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Ask a 300 lb. Nestie
Here is your chance. AE for obvious reasons. Fire away and I'll be honest.
ETA: Don't be afraid to ask any questions. Anything, and in the interests of making the life of fat people a little better I will answer and not mind a bit.
Re: Ask a 300 lb. Nestie
I think that might be a bit naive.
Agreed
I do know I'm fat. I just don't obsess about it the way skinny people would want me to. I get told and made fun of by strangers every day.
I hate that you feel you wouldn't be accepted here because of your weight.
I'm sorry I 100% disagree. People in the other thread consider obesity to be some huge moral failing and I'd prefer to be real honest with the questions.
Goodness I am so sorry.
Well I just want to let you know that at 300lbs you are not a super model. I am telling you this for your own good, you know, because I'm sure if I didn't you'd still be thinking you look like Heidi Klum. Onto the questions:
Do you feel bad for shaming the poor thin people who have it hard enough in the world as it is?
Do you get annoyed at how easy it is to find clothes that fit you and look good on your body? Would you agree that clothing stores should instead start focusing more on designs, styles, and options for people with thin bodies and stop giving you so many options?
What's it like to be so privileged to live in a society that values you as a person more because your body shape fits the media-driven ideal? Don't you think thin people should be treated kindly too?!
OK, I am curious about one thing. I hope it doesn't come out sounding mean.
How do you get to that point? Like, is it all gradual, and you just keep gaining weight slowly while rationalizing whatever you're doing that's causing the gain? Or feeling hopeless to control it? Do you yoyo? Is there a point where you realize it's a do/die moment?
I'm really bad at making that sound not mean. Please know I don't mean it in a fat shaming way. It's just something I've wondered before.
I just want to buy clothes that fit and not take down society with me.
Eh... I will finally confess that my highest weight was 262 pounds and I still weigh over 200 pounds, so yeah. Being simply "overwight" would be a dream for me. I think to not technically be obese I'd have to weigh less than 168. I haven't weighed less than that since I was a junior in high school.
ETA: I didn't read most of the main fat thread today, so maybe that would have been helpful before confessing...
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Did they feed you cheezits at day care?
No, seriously, I got nothing. Maybe because it feels like poking at a lab rat. Do you think there's something people who haven't been that weight don't know?
Ugh, I think that sounds sarcastic when I didn't mean it to. I guess I'm asking because we do ask an atheist/mormon/AW threads because we want to learn more. This just feels odd I guess.
Now if you were 1000lbs, maybe I'd have more but maybe it would feel odd too or maybe I like typing. IDK. lol
Click me, click me!
Do you have children?
Do you worry about your health at all?
My H is like 5"10 185. Not super skinny, but not like me. I'm 5'5.
Same here. Fellow fattie.
I won't even deny it because I don't think I have to be ashamed of a number (nothing against you, fattie, you tell what you want to tell).
I've seen the scale hit 300 before.
It is a horror. I am lucky not to be there at this exact moment.
But, I can assure you all that at 300 lbs, you can still:
- ride rollercoasters
- sit in a booth at a restaurant
- shop at OLD NAVY
- be hired for jobs
- and even have sex...ON TOP of your 180 lb husband. He doesn't even get squashed!
I think these are fair, normal questions. So here goes
I was a overweight but athletic kid. Size 12 pants in 9th grade. But, also 5'5 in 9th grade. I graduated high school wearing 12's and 14s. I thought I was rockign in college.
Graduated college around a 16. Started gaining from there. Size 20 after the first kid and 24ish after the second. I recently gained more weight to be a size 26-28. So yes, gradual, but accelerated these last few years.
I did drop to a size 16 a few years back and felt fantastic. But then had that second kid and lost my mojo.
I can answer this kinda - and I don't find it insulting. It was very gradual for me. I have had issues with food since as long as I can remember. I have yo-yoed a ton as well. UP 25, down 15, up 30, down 10, up 50, down 20 ect ect ect. I am lucky that my body shape is what it is, because I can still fit into a size 14 and not have to be as limited with my clothing choices since most stores carry 14s, but there is no way that I don't know I am fat.
In all seriousness, I don't have any questions but I totally don't fault you for using an AE given the vitriol some people have expressed towards fat people.
Being fat is not a moral failing or indicative of your worth as a human being. People who think so are fuvcked in the head and I mean that in the worst way possible to them, heh. Just remember that no matter how much some people try to pretend, everyone has their flaws and their vices, and fat people are just unlucky to have to wear theirs for everyone to see or judge, though most of the people who judge have no right to do so.
Good luck and I hope all the hoopla today didn't get to you!
My child got a minor injury today and I kneeled down to help and then had a REALLY hard time getting up. I need to get a handle on it, but I have a VERY unsupportive husband, who thinks I just need to "Do it!" and not get any help.
I really don't want this to sound super offensive, but here goes: part of me thinks that morbidly obese is morbidly obese, whether 275 pounds on a 5'5" woman or 600 pounds on a 6'5" man.
I'd kill to lose 10 pounds and be able to drop a size, or drastically change the way I look, but no dice. 10 pounds is like bailing a bucket of water from the Titanic, in m experience. I lost, like, half a size when I lost 35 pounds. Not even a full dress size. So whether you have 60 pounds to lose or 250 pounds to lose, it seems insurmountable.
But maybe that's because I can't even remember when I *only* had 5-10 pounds to lose to reach a healthy weight.
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I think people don't realize just how many average sized people judge, catcall, and are generally rude to fat people. It feels like the last socially acceptable group to collectively mock.
((hugs))
Can you just say screw him and get the help you want, whatever that is? I am just starting down the path of really digging into my eating issues, but lord, it would be so hard without support.
ETA; Don't know who you are or if we are FB friends, but if you need support, please message me on FB or PM me here. I am no expert by any means, but I think knowing someone is dealing with similar things can be helpful, even if I have nothing of note to say.
I'm sorry. I hope you get the help you need.
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I feel like saying the word "fat" is going the way of "retard" and "gay".
The old navy clothes don't fit, and the only way sex works for me is when I'm on top. I still have good knees, I guess!