are you done having kids?

melbride2005

LisaBRM:

Yes, I'm done, but, I wish it could be different.

ditto.   

ckcino

There are times I want a 3rd but I think I'd be spreading myself too thin trying to juggle everything.  Also traveling was a big part of our lives before kids and we are just now getting to experience that again now that the girls are older so selfishly I don't want to start over again and waiting. And then it would also mean cutting back due to cost.  Airline tickets and hotels are $$ and adding another body to the mix would make each big vacation much more money.

Katie&Jason2005

I want one more... the sooner the better.

EricaD521

we go back and forth on this. i'll say we're done, and then Pete will say well.....maybe one more and then he'll say we're done and i'll say maybe not. the truth is, i don't want anymore while we live in this house. it's too small for 4 kids, we could swing it, but only for a short while, kids grow up, and need personal space - which i can't give them much of in this house. but it's hard for me to imagine never being pregnant again. i'd still like to be a surrogate. considering my age - i'll be 29 in april, i still have time i think. one thing Pete and I have decided is that we'll wait until Ellie is 2 before trying for a 4th.

onedigiti

LaKi:

Not done.  Definitely 1 one more - 2 more if I can trick, um, I mean convince my husband.

lol For a while I thought we were One and done. After tricking - wait! Convincing MH number 2 is on the way. God willing everything goes well we are done at 2.

jessNdean

H and I are trying now to have another.  I wish I had one last year! but we had a lot of changes in the last 2 years that it wasn't right timing.  But we are ready now and we both are on the same page of wanting one. Of course it won't be easy this time around again.  I also just got diagnosed with Lupus as of yesterday so I am waiting to talk to my doctor on what he thinks . but yes definitely another one in our future!

junebug1

I have two children, ages 3.5 and 19 months and I AM DONE!!!!!  My husband is calling this week to schedule his vasectomy.  I've been considering a tubal, just to be extra sure, but I'll wait to see what my midwife says about that. 

Apr06

MH was just begging me last night to have a 3rd.  I really don't want to at this point but I said I would decide when I'm 35.  3 more years till then......

I always thought I'd have 3 but I love my girls, they're happy and healthy and I don't feel like anyone is missing.

ladyredlight

Two and thru!  My boys are 8 years apart and after the PG I had with Travis and the challenges he had in the beginning I don't want to go thru that again.  Besides I don't think it would be fair to Corey to be outnumbered by little people.  And it took us 2 years to get PG a 2nd time.  Done!

Jerseyjessie

we are.

I would love another one but I am really liking how everything is right now.

lpwish

I'm definitely done.  If I was younger, I'd have another, and I think my husband wouldn't mind a 3rd.  I just can't do the infancy stage again. 

mrs.marie.g

im DONE. DONE DONE DONE DONE DONE.

I told ken if we have any more kids he has to build me a pool and not one you can buy at toys r us. one where a contractor has to come and dig a great big hole and pour cemement. AND we'd realistically need to buy a bigger house to fit the pool on our property!

Allison711

Yes I "feel" done now...my DH is pushing for #4 though.

mish2378

I would like just one

Andrea0429

I had always wanted 4 kids, but with the troubles we had, I wasn't sure it was going to be possible.  We should be a family of 5 by August and depending on how we all adjust, health issues, etc., I'd like to try for 1 more.  I have embryos frozen, so I'd like to try at least one FET, since we spent the money to freeze them.

GilliMax

There are times I think about it because I really loved being pregnant, but I can never "see" our family as a foursome, so we're done. I'm turning 40 in a couple of months, and Don will be 42 this year. It just isn't in the cards.

randp

we have 2 and are done.  i am 1 of 3 and i always liked having 2 siblings and always wanted 3.  BUT, after having my 2nd we decided that was it.  it is part finances, part keeping my sanity.

kathy28

I am done, had my tubes tied on Friday!

CrisA0922

Not done. I would like to have at least one more...maybe 2. We'll be waiting until Olivia is a little older to start trying though.

atwood345

Pretty sure we're done at two. There's a part of me that wants a 3rd, but I know I'd be spreading myself too thin and test my patience too much. I am jealous of the girls who can handle it. On the other hand, I love having 1 of each, we feel complete.

racheyt0227

I would like 2. I would love them about 2 years apart, but unfortunately I don't get a lot of say in the matter. I guess it depends on how many I get doing IVF. If I have twins, I am def done.

AmyRob04

We went back and forth for a long time. We had a "come to Jesus" talk a few months ago and were teetering on the edge of having a second, but when it comes down to it - we like our life the way it is now, with one kid, and having a lot of freedom to do as we wish, in terms of finances and time. We're selfish and like to spoil our kid and ourselves and we admit it. Plus, I'm 38 - I really don't want to get pregnant and "deal" with a newborn again now. If I was a few years younger, it'd be different, but my focus lies elsewhere.

hookersbabe

GilliMax:

There are times I think about it because I really loved being pregnant, but I can never "see" our family as a foursome, so we're done. 

this is where i am as well...and dan feels the same about the foursome part...we are beyond thrilled with our little clan...we like where we stand financially and what we can provide her with...

HarrietNJMommy

We've been saying we're done at 3 for a while now...........

AngRoMarSi

DH is done...I'm on the fence but leaning towards being done.

didntelope

Yup. Totes. My guy had a v, but even if he hadn't, I'd still be dunzo.

JSK71606

Yes.

For a while I thought maybe we might go for another, but MH is totally done. Life feels right with the 4 of us. 

ddelo23

After this one, we say we're done.  BUT...I will be 30 in April, so I won't ever say NEVER.  Once Carys is out of daycare, we may re-evaluate, but it completely depends on my sanity level by that time.  At this point, I'm tetering between insane and losing my shyte completely

rbytsdy

akayf:

I asked her if I would be able to VBAC if we decided to have a 3rd since Danny was a vaginal birth and the only reason I needed a c-section with Alex was fetal distress due to a cord issue(if his heart rate wouldn't have dropped so much with every push, I know with 5-10 minutes of more pushing I would have gotten him out...he was right there...but we didn't have those minutes)    Apparently I have more blood vessels in my uterus than usual and with the way she had to stitch them all up, she said I am not a good canadiate for a VBAC.    

We were pretty much done anyway and there was only a very slim chance of us having a third...well, knowing I would need another c-section basically changed that very slim chance to no way, not gonna happen!!!!!!   

Really?  That's interesting.  It doesn't make much sense though.  If she had a hard time stitching you up due to bleeding and blood vessels, it seems like it would be safer to VBAC and not have to get your uterus stitched up.  You'll lose about twice as much blood during a c-section.  Most of the post birth bleeding is from the area of your uterus where the placenta was.  Basically the uterus contracts back down to stop the bleeding because you have a big wound there after the placenta detaches.  A c-section can't help that.  They have to massage the uterus or give you pitocin.  A breastfeeding baby also causes contractions to make the uterus shrink back down.  I just hate when doctors tell their patients that they "can't" VBAC.  It's not their body!  I would get a 2nd opinion with another pregnancy but that's just me!!!  Many doctors just don't like to do VBACs (they say they do VBACs but they really don't unless you go into labor at 37 weeks and show up pushing!!)

Mrs.P0405

We are still on the fence about whether we are one and done or if we'll have a second.  We feel the same way as some others...that we are happy with how it is and can't picture us as a family of four. But,  I know most people with one child can't picture how they could love another one as much, but then of course, they do. We still have quite a few years to figure it out.