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SMorriso · April 2012

cvillebetrothed:

-if anyone, and i mean anyone at all including the dalai lama himself, tried to insist on anyone being present or not present in the delivery room while i'm birthing a child, i would slap them upside the head. my splayed legs, gaping vagina--my rules.

AMEN. I am freaking out at the thought of people coming in to see my guts and glory on the damn table just to snap a picture of me post gush. I waited until my sister pushed out her kid before entering, and I still managed to see her splayed.

Doc, cover me up before anyone enters. People also think I'm crazy not to want my H to see what's going on down there. Please, please, stay above the waist babe.

mrsbecky07:
ButternutSquash:
Jflute wants to take me out to dinner Friday or Saturday night for my birthday. Why can't we hate each other like normal divorced people?

LOL. Are you going to go?? where are you going?

Yes! Do tell!

jlthompson19 · April 2012

mrsbecky07:

In follow up to my petty birthday rant - this isn't a "let's fight" thing but I have to vent somewhere because it is really starting to weigh on me - I dont want everything to be even between our families. I've tried very hard for the past 5 years to be even, but now I'm over it. His brother is a certified assholio (and I would cut him a break since he is 19 but I mean, come on, he's 19, he shouldn't sulk bc he cant do what he wants all the time), his dad is a selfish prick, his mom is nice enough but can't come the 3 hours to visit her oldest son more than once a year on average (I say that because I've known H for 6 years, she's been here 5 times - bridal shower, baby shower, wedding, graduation, and H's 30th bday, but H feels the need to constantly go up there to visit, but my thing is, they can come down here just as easily), and its just old by now. I'm over trying to split the holidays, trying to get up there to visit when we can, and everything else. It's a two way street and especially after his mom guilted him out last year for leaving their small town (no stop lights!!) to such a point that H cried about it when he got home - cried - because he felt so guilty for leaving the family behind - never mind that he left to go to law school when no one in his family had even gone to college before - I'm just really really over it.

so anyway, he says if my mom is in the room for the birth the his mom is in the room.

Um, no. Just....no. And then my mom is staying for a week after H goes back to work to help me so H is all "well my mom gets to stay for a week." Is your mom going to run errands for me? is she going to walk my two large dogs? is she going to help me cook and do laundry and everything else? No. My mom would come solely to HELP. H's mom would come solely to see the grandbaby. It doesn't mean she's wrong, it means the motives are different and which one I'd prefer when is also different.

I'm an awful person, aren't I?

Becky, we have the same IL's. Thankfully DH no longer feels the need for everything to be equal.

ButternutSquash · April 2012

MeredithE:
If my Mom wants H and I to stay in her house when visiting DC it should be presentable. I am used to my Mom and her habits so it's cool if it's just me visiting however I don't think I should have to expose H to the amount of clutter in that house. It's awful and embarrassing. Finally every once in a while she tells me about seeing a mouse . I just can't..........

GIRL! The older my mother gets the more packrat-y she has become. She will get things in order if I bring company, but still.

SMorriso · April 2012

brideymcbriderson:
SMorriso:

This also included them not letting us know that SMIL and SBIL weren't coming due to a surgery she had more than a week prior. They didn't let us know she wasn't coming, so their meals, chairs, etc were paid for.

The only comfort I took in groomy's uncle not coming was that we paid for way more plates than we had guests anyway. Our attendance rate was fairly low. Apparently people don't like to travel to the midwest in winter - who knew? So we (and by "we," I mean my mom) paid for about 15 extra plates. So it's not like the bottom line was affected. But seriously, who skips his nephew's wedding because he "doesn't feel like making the drive"? Ugh.

Is it wrong for me to also be salty that they didn't get us a gift or a even a card? Like, he's your son, your presence alone wasn't a gift in itself.

I hate talking about it because I feel all selfish brat about the smallest things. They could have gotten a damn $.99 card and called it a day. It's just so rude to me.

copzgirl · April 2012

I love the use of salty in this thread

ButternutSquash · April 2012

SMorriso:
cvillebetrothed:

-if anyone, and i mean anyone at all including the dalai lama himself, tried to insist on anyone being present or not present in the delivery room while i'm birthing a child, i would slap them upside the head. my splayed legs, gaping vagina--my rules.

AMEN. I am freaking out at the thought of people coming in to see my guts and glory on the damn table just to snap a picture of me post gush. I waited until my sister pushed out her kid before entering, and I still managed to see her splayed.
Doc, cover me up before anyone enters. People also think I'm crazy not to want my H to see what's going on down there. Please, please, stay above the waist babe.

mrsbecky07:
ButternutSquash:
Jflute wants to take me out to dinner Friday or Saturday night for my birthday. Why can't we hate each other like normal divorced people?

LOL. Are you going to go?? where are you going?
Yes! Do tell!

I actually suggested we do a bike ride and take Alex out as I need to be moving not eating. He said cool, so that's the plan.

MeredithE · April 2012

ButternutSquash:
MeredithE:
If my Mom wants H and I to stay in her house when visiting DC it should be presentable. I am used to my Mom and her habits so it's cool if it's just me visiting however I don't think I should have to expose H to the amount of clutter in that house. It's awful and embarrassing. Finally every once in a while she tells me about seeing a mouse . I just can't..........
GIRL! The older my mother gets the more packrat-y she has become. She will get things in order if I bring company, but still.

I can't count on her to get things in order......so it's to the IL's house I go.

laurenpetro · April 2012

when we were figuring out all the details when i was k/u with grace i politely asked that i not be in a position to show his mother my vagina.

problem solved.

MeredithE · April 2012

Oh yeah, I don't care how badly this gets me flamed or about the Karma train which will surely get me but JS looks TERRIBLE pregnant. With that said, see you on page 10

copzgirl · April 2012

Butternut that sounds like a really nice plan...

lyssbobiss · April 2012

MeredithE:
Oh yeah, I don't care how badly this gets me flamed or about the Karma train which will surely get me but JS looks TERRIBLE pregnant. With that said, see you on page 10

Marry me. We can find a random guy who will bang me as a sperm donor and I will gestate a giant baby for you for like 3 years.

RedheadBaker · April 2012

mrsbecky07:

Oh I have another confession and sorry its also childbirth related.

I see Tef's post below about Bill Cosby and cant open it bc we had to watch a segment from one of his standup routines in our childbirth class and now all I can think of when I hear his name is him saying "Puuuuuuush, puuuuuuuuuush" from the routine.

Oh, I wish we had gotten to watch that instead of the 60s-era video we had to watch.

MeredithE · April 2012

lyssbobiss:
MeredithE:
Oh yeah, I don't care how badly this gets me flamed or about the Karma train which will surely get me but JS looks TERRIBLE pregnant. With that said, see you on page 10

Marry me. We can find a random guy who will bang me as a sperm donor and I will gestate a giant baby for you for like 3 years.

Let us go down in flames together!!!!

MrsAxilla · April 2012

My jackassmother***exboss is pulling the EXACT SAME crap on my former coworker that he pulled on me - except that he tried to "get smart" and put her on a bullshiit performance plan instead of just outright firing her. She's working on her complaint and I hope she takes the motherfuucker DOWN! Because now there is an established pattern. Thought you could just sweep me under the rug, eh, jack@ss?

MeredithE · April 2012

swimbikepuke:
Yesterday, my day was worse than anyone else's here. I know this because it involved me pumping at my desk into a Chipotle soda cup.
/Martyr.

Background please......

laurenpetro · April 2012

MeredithE:
ButternutSquash:

MeredithE:
If my Mom wants H and I to stay in her house when visiting DC it should be presentable. I am used to my Mom and her habits so it's cool if it's just me visiting however I don't think I should have to expose H to the amount of clutter in that house. It's awful and embarrassing. Finally every once in a while she tells me about seeing a mouse . I just can't..........

GIRL! The older my mother gets the more packrat-y she has become. She will get things in order if I bring company, but still.

I can't count on her to get things in order......so it's to the IL's house I go.

it took my MIL almost a year to clear enough space out of her spare bedroom to fit a crib. what's a crib, 4x3? something around there? A YEAR. she still hasn't cleaned anything else out. it's disgusting.

MrsAxilla · April 2012

swimbikepuke:

MrsAxilla:
My jackassmother***exboss is pulling the EXACT SAME crap on my former coworker that he pulled on me - except that he tried to "get smart" and put her on a bullshiit performance plan instead of just outright firing her. She's working on her complaint and I hope she takes the motherfuucker DOWN! Because now there is an established pattern. Thought you could just sweep me under the rug, eh, jack@ss?

Dude, that would be so fun. I would LOOOOOVE to get called as a witness against my former bosses. They wised up, too, though and even though they constantly talk sh!t about the last female to have a baby at their firm, they made her partner the first year she was eligible and the same year she took her maternity leave.

She joked about having me represent her and I was like "no way, chica. You WANT to depose me!!"

AnnieBlah · April 2012

missusbee:
AnnieBlah:

It is your party and all, but arent the kids family too (say, a cousin's kid)? I don't get this argument, but, it is your party so do what you want. But, be prepared for people nto able to attend.

well, say you invite all of your family and friends to a bachelorette party and it is, I don't know, Chippendale or something. You wouldn't get all butthurt because you invited all family EXCEPT for kids and squawk about them getting excluded. You would recognize that its an inappropriate venue for children and be done with it.

I don't see why showers are any different, I really don't. Its an inappropriate venue for kids.

And yes, I'm really disappointed that my friends wouldn't come for a couple of hours because they couldn't bring their kids. I think that sucks.

Nudie vs baby? yeah, totally different. I can get behind this for a wedding shower, but just don't agree for baby showers. Baby showers aren't really 'off limits', imo, for babies to come to, BUT, as I said, your party, do what you want. Not everyone can find child care so that is why I said be prepared. I am not sure why the anger on this. ::shrugs::

AnnieBlah · April 2012

pixy_stix:
AnnieBlah:

It is your party and all, but arent the kids family too (say, a cousin's kid)? I don't get this argument, but, it is your party so do what you want. But, be prepared for people nto able to attend.

For me, that's fine if they don't attend. Why do they automatically assume that they can bring their kids?

(Personally, I really don't mind having kids at parties, but I just find it odd that people assume they can bring their kids. DH is that way, and I always have to remind him, or flat out tell him we need to get a babysitter.)

For a shower, I would probably ask, but unless it says, I might not think that they arent invited. I would NEVER assume it for a wedding. Heck no.

AnnieBlah · April 2012

swimbikepuke:
MeredithE:
swimbikepuke:

Yesterday, my day was worse than anyone else's here. I know this because it involved me pumping at my desk into a Chipotle soda cup.

/Martyr.

Background please......

Forgot my supplies. And couldn't find a bottle that was compatible with my pump.

I also had my own witness during a deposition TEXT her fwcking friend about lunch plans while I was asking her questions to rehabilitate her from her atrocious self-destructive testimony.

Oh yeah, and Lanie decided to create and internet meme out of one of the toughest patches in my marriage just to oh-so-cleverly demonstrate to 2V that her husband was cheating on her. You know, because Lanie has it all figured out like that. I think it must be her PhD in feminist parenting literature that gave her that expertise. Or whatever.

Focker out.

I missed it, but would have gone a bit bitchtastic in that thread. WTH? I am very sorry for you having to read that heifer's crap and relive that pain. I am fuming for you. FUMING!

But....Chipotle cup? ::here's your crunchy mom card as not only did you reuse, you reused CHIPOTLE::

nitaw · April 2012

AnnieBlah:
missusbee:

See, I do care if you bring them in the first place. Especially younger ones. Even really well behaved toddlers might not understand that presents aren't for them. A parent who is responsibly keeping them away from the loot may inadvertently induce some kind of fit or tantrum, which is totally normal for the age, right? Just another reason why its an inappropriate setting.

Also my mom is now stuck deciding how child-friendly she needs to make the space.

AND, again, selfishly, I watch my friends juggle their children at every single other social gathering we have. The you-hold-the-baby-while-I-eat routine, the wrangling and chasing and taking outside during crying. We do it at every other dinner, party and BBQ and I never ever care. But its a shower for H and I. Is it so wrong to ask that I get to enjoy the company of my friends and family?

It is your party and all, but arent the kids family too (say, a cousin's kid)? I don't get this argument, but, it is your party so do what you want. But, be prepared for people nto able to attend.

Yeah, but I don't like some of my family members. And I don't like some of their bad azz kids.

I also fully admit to being the grouch who doesn't let family members know when I'm throwing a party. They get on my dayum nerves and nothing chaps my hide more than watching those mofos pack up all ya dayum food and stroll out the house. I like leftovers, don't think you can just take shiit home. And the kids, they wreck T's room and never pick shiit up. Stuff comes up broken, and T is in hysterics because her stuff was destroyed. Nah, leave you gremlins at home please.

AnnieBlah · April 2012

MeredithE:
Oh yeah, I don't care how badly this gets me flamed or about the Karma train which will surely get me but JS looks TERRIBLE pregnant. With that said, see you on page 10

heliocentric · April 2012

Kind of random, but the kid stuff made me think of it. I hate that during the ridiculous Ann Romney and whatever-that-pundit's-name-was debacle the issue immediately went from WOMEN and the economy to MOTHERS and the economy.

Woman =/= Mother. Sure, most women are or will likely be mothers at some point, but not all of us are now or will ever be and we count, too.

laurenpetro · April 2012

AnnieBlah:
missusbee:
AnnieBlah:

It is your party and all, but arent the kids family too (say, a cousin's kid)? I don't get this argument, but, it is your party so do what you want. But, be prepared for people nto able to attend.

well, say you invite all of your family and friends to a bachelorette party and it is, I don't know, Chippendale or something. You wouldn't get all butthurt because you invited all family EXCEPT for kids and squawk about them getting excluded. You would recognize that its an inappropriate venue for children and be done with it.

I don't see why showers are any different, I really don't. Its an inappropriate venue for kids.

And yes, I'm really disappointed that my friends wouldn't come for a couple of hours because they couldn't bring their kids. I think that sucks.

Nudie vs baby? yeah, totally different. I can get behind this for a wedding shower, but just don't agree for baby showers. Baby showers aren't really 'off limits', imo, for babies to come to, BUT, as I said, your party, do what you want. Not everyone can find child care so that is why I said be prepared. I am not sure why the anger on this. ::shrugs::

IMO, showers are adult-female parties unless otherwise noted. i have zero problem with people asking if they can bring their kids, but F*CKING ASK. it's not that hard.

my issue is, if someone tells you that it's a "no kids event" (be it shower or wedding or whatever) don't act all pissy about it. i've been married almost 9 years and my cousin STILL acts like a little girl about the fact that we said he couldn't bring his kids. and then made a scene when my friends who drove 600 miles to come to the wedding brought their 8 month old baby because there was a miscommunication and we didn't have a sitter set up. "why is that kid allowed but mine isn't?" (because your kids are bratty runners who like to pull plates off of tables and smear food on rugs, as opposed to the baby who couldn't even walk yet.)

nitaw · April 2012

AnnieBlah:

I missed it, but would have gone a bit bitchtastic in that thread. WTH? I am very sorry for you having to read that heifer's crap and relive that pain. I am fuming for you. FUMING!

Don't you worry your pretty little head. I broke out like this ...

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And wanted to do this

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mominatrix · April 2012

Somebody gave my kid a rubber band jump rope kit for her birthday. Like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Make-Yourself-Rubber-Jump-Rope/dp/B003J7ZGE6/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1334767990&sr=8-2

I'm sure in the store it was "oh, what a great idea, how much fun!"... but, no. You just paid $8 for a bag of rubber bands and two handles. Oh, and a "weaving tool" that's useless. Using my hands works better.

Maybe I'm just bitter. I've been twisting rubber bands together for the last hour or so, my fingers aren't happy about it. But it's giving me an excuse to spend time on the interwebs, so I'm willing to endure some finger pain.

mumblegrumblemotheroftheyearmumblegrumble

mrsbecky07 · April 2012

heliocentric:

Kind of random, but the kid stuff made me think of it. I hate that during the ridiculous Ann Romney and whatever-that-pundit's-name-was debacle the issue immediately went from WOMEN and the economy to MOTHERS and the economy.

Woman =/= Mother. Sure, most women are or will likely be mothers at some point, but not all of us are now or will ever be and we count, too.

this is sadly a great point (I say sadly bc I think I am one of the ones who made the leap from woman to mother in that whole mess, I didnt even notice it.) The interests of women are not the same as the interests of mothers.

AnnieBlah · April 2012

nitaw:
AnnieBlah:

I missed it, but would have gone a bit bitchtastic in that thread. WTH? I am very sorry for you having to read that heifer's crap and relive that pain. I am fuming for you. FUMING!

Don't you worry your pretty little head. I broke out like this ...

And wanted to do this

I love that you pulled out my fave gif of all time. ALL. TIME. I am so ready for June 13 (early this year! Whoot!)

AnnieBlah · April 2012

nitaw:
AnnieBlah:

I missed it, but would have gone a bit bitchtastic in that thread. WTH? I am very sorry for you having to read that heifer's crap and relive that pain. I am fuming for you. FUMING!

Don't you worry your pretty little head. I broke out like this ...

And wanted to do this

I love that you pulled out my fave gif of all time. ALL. TIME. I am so ready for June 13 (early this year! Whoot!)

+diana82+ · April 2012

eclaires:
missusbee:
ButternutSquash:
I judge people who take their kids everywhere they go. I know you love him/her and usually I do too, but I plan to have a drink (or two) with this lunch and don't want my high blown by your kid interrupting our conversation.
similarly, i....don't want your kid opening my shower presents. #selfishbitch
Today, I hate kids.
{Disclaimer: I love my own, but even they are on my last damn nerve after yesterday}
Anyway, the presents reminds me...at every birthday party we have gone to recently, where the kids open the gifts, all the damn kids just crowd around the birthday girl/boy and act like hooligans. I thought MH was going to have an aneurysm over it at the last one. Of course, Jackson doesn't do that, b/c we are the best parents ever (ha!). But why do people let their kids do that? It's so f*cking rude. Tell them to go sit down and stay there. Jesus. It's not hard. Plus we are talking about 5-6 YOs here. Not 18m olds.

At Gavin's last birthday party, I told off my nephew for this because my SIL wouldn't stop him. Nephew was 5 at the time. I was pissed.

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