are you done having kids?

tara07733

We are one and done. We were a bit older (37 & 42) when we had Evan. He's 4 now so that did/does play a part in the decision. Also, I've found that I don't think that I could emotionally or maybe even physically handle juggling 2 or more.

So often I envy or am maybe a little jealous of those who very matter of factly talk of having 2/3/4 kids. Many times I wish that MH and I had been younger when we had kids and that the thought of having more than one was just foregone conclusion. But on the other hand I like where we are financially. We could be a lot better with getting out just the 2 of us but I'm working on that. I know that if we had more it would make 'our' time or 'me' time just that much harder. For us anyway.

browneyedgrl4282

I would love one more but we will see!

suz&mark

Two and through, honey!

penguingrrl

We want one more. Between my time limits with pre-e (births preferably spaced 3 years apart, absolutely no more than 5 years or I'm done per my OB) and the fact that DH is graduating in 4 months it'll be soon if at all.

MrsGabbs4Ed

We are on the fence about it. We are not actively trying (but we're not avoiding either).  We have a house now and definitely have the room should it happen.  If we do have a 3rd someday I will get my tubes tied since I have to have c-sections (already had 2 of them).

turtle520

tara07733:

We are one and done. We were a bit older (37 & 42) when we had Evan. He's 4 now so that did/does play a part in the decision. Also, I've found that I don't think that I could emotionally or maybe even physically handle juggling 2 or more.

J will be 44 this November so that's starting to be a factor in whether we'll have more as well. And honestly, I'm fairly certain having me (#2) pushed my mother over the edge into crazyville so I'm a little nervous that the same might happen to me. I can so relate to your statement above. Thinking of adding a baby to the mix makes me want to take a nap.

~LisaD~

Hopefully not.  We need a few things to fall into place first but I really want a second.  

Pixiestx

I am done. I never saw myself with more than 2, don't think I could handle it, don't have the money/house for it, and after everything we've been through feel lucky just to have the 2 we always wanted.

Jezebel1228

Definitely done. I don't think I/we could physically, mentally or financially handle another.. Then theres the whole issue of being outnumbered. Lol 

Brielle gave/is giving us such a run for our money, that I can't imagine doing this again. Plus, and this may sound selfish, but I am finally taking care of ME. I don't want to lose all of this weight only to let myself go and get fat and pregnant again (b/c that's what I do.) 

Caleb had a rough time when she was born (as expected) and I don't think I could do that to him again.

tara07733

Jezebel1228:

Definitely done. I don't think I/we could physically, mentally or financially handle another.. Then theres the whole issue of being outnumbered. Lol 

Brielle gave/is giving us such a run for our money, that I can't imagine doing this again. Plus, and this may sound selfish, but I am finally taking care of ME. I don't want to lose all of this weight only to let myself go and get fat and pregnant again (v/c that's what I do.) 

Caleb had a rough time when she was born (as expected) and I don't think I could do that to him again.

Taking care of YOU is never selfish. It's necessary for the family which is why I am trying to do the same. When momma's happy, everyone is happy

ATSBRIDE

DH is done, I was back and forth but health issues and concerns have sealed the deal that we are officially done.

jbhoney96

So done!!!!

knittygrl

We are.  My dh is done and while I am too sometimes it makes me sad that this is my last baby.  It goes so fast.  I feel so blessed to have my two girls and I feel like our family is complete.

metucker

I should probably see how this one goes first, but we plan on two. 

veggiechick120

id like two more, but will be happy with however many IVF allows us to have

veggiechick120

Kris2322:

I'll know on Thursday when we find out what we're having.  If it's a girl we're done, if it's another boy I might consider a 3rd.

congrats hun! i didnt know you were pg. yay! 

bbzangel70j

bosha711:

We are not done. 2 is good for me. Can't answer the last part just yet

hmmmmmmm ....

we definitely want 2, and are on the fence about #3. i would like for santino to be potty trained before #2 is in the works. i couldnt imagine having that morning sickness AND changing his disgusting diapers. the kid shiits like a mule. 

njbridein07

Kristen81603:

if no- how many do you want to have and when would like to have them? (obviously baring any issues) 

 

 at this point, I'd like any.  I know you said baring any issues but that is my problem.  there are no issues.. Unexplained infertility on both sides.  Lovely.  If and when it happens, I'd like 2 or 3. 

MazzyStarz

molldoll71:

We are done!  If I were younger richer, etc I woud have another but I have two happy and healthy children so I am blessed.

 

This exactly.  Love my boys.

wed2506

Sadly, yes. I would love one more but financially it dies not make sense. It also took me 2.5 years and two IUI's to have Andrew....I think my body is done too.

Liz051405

I don't know. i think we are done. I always wanted "3 maybe 4". My husband always wanted "2 maybe 3" but 3 was a stretch. Now that we have two a big part of me thinks 3 would be a bad idea, but a small part of me really wants another baby. So its a really tough thing to think about. 

My husband meanwhile is also mostly in the "we are done boat" is more in the "maybe another" boat than he used to be.

I always thought you'd just know you were done, but I guess not? 

nmc29

I had awful PPD with Riley and I don't think I could handle going through that again.  It was hell for a year.

The finances are a big part of it.  Daycare for 1 is stretching us thin and there's no way we could afford another until Riley goes to school.  Age is another factor, by the time we could afford it, I would be 34 and DH would be 44.   While it wouldn't be a problem for me, DH doesn't want to have kids that late.

So, unless we hit the lottery, we are done.

akayf

rbytsdy:

akayf:

we were throwing around the idea of a 3rd before Alex was born but after all the issues I had after the c-section and the fact that I know my dr will not let me VBAC....we are DONE!

I wouldn't have had my 2nd if I couldn't VBAC. I did NOT want another c-section.  But that meant switching doctors. No way would I let any doctor tell me what I can do with my body!!!

#3 was an oops so we are definitely done done done!!!!

I asked her if I would be able to VBAC if we decided to have a 3rd since Danny was a vaginal birth and the only reason I needed a c-section with Alex was fetal distress due to a cord issue(if his heart rate wouldn't have dropped so much with every push, I know with 5-10 minutes of more pushing I would have gotten him out...he was right there...but we didn't have those minutes)    Apparently I have more blood vessels in my uterus than usual and with the way she had to stitch them all up, she said I am not a good canadiate for a VBAC.    

We were pretty much done anyway and there was only a very slim chance of us having a third...well, knowing I would need another c-section basically changed that very slim chance to no way, not gonna happen!!!!!!   

LisaBRM

Yes, I'm done, but, I wish it could be different.

monica92603

If this pregnancy works out, then we are most likely done.  I cannot imagine going through this stress again.  I don't want to keep doing it to my body either. 

I'm going to be almost 38 when this baby comes, God willing, and I would definitely want to wait a while if we even thought of another.  Three c/s in basically 3 years is tough.  When my OB asked if this was it, I said yes, H said "we'll see"........WHAT??  I know he always wanted a bigger family but he knows we have limitations.  My MFM told me 3 sections should be my limit.  In talking to so many people, I know this isn't really the be all end all and more would be possible if my ute looks ok after surgery.

I'd wouldn't want another for 3-4 years and I'm thinking 42 might be a point where I couldn't imagine having more.  If by some chance we ever won the lottery, I'd get a surrogate in a heartbeat! 

Chatty76

I don't feel done but we aren't trying yet either.  Finances are a big factor so we'll see where we are in a year or so.  Daycare for 3 would be insane right now.   

nothingbuthappy

Have two and that's all she wrote!  Done

Reilly626

Done after these two! Thank God too, I could never go through this nausea/ms again- ugh! I give you all with a few credit!

Kari78

The only way I'm having another baby is if we win the lottery or if I get divorced & marry rich so I'd say at the very least WE are done! I also think having them so close together (whoops!) affected the way we feel about another baby. If we had waited I could have worked last year & we would be better off financially & perhaps it wouldn't be so definitive.  I would also like to choose the sex! lol

Traba

After being told I had less than a 2% chance of ever having my own baby, I love that we proved that doctor wrong. After 6 ivf's to have drew and then Cody surprising us, I say you never know. I loved being one of three. I am getting old so if it's going to happen, it has to be really soon.