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NurseLisa

After being together for 10 years (married for 7), things can become routine. Add kids into the equation, and life can be exhausted and dull. One way we have spiced up things is to go "back to the basics". We plan time alone together, after the kids are asleep. We start with a long, meaningful hug and kiss. We make sure it's not a quick "goodbye and off to work kiss", but a kiss that satisfies the senses. Then we tell each other something we like or appreciate about them the past week. We then light a candle, and use a feather to tickle as we talk more. It's very arousing, and makes us HEAR what the other is thinking. Life can get very busy, and often we don't take the time to tell our partner what our needs or wishes are. Taking this time and thoughtful touch has really put new life into our sexual encounters.

KellyDoerr/DiMascio

We have a "love and lust box". Each month we have four slips of paper each where we write down ideas (two love ideas and two lust ideas a piece). The love ideas are loving things to do together (anything from candle light dinner at home, recreate our first date, or even play catch at the park etc). The lust ideas are fantasies we want to play out (break out the favorite lingerie, play strip poker, have sex in the garage etc). The goal is to go through all eight slips of paper in the month.

 We have found this to be a fun and spontaneous way for us to connect with each other and keep things hot - even with our busy schedules (both work full time and are wrapping up degrees). There is always excitement when we pick out a slip because we never know if we will select a love or lust idea.

 I've found although we may have picked a love slip out of the box, by the end of the night the fun continues on into the bedroom ;-)

kksawinner

I book surprise locations for one night weekend getaways - usually with a his/her spa treatment if the location offers them.  And I love it when I completely catch him off guard - those are the best ones!!  I pack the bags, act like we are just going some place normal - and then some how I find a way to get to hotel.  Sometimes I will even check in before with all our stuff in the room, candles, etc.  If the location will allow for early check-in!!!

nferrante

Well..since having LO # 2...we keep things sizzling by schedule once a month, a ngiht away.  Just the two of us!  This allows us to have a date night, but keep our sex life going.  DH usually lights candles...some romantic music...and we enjoy nothing but eachother.  On every other night.  We put the kids to bed...cuddle on the couch.  Enjoy a romantic make-out session( my FAVORITE) and then DH will pick me up and carry me(I know..cheesey..but I love his romantic side) to bed.  He usually switches it up.  Some nights its a romantic massage with lotions/oils, the next it might be getting straight to the point!  But, either way, my hubby is very spontanious in bed.  It allows us to keep our sex-life going.  Even with 2 kids! : )

m+j

As two full time workers with a newborn, squeezing  intimate time in has been rough.  We finally sat down and decided  on the best time for both of us--just after our little one goes to bed but before it's too late and we're tired.  Before we each had excuses as to why we couldn't or wouldn't have sex. Now, we know it's a good time and we make it happen.  To make it seem like less of a routine, we take turns initiating and try new places outside of the bedroom.  

KellyBrumbelow

Cooking for and with your partner can be incredibly romantic and seductive. Preparing and enjoying a beautiful meal speaks volumes about how much you care for each other. The act of preparing the food together can be foreplay for what you have for "dessert"! Consider bringing ingredients that have long been thought to be aphrodisiacs into your home, such as honey, chocolate, and rosemary. Some of these foods can easily follow you from the kitchen into your bedroom. Buon appetito!

stephaniechenry

Sometimes its simply best to surprise my husband with something out of the ordinary, like showing up to the house after he gets home from work with nothing but sexy boots and a rain coat...nothing else. Then there is a surprise waiting for him when the coat comes off!

AutumnandRy

I am a nurse and my husband is a security guard and US Marine.  Currently we both works nights and long shifts so it is often hard to find time to be intimate.  We have only been married 9 months and this summer my husband will be deployed to Afghanistan.  We love and cherish our time together ESPECIALLY our intimate time.  With working such odd schedules we know the importance of making time to come together and reconnect.  Each week we look at our schedules to determine which night we will BOTH actually be home together and not working and we plan on those few evenings to be dedicated to "that" part of our marriage.  During the week we will send texts, give passionate suggestive kisses, vocalize our love/lust for each other,  and be very playful only making us anticipate our intimate time that much more.  

vmille@gmail.com

We love to rub each other in special places and sometimes I dress SEXY for him. Also, we start out the EVE with dinNer a n d drinks. 

gamingangel

We get a bottle of our favorite wine, some great finger food and play games online where we play co-op and defeat the enemy! hehe We have a great time playing games and having fun which leads into forgetting all the headaches about work, or looking for a house, and instead we end up having a great night in the bedroom. ^_^

kristenjb25

We role play - like we are vacationing in St. Lucia

dayer

My fianc?e is in the air force national guard and every time that he goes to a drill weekend we make sure that when he returns home on Sunday night we can heat things up in the bedroom.  We alternate who's turn it is to plan out the evening.  Since we are apart all weekend we can really plan and get fired up about what will happen Sunday night when he gets home.  The suspense for the person not planning is extremely intense and the person who get to plan get "hot and bothered" by having to wait to put their plan into play.  It's extremely rewarding in the end.

 

Of course through out the month we make sure to fit sex into our schedule as well.  Everything you read on sex says that couples should be having it at least three times a week.  We know the rewards of it, but things do get busy as well.  Since things get so busy we plan date nights once a week.  We go out to dinner, see a movie or go see live music and try and keep our relationship as sexually active as it was when we first started dating.  It really helps to put a date night on the calendar though, so you can't just "forget" about it.

akach123

We are just that attracted to each other... we have sex at least 1-2 times a day.  We have a 3 year old son, so as soon as bed times comes... it's our time!  Sex is crucial in a good happy marriage!  I dress up, costumes, fantasies... whatever we want. Leave inhibitions at the door!  This is the person you are going to be with for the rest of your life... make it fun!

NatalieMillerMK

With 2 children and one on the way. A new business. Both of us working and in school full time, you better beleive at the end of the day sex soemtimes is the last thing on our mind. However, with explicit sexting (texting) starting early in the day and continuing on throughout the day helps a lot. We take baths together and listen to slow jams while bathing and it's easy to maneauver from there to the bedroom.

jwildin

We both have strange schedules since we are graduate students so we have designated sex days!  The anticipation works wonders!

cbrittanyfletcher

Have sex somewhere different... OR shower together

emaggi1

The best way to keep sex at the top of your priority list is by incorporating it into your daily routine. You can still do your chores, eat dinner, and check emails, but just do these things naked. If your a little self conscious about being completely naked, then just show a little skin. You are much more likely to get in the mood for sex if you see parts of a person that are usually covered up!

kda08

We make sure we have towels and lube hidden around the house, so that it doesn't ruin the mood when we are ready to go and we have to run and scramble to find that stuff last minute. Like, "wait, hold on one minute, I have to go find the lube" and they take a few minutes to find it. Then you have to try and get all turned on again... It just makes it a lot more romantic when you can just do it right there with all the right elements ready for you.

tiffanysbride

We don't live near family so we are pretty much locked into babysitters for a few free hours. While it's nice, it's hard to really get in the mood after a long week. What works for us is to take advantage of family visits. At least 1-2 times a year we try and take an overnight trip to a local place we like. It is amazing what 24 hours can do for your sex life. It is the perfect change to escape from titles (mom/dad, wife/husband)and just be with your spouse.

Amusgrave

Our schedules are so hectic and living by the calendar can be very wearing on energy levels for sex.  Every day I think about how empty my life would be without my love.  There are thousands of reasons for wanting him in my life but when I think how short life is, how quickly something or someone can be taken from you in an instant, I am reminded how empty life would be without him. I remind myself of what an amazing person I am engaged to and how fabulous my life is with him in it.  Rekindling how important he is to me on a daily basis me, keeps him in my thoughts reminding me of the love and lust I have for him.  This love and lust is what helps keep him and our sex life in my thoughts and ready for him at any moment.

februaryanna

To help put myself and my husband in the mood...when I go to put on my PJs for the night...I instead slip into a piece of lingerie I wore on our honeymoon!

februaryanna

To help put myself and my husband in the mood...when I go to put on my PJs for the night...I instead slip into a piece of lingerie I wore on our honeymoon!

 

-Februaryanna

covetcat

Hmmm.....we've tried everything....nothing has worked...I think the only cure would be winning  a trip to St. Lucia!

 

 

 

mrsflowers07

saying romantic things in the act can keep fun and authentic spice in the bedroom :-)

amyjay23

We've been dating since high school and just recently got married after 8 years together.  We make sure that we have atleast one date night per week.  For the date night, we both get dressed up, go to "our place" that we've had since high school,  and talk about the things that first drew us to one another (how cute he looked in his football uniform...).  By the end of the night, we are reliving those 16 year old feelings and we feel like 2 teenagers in love all over again!

Noel0485

Instead of leaving the office for lunch, we take mini afternoon dates once or twice a week. We walk, talk, get a drink. Its a nice break and lift-me-up during the day. And we look that much more forward to seeing each other at the end of the work day.

sesynurse

We rent a room once a month at a motel, not hotel. We always have a "theme". Costumes are required (sexy lingerie, ripped clothing that can be completely torn) things of that nature, not expensive new costumes. Every toy, vibrator, dildo I own I bring. Gels lotions, licorice is a must. We check in around 1pm set up our little nest, with floating candles get the ice, go out and eat an early dinner. Then we come back to our Love Nest and let the games begin. This is a no holds barred anything you have ever wanted to try, type of session. It's hot steamy and something we both look forward to every month!

saysaycollins

I get in "trouble". 

 This works two ways, the first is if we've actually had a little arguement. After I have done my female venting, we head to the bedroom and I get pulled over his knee for a good spanking. Hence some good male venting.

 The other way is if we are just in the mood to play, hehehe I'm the school girl and hes the principal. You can add a little skirt and a naughty look. He loves it!

Getting in "trouble" never felt so naughty!

snoopy9992

I am a bi man and my spouce really gets hot when she watches me with another man.

baystateapple

We take "mini-vacations" in our apartment.  Shutting off the phones, closing down the computers, and enjoying each other.  Drawing a hot bath with candles, sexy full-body massage...trying anything new.  It feels like we're taking a mini-honeymoon all over again, and just making time to be with each other is the best.