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Re: B&M Monday!
Angie - I'm so glad you got to see J!! I know it is tough being away from him.
Wendi - Your wedding looked beautiful from the pics I saw on fb! Congratulations!!! Welcome to the OMHs.
My DH decided that ripping up our living room carpet (because HIS dog had ruined it) and putting tile down was a great idea while he was home last week. He didn't want to mess with hard wood (which I would have fought him for it if we were staying in this house but since we're not, I don't care.) so he and my BIL tiled it. It was a painstaking process for someone who has never laid tile before. He had to leave on Friday so that left me working on trying to get the "haze" off of the tile because those two handymen didn't clean it good enough. FYI if you ever tile anything make sure you clean, clean, and then clean the tile again so there is no haze! I had to use straight vinegar and an SOS pad on every.single.tile. I am so sore today LOL. But it looks good and I have my living room back!
Thank you! I just realized that we weren't friend on FB, so I added you
More pics should be surfacing.
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
Okay, I have a question for you ladies. As I've mentioned, I'm planning a fundraiser with two other people. We have been getting quotes from vendors for food and venues for the past month. We are planning on making a decision this week. However, some of the people are checking in every week just as a follow up. The third guy is pissed because we haven't made a decision and are "keeping people waiting which is rude and looks bad upon our organization". I've told third guy to ask that they pencil us in for dates until we make a decision, which will be by the end of the month, and if something else comes up to please give us the courtesy of a phone call so we can commit or give up the date.
So my question: Is that unreasonable? Or am I thinking about this the wrong way and am being rude.
Michelle & Michael
Married - August '10
TTC - Since September 2011
I personally don't think so. If you ask me, third guy is the rude one. But maybe people like Julie or Wendi that have more event planning experience can answer.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
HE is being rude.
I know this is somewhat different than working with wedding vendors... but it's also the same in that people meet with me and then sometimes take a while to make a decision. I would NEVER make someone feel bad about that. I'm up front and tell people that I can put a date on "courtesy hold" for two weeks, and then it goes into open booking again and I can't guarantee that we'll be available. I check in with a bride the week after we meet, and then two days before that "courtesy hold" expires... in the rare event she takes that long. In both cases, I'm cheery and sunny. Once the courtesy hold expires, I let them know that they can call me whenever they're ready, and if we still have their date open, I'll be happy to speak with them.
No one should EVER make you as a customer feel like you're being rude. If they can't hold the date, they should just tell you that... but seriously, I wouldn't want to work with someone who's customer service is so crappy even before the papers are signed.
Just my two cents.
How far out is the event date? If I have a 6-12 month out window, I pencil folks in and only do a follow up call if someone else calls ready to put down a deposit. I always give my clients a first right of refusal, and make notes as to when their expected decision date would be. If I get a call between the time of initial conversation and decision deadline, I follow up with a courtesy call to give them a heads up but that is it.
The way this dude is acting, I'd be nervous about calling back ready to book. If you decide to go with his venue, I'd call him first before telling the others "thanks but no thanks", just to make sure he didn't get tired of waiting and give it away.
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
I'm confused... So, is the person who's pissed a potential vendor, or one of the three people who is planning the event?
If it's a vendor, he's totally in the wrong. He's the service provider here - if he doesn't want your business, then he can just stuff it and you can move along in your search.
If it's your coworker, then he just needs to get over it. I think that it's reasonable to take some time to make decisions, and providing a deadline for your decision to the potential vendors is more than adequate. From their point of view, I'd think they'd have people calling with slight interest all the time, and that only a small percentage would actually end up using their services... so, your show of interest but lack of commitment shouldn't put a kink in anything for them.
I probably didn't explain myself well. Some vendors are checking in weekly in a very friendly manner, just to see if we have made a decision. Not an issue at all. My concern is the other person I am planning this event with. We are trying to nail down the location so we can set a date and plan everything else. Some places take longer to get a response, and negotiate a contract than others. The other volunteer that I'm working with is telling me that because we haven't given the vendors a yay or nay w/in 3 weeks, we are "being rude and giving our organization a bad name". I think it is okay as long as we are polite and courteous to the vendors, they understand that there are things we need to figure out before we can give them an answer one way or the other. In no way are we causing them to lose business on those dates, and have asked that they just give us a courtesy phone call before booking that date with anyone else.
If I was telling vendors, "no, you can't give that date away, you have to reserve it for us, and I'll tell you when I want to book it when I'm good and ready" then yes, I would be rude. I just want to make sure I'm not crazy for thinking it is okay to keep vendors waiting on a yes or no (for less than a month) when we are still gathering all the information.
Michelle & Michael
Married - August '10
TTC - Since September 2011
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
Okay, I think your co-organizer is being rude. If the vendors were wanting a decision, they would be calling you/emailing you and asking for a decision. Venues are used to dealing with this. If you lose a venue because the they didn't call to ask if you were still interested, then that is rude of them but not something you could control. Can I ask when the event is?
So I finally saw Nicki Minaj getting out of the car at the Grammy's with "the pope" last night during recaps- before this, all I saw was her in the E! 360 and thought she was Little Red Riding Hood. Someone was a little excited for Once Upon a Time.
End of May
Michelle & Michael
Married - August '10
TTC - Since September 2011