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I slapped Joaquin in the face.
I've been changing her standing up, because she refuses to lie down. Last time we went for shots she was so pissed I was forcing her to lie down she didn't even notice the shots. So I lean her against me so her butt is sticking out, so I can do the wipes and put a diaper back on.
This time, all of a sudden she bites me super hard on the shoulder. She's never bitten me before, though sometimes when she gets frustrated she'll bite a toy. Reflexively I'm like, sh*t, it's a spider! and I slapped her.
I'd feel way worse if I wasn't pretty sure she's not going to bite again. Oops, ish?
Re: I slapped Joaquin in the face.
Aw! Poor baby!
But, seriously. Biting is bad.
I suppose the responses you'll get depends on your level of popularity around here, and flame my ass away if you must, however..
HELL NO.
I personally do not believe in hitting a child. However, not everyone shares that philosophy. She bit you, you could have reined yourself in and popped her good on the hand, or on the bare bottom. But her face? Unnecessary, and you lacked self control. She's a child
Imaginea scenario, where you were out at the mall and saw a woman slap her baby in the face. You'd be horrified, judging her and coming back here to share
It's not like she thought about it and then slapped her. It was a reflex. It's not like she goes around slapping her kid.
Awwww... another one with a kid that's like 4 seconds old.
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Hello what is reading comprehension
JFC did you read her post? are you capable of reading? She clearly says that it was a reaction because she thought she was getting bit by a spider,she doesnt go around slapping her kid on the reg.
you couldn't control yourself long enough to know that slapping a 13 month old in the face is wrong? while this may be an isolated incident, you really need to get a grip.
reflex = swallowing, breathing, the leg kick when the dr taps your knee
lack of control = hitting a baby in the face
Nope, not what I said or meant.
I think she as an adult can get it together enough to have a bit of self control and not do that. Be pissed, sure. Slap in the face, nah.
It's amazing the number of illiterate people who use The Nest!
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And I'd feel the same way and say the same exact thing if I didnt even have a child. Im all for liking a person, it was a douche move. And its funny because if it was a person who was a newbie/unknown to the board, you'd all rip her up. LOL
Yes, I read it. You didnt ask me whether I BOUGHT the spider thing. Two different things..really, I dont care what she thought spider, or whatever else.... I think adults are capable of reining themselves in. And at no time did I say or imply that I think she slaps her kid regularly. I spoke on THIS instance.
She said she didn't realize it was her kid biting her so she smacked whatever it was. Just happened to be the kid. She thought it was a bug or something. I'm not really sure what incredibly flameful about that.
Holy sh!it are people illiterate or is today national act like a dumbass day?
Broc: My kid chomped into my shoulder and I accidentally thwapped her in the head because I thought a spider was biting me or something. It was an involuntary reflex because I didn't realize she was biting me and thought it was something else. Woops!
Random people attempting to flame: OMG anger issues much?! You have problems, I would never beat on my sweet precious angel! Hitting is so wrong, what is wrong with you?!
It's like someone admitting their cat got tangled up in their feet while they were walking across the kitchen so they accidentally kicked them across the floor, and people responding about how that's animal cruelty and beating your defenseless cat for fun is just not okay and you should be ashamed.
I wasn't even pissed, though. I didn't realize she was biting me until after I hit her, and I was shocked that that's what it was because like I said, she'd never bitten a person before.
You've never slapped at yourself when you feel a sudden tickle or jab around your neck?
Um, no. If a newbie came on here and said "OMG! I accidentally hit my baby because she bit me and I thought it was a spider or something so it was a knee-jerk reaction", I wouldn't even bother responding because it seems so fooking ridiculous to beat yourself up over something so innocent. If a board reg then came on and started giving that newbie sh|t, I'd be laughing my azz off at them for being self-righteous and alarmist.
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They are bionic mommies who have 100 percent perfect control and totally deadened natural reflexes. Good job on making sure Ms. Fetus is going to need years and years of counseling when she becomes an adult to come to terms with why mommy beat her as a child, you're a horrible parent and I feel sorry for your husband.
Broc- once they had kids, they just allowed mosquitos and spiders to chomp away on their flesh in the OFF chance that it COULD be their wittle pwecious . And even if it wasn't, they had to be 130% sure that when they hit the supposed spider, their hand didn't accidentally ricochet off their arm and hit their kid who was close-by.
YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO CAUTIOUS!
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I'm just imagining how some of the people in this thread would react to some of HS's hilarious stories of adventures in child discipline.
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I don't know, I guess where I stand is that I feel there's a couple of seconds in there to catch yourself. I would think that a spider, (or random "something") or a toddler with teeth tends to feel a bit different, but hey maybe it doesn't to you. Okay...
I'm not saying you should be burned at the stake or start looking for her therapist - I just feel like the face is pretty hardcore - accidental reflex or whatever. But again, I'm not into children being hit.
I foresee at LEAST 17 pearl-clutches and 24 anonymous calls to CPS (where the people on the other end of the phone are rolling their eyes so hard that they almost fall out of their sockets).
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I have been bitten by spiders and by children, pretty easy to tell the difference.
Dude, judging by broc's post, she isn't into either. It's not like she was all, GUESS WHAT? I SMACKED MY KID AND I WOULD DO IT AGAIN!!
Click me, click me!
if she is leaned in on you with her butt sticking out, I would assume her head was near your shoulder, how did you manager to slap her face? I mean if you were slapping at a bite on your neck, wouldn't you have gotten the back of her head?
Is this real life?
It was an accident FFS! Yeah she's totally into children being hit. I've accidentally kneed my DS in the head before. I guess someone should call CPS on me too.
Broc, we're gonna need some exact plots on this 3 point graph to properly demonstrate the trajectory of Joaquin's butt, the angle of her back, and of course the exact curvature of her downward angle of chompitude. Once I have this exact information I'll be able to calculate with the help of my Beating-Children-O-Bot 3000 just how much of a raging child-hating sociopath you are.