Immature Husband

Re: Immature Husband

• BriGiboo

  March 2012

  No I am saying he is deployed and from what she says he is gone alot. She sounds like she expects him to be like a "normal" 24/7 husband who eats dinner with the family and mows the lawn on saturday. I dont agree with him being lazy nor am I saying wait on him hand and foot. It just seems that her life would be a lot more peaceful and less stressful if she wasnt always "nagging" as she says. I am curious though why she posted this here instead of in military nesties. Her situation is unique to being a military wife. I grew up in this lifestyle and it isnt normal. Mom handled everything. Dad didnt do much when he was  home and regularly forgot to do things. Her stating he doesnt see long term is prob true. I dont  know what he sees when he is deployed but if you are facing death regularly a $25 fine and your ATV being towed doesnt amount to much. I will concede that you could be right and I am projecting too much from my own personal experience.

  

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• huber22

  March 2012

  BriGiboo:

  No I am saying he is deployed and from what she says he is gone alot. She sounds like she expects him to be like a "normal" 24/7 husband who eats dinner with the family and mows the lawn on saturday. I dont agree with him being lazy nor am I saying wait on him hand and foot. It just seems that her life would be a lot more peaceful and less stressful if she wasnt always "nagging" as she says. I am curious though why she posted this here instead of in military nesties. Her situation is unique to being a military wife. I grew up in this lifestyle and it isnt normal. Mom handled everything. Dad didnt do much when he was  home and regularly forgot to do things. Her stating he doesnt see long term is prob true. I dont  know what he sees when he is deployed but if you are facing death regularly a $25 fine and your ATV being towed doesnt amount to much. I will concede that you could be right and I am projecting too much from my own personal experience.

  Here's the thing. No one has a "normal" life. No one. My husband is a farmer, someone else's husband travels all the time. It doesn't excuse them from being an active partner in their home. 

  If your mom was okay with it, good for her. OP is not okay with it. Telling her to get used to it because the job that he chose is stressful and potentially life threatening isn't helping her or her kids. 
  

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• sowhatkimberly

  March 2012

  huber22:

  BriGiboo:

  No I am saying he is deployed and from what she says he is gone alot. She sounds like she expects him to be like a "normal" 24/7 husband who eats dinner with the family and mows the lawn on saturday. I dont agree with him being lazy nor am I saying wait on him hand and foot. It just seems that her life would be a lot more peaceful and less stressful if she wasnt always "nagging" as she says. I am curious though why she posted this here instead of in military nesties. Her situation is unique to being a military wife. I grew up in this lifestyle and it isnt normal. Mom handled everything. Dad didnt do much when he was  home and regularly forgot to do things. Her stating he doesnt see long term is prob true. I dont  know what he sees when he is deployed but if you are facing death regularly a $25 fine and your ATV being towed doesnt amount to much. I will concede that you could be right and I am projecting too much from my own personal experience.

  Here's the thing. No one has a "normal" life. No one. My husband is a farmer, someone else's husband travels all the time. It doesn't excuse them from being an active partner in their home. 

  If your mom was okay with it, good for her. OP is not okay with it. Telling her to get used to it because the job that he chose is stressful and potentially life threatening isn't helping her or her kids. 
  

  Alot of what you said BriGiboo is right, but honestly I consider my husband a dad/husband when he walks in the door from work. He is a soldier at work. I know that is alot to ask of him too, but it's not too much to ask when he was married before the military and agreed to having a child. Those two responsibility come first.
  

  
  

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