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Re: Desperate for help: being sued!
at least she's entertaining. Sad thing is, there probably are people out there like this.
Are you 16?
Because you're acting like a sullen teenager.
I agree!
A night shift job would be a great idea.
What do you mean you are the only one who can care for your child? The child has a FATHER!
I think maybe you SHOULD be taken to jail and have the child placed with the father. That might smarten you up quickly
Dude, how many excuses are you going to come up with???
THere are also teenage girls(and yes, boys) who do babysitting! And if not a high school girl or boy, what about a college kid???
Selfish, immature, and just plain dumb.
just go to court, get on the stand, tell them you are a single mom and unemployed. Deny that you are married.
then let us know when you go to jail for contempt of court AND perjury so we can laugh our rear ends off at you!
and she has a husband. So the kid had a dad and a step dad. So the poor pitiful single mom sob story doesn't work. To the OP, get the kids dad or dads parents to watch the kid, get your parents to watch the kid, or heaven forbid get your current husband to watch the kid. If you say our current husband can't watch the kid then you married stupidly. I would never marry someone of they weren't willing to treat my children as their own and "babysit" when necessary (though I strongly believe t doesn't count as babysitting if you are the mom dad or step parent).
Have you ever heard the phrase "tell it to the judge"?
THIS.
Like, I want to feel badly that ya'll are ripping her a new one, but I can't. This is just too... I don't even know what this is... This is seriously the most absurd thing I've ever run across on the internet.
How are there really people like this?
LOL, on the Bump in December she had a 2-week-old daughter and a 6yo son and was dreading going back to work and hated her husband. But now she has a 14mo son and is a SAHM. She would have to have been pregnant with both babies at the same time with different gestation ages to have an almost-8mo daughter, and a 14mo son.
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/70666939.aspx
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What will happen depends entirely on what state you're in.
In the state of Illinois, if you were successfully served a judgment has been entered against you. They could have issued a Citation. Failure to appear at the citation can result in a Rule to Show Cause. Failure to appear at that results in a Body Attachment, otherwise known as a warrant for your arrest and jail time (and yes, you can still be locked up even if you have a child. If you weren't married you would have to arrange someone to look after the child.. that is if CPS wasn't involved by then). The jail time is most likely not punishment for the debt, you're being punished for not attending court hearings. that's where you've been the most stupid. When you fail to appear, stuff STILL HAPPENS! Never fails to amaze me that people think burying their head in the sand makes things go away.
A citation is when they ask you to explain your assets/debts and all that stuff. Because the debt was incurred prior to your marriage your husband is not involved and he SHOULD NOT pay it. If he makes any payments on it (even from a joint bank account) then they can say he admits liability. You should not have any joint bank accounts. Any money in accounts with your name can be seized towards payment of the debt.
If you don't earn any money they can't garnish your wages. If you don't own property then they can't put a lien on it. They CAN come after you at any point, they CAN pursue the debt after your death (from your estate). You should make payments from your tax return as well (filing separately from your husband until this is dealt with is safest).
It is in your best interest to either hire an attorney (there are some legal aid offices that might be able to help you) at least to find out what has happened while your didn't attend court (so what stage you're at). If you don't want to hire an attorney, then call HIS attorney (they can't advise you) and make an offer for payment. X amount per week/month or something.
I suggest you get a job, or take out a loan (obviously not possible if you file bankruptcy), or sell stuff, to pay off the debt. A colleague of mine is facing collections because her ex-husband of over 6 years didn't pay a marital debt that he was supposed to pay. She is a single mother of 4 children. She doesn't even earn enough to be garnished but they could put a lien on her house, because of her deadbeat ex... so I'm sorry but I don't have any sympathy for your current situation, just for the issues you're now causing your husband.
Exactly how old are you? Wait never mind, I don't want to know because I would be grossly disappointed to know that a grown woman--especially one with children--could act like this. Yes, you seriously can and will go to jail. Marriage, divorce, and the birth of children are all recorded by the state with LEGAL documentation. Therefore, it becomes nearly impossible to hide these things from the law and if you do, you will find yourself in an even bigger mess than you have already created.
A word of advice, come clean about everything. March your happy little butt down to the court house, turn yourself in before your child has to see you dragged out of your home in handcuffs, and attempt to bargain with the judge. See if they are willing to make a deal such as a payment plan. Granted you will likely have to uphold certain standards ie: a full time job. However it is better than jail, yes? On a final note, grow up and take responsibility for your actions.