, because in a good number of cases, these types of anti-anxiety drugs can have the opposite effect in people who don't really possess a chemical imbalance or need for them.
Updated September 2012.
interesting, because the only thing between her and a resident deficiency is her husband's will. should he tire of playing the role of caretaker to a lazy shiftless loser with closet full of diagnoses that she pulls out like outfits for the day- then she's not exactly in a position to take care of business for herself- at ALL.
she's a child, in the role of married child. she has no educational background or job experience to fall back on, she has no ambition or goals other than collecting magic cards, and playing computer games, and she is still being cared for by others- there isn't an adult or self sufficient bone in the girl's body- yet she's all hung up on being age 25 and therefore a mature adult? HA!
at 25, she's just going to be her husband's 25 year old dependant that he has to care for as a child.
what is this crap sandwich? and also, someone said her family life was so bad? I saw no evidence of this in her blog- other than that she wanted to officially disown her sister for being too (LOL) self indulgent! and self centered!
She's posted on here before about coming from an unstable family life, which could be overblown. I took her at her word though. Wouldn't surprise me at all if she came from a family of chronic naval gazers. I do know the family life was compounded by the fact that she grew up in BFE, where the average marital age is something like 19. Young kids playing house + mental illness + less-than-stellar family = crap sandwich, but it's not an excuse. I feel that she treats it as one though.
TBH, her marriage is the one thing that isn't flame worthy. They seem well suited for each other, so to each their own. I'm not really one that can sit in judgment on what works in a marriage, LOL. I do think LHC has hit it on the nose though ::points up::. Once BVal stops her hissy fit, maybe she'll lurk back over here and open her mind to what she's saying and find some doctors that will get to the root of the problem instead of medicating the schit out of her.
I remember her posting stuff about her mother and sister on a post about her birthday a few months ago? It sounded like her family was pretty effed up. I don't remember the details, but I remember thinking, "Wow she does not need to be around these people." Although who knows really.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
YGPM, m'am!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Ditto! Can someone PM me as well please?
YGPM!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
That paragraph screamed to me "Look at me... I'm weird in a quirky way. I'm different so you shouldn't expect normal behavior out of me!"
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I just read this in her blog:
"So maybe I'm not cut out for a job"
After she was talking about how she doesn't want to go and shyt. If those are the rules, then MOST adults aren't "cut out" for a job. But it's how we eat and shyt.
And now I'm reading about her b1tching about people not restocking sodas correctly and how that's making her job harder. B1tch, you have a job that is for 15 year olds. And it's STILL just toooo difficult.
And if Brandon wasn't bankrolling her entire life and making it so that she doesn't have to get off her azz and stop playing video games, she's be 69-ing with Annie already.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
at this point, do you think that brandon even exists? if he does exist, he can't like her heaping all this love on annie.
He either exists and is a spineless loser who is just so happy that someone was willing to marry him that he turns a blind eye to her obsession with Annie and tells her it's a-ok that she can't hold down a job and spends her days gaming.
Or...
He doesn't exist.
I actually kind of hope it's #1.
And the Annie thing is disturbing. If she wasn't married, I'd assume she was a lesbian and would wish her the best of luck (although she seems a bit clingy which is unattractive for either sexual orientation). But what I see in that blog is bordering on obsessive and inappropriate. When b1tching about TIP, she said that she and Brandon have PLENTY of money, however I keep saying blog entries about how they don't really have the money to fix her car... but she NEEDS to do it so she can go visit Annie. And how much do you want to bet her inability to walk SOMEHOW wont impede her ability to visit Annie on a regular basis.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes