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Re: Controlling mother won't let me move
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Forget "stuff". Focus on moving forward.
"Getting into trouble"? Yes, of course she will yell, call names, throw stuff ---- SO WHAT!???
This is HER problem - NOT YOUR PROBLEM!
I am sorry you do not have the mother you would want nor need. Please see a counselor to help you heal and move forward so you can deal with life in a healthy - and happier manner.
Good luck.
Congratulations on taking the first step! I'm sure you were upset and scared to do it, but you did it! Now keep moving forward.
This is the time when your mom will be fighting the hardest. She will probably vacillate between being extra mean and extra nice in an attempt to keep you under her thumb.
So she got mad...is that what you mean by you "got in trouble"? That was only to be expected. But didn't you also feel relief to finally be moving forward into the next, more positive phase of your life?
I know it's hard. Every child (no matter their age) wants love, approval, and acceptance from their mother. But this is something you will never have from her and that's not your fault. She sounds incapable of giving those things. And the harder you try to get something she can't give, the more it tears you down.
Thanks for letting us know. I remember your post and am glad to hear you moved completely out. Things should only get better from here!
You need to retrain her. If she starts guilt tripping you or making snide comments, politely tell her the subject of your moving is closed and you do not want to hear anymore about it. And then get off the phone (if on the phone) or leave wherever you are with her. Or ask her to leave your home if you all are there.
The first few times will be hard. But she will soon learn that her complaints are falling on deaf ears and you will just leave her presence when they start.