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Re: Essay: Your children want you! (as opposed to snocone waffles)
I get her point, but can also see why others would find this offensive.
My hope for the future is that women AND men... all accept that different people are different parents and their children are different to. You can be a good parent many different ways... there is no 1 way of doing things. If we could all let go of the parental guilt that is often caused by comparing yourself to others that likely have a different set of values, a different style of parenting, and different expectations we would all likley feel better about ourselves as parents (and people).
Comparing parenting is like comparing careers... there are lots of options that are good, but wow are they different and it gets you little to nothing to allow yourself to get caught up in that exercise.
I certainly am not saying that I don't compare myself sometimes, but I generally try to live up to what I actually want, not to someone else's conceptualization of what a good mother is. I hope someday I am honestly say that I no longer compare myself at all.
Titles are often meant to be attention grabbers.
I don't think she said crafting was pointless. She said she is finally ok with letting it be the domain of others or doing it on a lesser level and not stressing if it's not perfect.
Pinterest is just like a bigger, more interactive Real Simple/Martha Stewart, no? It's just a compilation of a million ideas. In no way is one woman/mother supposed to do them all. Nor is any woman, not even members of the Mormon Mommy Housewife Brigade, doing them all. If you are getting a complex from Pinterest you probably have other issues going on. And I'm not being snarky.
But her article resonated with me. Especially the part about her relationship with her own aging mother and what she missed most about her and their time together. It puts things in perspective. What is important to a parent/child relationship? An ice cream shaped grilled cheese sandwich is nice but doesn't compare to the face time you have with your child (and not the FaceTime type of time, heh.).
[As an aside: I'm not a pinterest fan. I have an account that I opened well over a year ago. It's still a great place to store recipes. But everything else about it is just noise]
This is pretty much my take. I have found some AH-MA-zing recipes on Pinterest that I probably never would have found otherwise, and I've managed to find a couple cute projects for the kids, but I usually find myself logging off after only a couple minutes because it is far too random and cacophonous for my taste.
That's my amazing contribution to this otherwise incredibly boring topic.
Heh Heh. Star tittes.
As with everything else, it's about moderation. I enjoy all the info out there because I am not remotely creaative. So occasionally I like to give new things a shot butI'm not good st creating the idea myself. However, if you let it over take your life and EVERYTHInG has to be cutesy, you might want to take a step back.
Why is it always one extreme or the other? and why does everyone always see it as a personal attack?
ding ding.
Team MW/HAB/PW.
This could've been a really nice essay about enjoying time with your kids by doing the things that you are good at/enjoy, because the time is fleeting (enter example of her Mom). But it wasn't. It was a not so subtle dig at the crafty pinterest loving moms. And I say this as someone who avoids crafts like the plague (and secretly want to kill people when they give my kids artsy stuff that requires my participation).
Let's hear it for a new mommy-war. Yay.
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I read this and then yawned. For real.
I took this article to say that your kids want you in whatever way you give yourself to them, and whether that is crafts, or not crafts, feel good about the fact that it doesn't matter to them one way or the other, it's about you. You are the key, not the crafts, not the non-crafts...
I wish my kids would accept a nap from me right about now. Instead, I will make them dinner, I guess. ::sigh:: My life is hard.
RE: Pinterest. I like it, but I only log in like once per week now. It gets repetitive, so I don't care to log in every day and see what's up.
This was how I read it as well.
Also, I responded to NB below without reading through all the other responses, since I usually read backward from the last post. Now that I've actually read through all the responses, I have to ditto whomever it was that wondered WTF was going on in this thread, LOL.
We didn't get our snow cone waffles.
Here:
http://wondermommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/19/ice-cream-cone/
sno cone waffle crochet pattern
I kind of lost my pinterest enthusiasm after that. Or rather, my pinthusiasm.
Yeah, I recognize this behavior. I'll take the occasional stab at doing something marginally crafty (because I'm a total arts and crafts loser, TYVM), and when it fails, I'm all "FCVK THAT NOISE!" and I stomp off in a huff.
I didn't see it as a dig on crafty moms. I like decorating, crafts, and cooking and I'm a mom but I didn't feel slighted.
My problem with the whole pinterest/blogging/facebook world of competitive moming is that something didn't happen unless you got a perfect picture of it. It's not only that you have to make the perfect dish, but you have to take the perfect picture of it from your DSLR (in auto mode, natch) or it didn't happen. It's not enough to just be crafty. Everything has to be presented in a picture-perfect friendly way too. You can't just be Martha anymore; you also need to be a photographer, editor, writer, and blogger or it doesn't count.
Anything you can achieve through hard work, you could also just buy.
Yeah, I'm with MrsAx on this one.
http://www.google.com/search?q=definition+irony&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
I got about 10 posts in before I decided to spend my time elsewhere. ::shrugs:: Maybe I'll go "pin" some bawdy pictures like normal.
In short: talk about much ado about nothing much. Memories are made of all kinds of things, and there's no formula to that.
Every time I start to like knitty, she shows her true colors. Sigh.
You did better than I did. I kept reading it as "sewers" - you know those pipes underneath your house and roads that your toilet line connects to and where all the yuck goes? Yeah . . . I suppose if those get startitis, you've got bigger problems than interest can handle. Finally gave up and kept scrolling where I found HaB's response about "sewist" and it all made much more sense.
Lol! This thread reminded me that I love pinterest for teacher ideas. I haven't been on in months. But I went a bit crazy last night.
I just have to say that I now there is no way I'd do these things if I were a Mom. My kid would just have to suffer without his/her snocone waffles. Seriously, he/she would be lucky if I made plain, boring waffles.
These mommy wars make it so much easier not to be a mom for realz.