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Re: Trouble with MIL and Hubby (a little long)
THIS. But I think I would have walked out of the bathroom visibly upset and potentially crying. (I don't know how you held it together...) When H asked me what was wrong I would have totally called her out on it right there in front of everyone. Point. Blank. Done. Embarrassed her and forced her to explain herself in front of everyone else. What a BiZatch!
Oh man. I can't believe she would say something like that to you. I know you were shocked and upset at the time, but I would have walked right up to her, looked her in the eyes and said, "if you EVER say anything remotely insulting to me again, you won't have the luxury of spending one minute with your grandchildren. They won't know you if they pass you in the street. So think about that the next time you think about opening your big fat mouth."
Your husband is a wuss. You need to cut off contact with this loony tune immediately. There, no confrontation involved.
Oh, that really sucks. Horrible woman.
The best thing you can do is stand up for yourself. My brother-in-law (my husband's brother) has a problem with his temper. One day I said something totally innocent about him teasing my son (not criticizing, just saying that when the 3 year old is in a mood, he has a tantrum rather than rolls with the joke. He's 3, he's learning). So BIL blows up, cursing and ranting at me while I'm feeding my 18 month old. I say "Fine, if I bother you that much, I'll leave when I'm done feeding E" He snarls at me again and I leave it be.
I finish feeding the baby, packed up his things and head for the door. My husband (who had something to do first and was just showing up at that point and missed the whole thing) asks where I'm going. I say home. My FIL and brother-in-law's wife say "No, just ignore him. Stay for dinner". Husband hands the baby over to my FIL and takes me for a drive until I calm down. I dont know what they said to my BIL while we were gone but he apologized when I came back.
You dont have to accept people treating you badly. Whether its his mother, a coworker or a complete stranger. If your husband doesnt like it, then that's something you and he have to figure out. He should, at the very least, stand by you and support you. This not-wanting-to-rock-the-boat crap really ticks me off (its my father's favorite method of dealing with confrontation and it totally infuriates me)