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Re: I'm too anxious for this gig
Awww, Tamb. {{hugs}} You're only 9 days in! It's a crazy time for your body right now, and being sleep deprived doesn't help. It's normal to worry about her - I remember putting DD1 in her crib and thinking 'whatthehell do I do now?' DD2 was a terrible sleeper at first, and she would sleep in her bouncy seat sometimes. But it wore off and she was fine in her crib after a while.
Go to Target. Enjoy the afternoon.
I used to wake up my kids at night to make sure they are still alive. Then I'd cry because I couldn't get them back to sleep.
It is so hard when they are little. Then you wake up one day and they survived the first year and you relax. It will be ok.
Oh and do what feels right to you. I never let them cry at that age, even if it meant driving myself crazy. And it is ok to sleep with your baby if it makes you feel good.
Give yourself some time for the hormones to level out, and then see how you are doing. I got PPD with both kids, but was (am) fine once on ADs. But at 1 week, it is most likely normal stress and exhaustion.
(((hugs)))
Remember how five years ago you wouldn't get on an airplane?
You are experiencing what ALL NEW MOMS experience, so don't think that your anxiety actually has anything to do with your anxiety right now.
Plus your whoremoans are all in a flutter and fuucked up.
You are fine, Joanna is fine, you are and will continue to be a good mother.
This period is so hard - just try to be calm and please call me if you ever need me to say, 'dude chill' in my smoky, quiet calming voice.
I love you a lot.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I just lurk, but I want to echo what a lot of other people are saying- what you're feeling is so normal, the lack of sleep and the hormones' being out of whack are amplifying your feelings, babies are resilient, etc. You're okay, you're just worried- welcome to motherhood!
Two things: 1) I see the Snuga Bunny bouncer chair in your sig pic- my baby slept in that thing for the first two months of her life (in the living room for naps, in the hallway while I showered, and beside our bed at night) because I could NOT put her down otherwise. If it not for that thing, I would not have made it through the first couple of months. We swaddled her and strapped her in, turned on the vibrating function, and then bounced the chair with our foot. Maybe try that instead of the bassinet? 2) Someone else mentioned the Fourth Trimester. The book The Happiest Baby on the Block really goes into this (I hear the DVD is better and quicker, though). My pediatrician recommended it- basically, you need to recreate the womb. It sounds cumbersome, but once you resign yourself to it, and stop hearing a screaming baby all the time, it's such a relief.