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Re: Jessica Simpson is why I can never have children
True story. Except can I exchange the snakeskin for alligator or something else PETA would hang me for? Snakes really freak me out.
And copz - I know you are sensitive about this topic, but I lol'ed at your "the outfits I wore at the end for comfort" comment. That does not look comfortable. It looks hot and sticky and stiff.
I'm borrowing the tinfoil hat because I agree it's publicity. She's getting more attention for her pregnancy than she has since her divorce.
This isn't a public event though, right? She just out? I think she's just getting more press now because pg bellies sell magazines.
Guess which one is me!? This was at 36 weeks.
Still - my feet were a wreck by this point. Congrats to her for not having swollen feet yet.
I think she looks really good in the picture MW posted.
My BFF's middle name is Maxwell (she's a girl) but it's a family name. It's better than what we were discussing on my BMB - that she was naming the baby Jerrica.
That would be truly outrageous.
I am the same height as her to... and with my first I looked nothing like that and am pregnant with #2 and I certainly hope (and will do everything in my power to ensure) I don't look like that with this one either.
She admitted that she indulged in whatever she wanted to eat and did not keep up her exercising.
If you watch what you eat, are healthy, and continue to work out, while you will gain, you won't gain 70 pounds (I guess it could happen, but it would not be the norm).
Good for you?
Even if she gained less weight, she is still very large chested and is carrying high. I think she would just be a more compact version of her current self, and I don't think clothes would hang significantly different on her. While you can control weight gain, you can't control everything about how you end up looking during pregnancy.
Cookie interesting theory on the carrying high=people assuming you are bigger. I think you are on target with that assumption. I carry lower so I never get the comments on how big I am getting despite being short. I wonder if that is the reason?
I love Idris. Thank you for your sig!
I do think the dress is horrid, BUT she has also tried the form fitting look and she was still torn to shreds by the board. She can't really win.
Agreed-- you can't control how you carry... but she is gaining more than she needs so (I only say this because she admitted in multiple interviews that she is indulging in anything she wants to eat and has not kept up her exercise). Of course there are people who can not control it (have a medical issue) or are on bedrest... but that is not the case with her. While she may very well carry high (I did as well) and has a large chest, I would guarantee she would not look the way she does if she had gained around 35 pounds at 40 weeks versus 60+ (so by delivery, guessing 70).
It is her choice and I certainly don't care how she carries or looks. My point is more health. I hope she is able to get the weight off and she does not get gestational diabetes.
Anyways, my only point was that no one has to indulge and stop exercising during a normal healthy pregnancy.
Blue. Snakeskin. From head to toe.
I'm side-eying everyone who is saying we can't make fun of fashion choices, because DAMN, she looks ridiculous.
This is why I don't feel bad for her. I predict that she will laugh about these pic.s all the way to the bank.
This.
I think she's due next month, but it's all the rage for celebrities to lie about their due date to avoid paparazzi getting up in their babies' faces, so who knows? She could be 41 weeks right now.
On one hand, I am "venus of willendorf" pregnant right now too and think that if I went to the beach, old sea captains would see me and incorporate me into their tales. I look like a marine mammal. I totally get wearing whatever makes you comfortable at this point and saying f*ck off to people who act like you should change because of what they think.
On the other hand, she knows a million people are going to take pics of her and see her, and she has the money to pay somebody to dress her. I manage to look less bovine than this despite probably being at least as big and having a shoestring maternity wear budget, just by following the rules for fat ladies set forth on "What Not To Wear." As in, no crazy patterns. As in, do not emphasize the largest part/s of your body. As in, do not wear unstructured, sacklike garments.
At least she doesn't have to worry about fake pregnancy rumors like Beyonce had.
I'll hate on that dress until the cows come home (its snakeskin!!! with ruffles!!!) but I'm not comfortable with the comments about how her weight gain is unhealthy or whatever, based off of her interview comments about indulging herself. If her doctor is fine with her weight gain, or if s/he has issues with it - that's beween JS and her doctor. If she does have GD or something - again, between her and her doctor and I really don't care.
But again, that dress is awful.
I agree with all of this. Her body, her baby - she can eat whatever she wants, and dress however she wants, but that dress is just NMS.
I think the ruffles are probably the worst part of the whole thing.
You're right about people freaking out about comments like this though
Eh, that's about what I looked like at 4 months. I started gaining right away, and it mostly went to my belly. There was no keeping it a secret until 3 months like my H wanted to do, and we were lucky we made it to the 8 week sonogram without people figuring it out already. I was also still doing things like 5 mile bike rides through hilly terrain at that point, so you don't necessarily have to be lazy or overeating for it to happen. As it stands, I gained almost 50 pounds already and was working out in the pool twice a week up until last week and was on a low sugar, low flour diet from January to February and almost no sugar and no flour in February and March. Your body is going to do what it's going to do--no twinkies required. I pig out...on apples and carrots.
FWIW my mom gained like this with me and was back in a size 6 without BFing in less than a year. I think she was more bummed about losing the epic t*ts than about the leftover weight on her thighs.
mamasaurous is a perfect example of my point. We have a lot less control over how our body and what our body gains during pregnancy than everyone likes to think. In fact I think it is a dirty little secret. Non-pregs like to think they can control not looking huge. For some of us we might, but for many of us our body has a mind of its own and will do what it needs to do to support a fetus. Eating habits play a part in that but I believe it is much more out of our control.
I'm with Toledo. I don't know; the "I fear I'd look just as ridiculous as her" comment didn't strike me as meaning "uncomfortable" or "unfashionable" either. And man. I know she's in the public eye and all, but how many posts on the Nest have you seen from people whose peers or family make seemingly-innocuous comments like, "Wow, are you having twins?" and the OP is in tears over it? This poor girl has to read about how huge she is in every media publication. And she doesn't look much different than any other assh*le who gets knocked up outside of Hollywood.
Updated September 2012.
I don't think there's anything wrong with admitting that a pregnant woman is huge. She is huge. I am huge. Most of us will be huge at some point. But you're pregnant! You're supposed to get big! I feel gross when people say to me, "Oh, you're so tiny!" and not when they say, "Whoa, when are you due, like tomorrow?" because the first is an obvious lie, and if you are lying to me about my appearance, it's clearly because you think there's something wrong with me looking this way, and you think I should be embarrassed to look like this. I have a person living in my abdomen! How else should I look?!?
My issue is not that people think she looks big. My issue is that people are acting like there's something wrong with being big when you're pregnant, or like those of us who say she's big are hating on women. Last week I got flamed on 3rd tri for calling myself fat--we aren't supposed to use the F word, I guess. Well, I'll use it. I'm fat, fat, fat, and I'd be worried if I was thin, because FFS, pregnant women are not supposed to be thin! Well, and I also take issue with that dress, but mainly, so what if she's big? Good on her for not starving herself while pregnant like a Hollywood psycho. Good on her if she isn't sure how much weight she gained--counting pounds is the doctor's job, not hers.
I used to really, really hate Jessica Simpson and I still kind of blame her and Nick for the 'reality' tv garbage that is everywhere these days.
But recently, I have kind of grown to admire her a bit. She is putting an image out there of a normal woman with normal weight gains/losses. She looks like a very, very pregnant woman right now; not like some stick with a basketball shoved under her shirt.
I like that.
It goes both ways, if it makes anyone feel better (which I'm sure it won't.) I gained 25 pounds with both of my pregnancies and didn't get very big. People made comments to me all the time about whether or not I was eating enough, and now was "not the time to be weight conscious; it's not about you anymore." Um, I am almost six feet tall, they had a lot of room to stretch out in there. The really special comments came from people who knew I had a history in high school of eating disorders and just "wanted to make sure I was being healthy".
So really, the God's honest truth is that pregnant women can't win, period.
Actually I do think people are more likely to comment on someone's size to their face when people are pregnant as if it gives them some kind of cover. I got comments all the time and I gained 35 pounds not 70. I think in general people think this is the one time it is okay to comment on people's weight and it really isn't. I wouldn't go up to an obese person in the grocery store on a rascal and scream "OMG you are huge! It must be so uncomfortable!" I don't even think we would react positively to that kind of thread on the board for someone who is just obese and not pregnant.
And for the record, I don't think this is a war on women or anti-woman, I just think it is mean.
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I gained sixty pounds with my pregnancy. I ate pretty much whatever I wanted. I didn't do buttered pop-tarts, but I did my fair share of indulging.
I don't think that gives anyone license or cause to tell me I look ridiculous, or that looking at me makes them never want to have children.
I guess I just don't see why calling her a fatty fat fat is okay if she ate pop-tarts, but not okay if she was eating normally. How many poptarts are acceptable? If she has two a week, is that okay? If she's got pre-eclampsia or hypertension and is retaining a shitload of water, does that mean she's exempt from ridicule? What if she has a thyroid condition brought on by pregnancy? Does that make it okay for her to be in public without being called fat?
It just seems disingenous to say that it's okay to rag on her for not being "healthy" when nobody really knows WHAT her eating habits are, aside from what's reported in the tabloids, which tend to exaggerate everything anyway.
Updated September 2012.