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We have had to move in with family due to financial issues- and my husband and I have been together since highschool, so to spice things up and give us some privacy we like to hop in the car and pull over somewhere we might have visited in in our earlier years together. It gets our adrenaline going, having to make sure my hair is fixed and my shoes are on the right feet before we get out of the car, just like old times
We have had to move in with family due to financial issues- and my husband and I have been together since highschool, so to spice things up and give us some privacy we like to hop in the car and pull over somewhere we might have visited in in our earlier years together. It gets our adrenaline going, having to make sure my hair is fixed and my shoes are on the right feet before we get out of the car, just like old times
Intimacy, up to and including sex, should always be a priority in a marriage. All too often, men equate love with sex. Sex is a physical reminder to them of the love that you share. Through sex you can show your husband how much you adore and cherish him and your marriage. No matter what outside factors are taking your time and attention it is always important to make time for intimacy.
That being said, scheduling sex doesn't work for us, it seems so forced and takes a lot of the enjoyment away from it. Spontaneity is the key. Surprising your husband with a great BJ while your child is napping "just because" is an excellent way of showing him just how much he means to you.
We now have a 9 month old daughter and keeping the romance alive while surrounded by exersaucers and blocks has become more difficult. Our bedroom is truly our sanctuary. None of her toys or any other gear is in there, it's a place for us and only us. We have had to get a lot more creative with our sex life nowadays and it has really turned the heat up. These are my top 3 tips for working parents who want to put the spice back in their marriage:
1. I'll send him a sexy text and ask him to meet me at home for lunch while our daughter is still at daycare. The mid-day quickie makes the rest of the work day so much better knowing that you had great sex while everyone else was just eating a sandwich in the break room. My husband says he can't stop smiling for the rest of the day knowing that we have this dirty little secret.
2. If our daughter wakes in the middle of the night my husband loves it when I climb back into bed with nothing on and "take advantage of him". Many nights it can be so easy to overlook this opportunity. Excuses come forth like "I have to be up in 3 hours" or "I'm so tired, I just couldn't". Don't pass up a golden situation while your child is sleeping to surprise your husband with great sex where you shower him with attention. Be sure to be wake him up very nicely, though, covering him in sensual kisses instead of just climbing on top of him naked and waking him abruptly (how would you like that?!). Also, it's fun to get him so riled up he wants to scream, but knows he can't for fear of waking the baby.
3. We try to schedule a date night at least once a week and we always make a pit stop at home for some sexy time before picking our girl up from the in-law's house. It makes dinner so much more erotic and anticipatory knowing that once you leave you get to go home and do to each other what you haven't been able to with in lunch time quickies and middle of the night trying to be quiet sessions. He usually tries to rush through dinner to get me home, but I love ordering coffee and dessert just to make him wait it out a little while longer. While feeding him dessert it's great to describe to him what I'm wearing under my dress and what I want to do to him when we get home. Watching his face is classic, and the build up is half the fun!
To keep the romance factor on HIGH, at least three times a month, randomly I will transform our one bed room apartment into the our own private paradise. I pick one specific theme and roll with it the entire night, music, food, activities--even down to my 'outfit'
For example, our last romantic voyage was to Cabo San Lucas. When he got home he entered a candlelit living room with soft mexican jazz in the back ground. We kept up the romance by feeding each other chocolate, and sipped on margaritas until the heat was too intense. I had one last surprise--a pinata filled with a new array of bedroom toys! Once we got into the bedroom I had it set up with white sheets everywhere to resemble our own secluded villa. And for my lingerie, I had found an adorable matching white, red, and green (Mexico's flag colors) outfit (which at this point, I do not believe he could recall the colors if he tried!)
I always try to remember that having fun and being romantic can go hand in hand very nicely in the bedroom, and he cannot wait until our next getaway!!
Two words: Hotel sex. We love to travel, and it's always better when it's not at our place. :-)
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When we come home from work we always make ourselves cocktails. One night we decided that each cocktail stood for a different mood we were in. Wine meant we wanted a romantic night. Screwdrivers meant we wanted something kinky. Etc... After making our list, we decided that each night we would make eachother a cocktail to communicate the type of mood we were in, in a sexier way. Even if we weren't in the same type of mood, it always worked out. A sex life will always be a little more fun without all the sloppy communication about when and where and how you're going to do it.
-Sarah
I like to suprise him with different moves. The most recent one I did was:
I kissed about 15 napkins with bright red lipstick to make a pathway to where I was at. When he came home, he followed my "love" pathway and I was awaiting for him in the kitchen with dinner ready and just a pair of sexy cheeky underwear and his favorite pair of high heels on. Boy, was he happy!
Guys love to know that they still turn you on. Next time your in the car together reach over and rub his thigh a little bit. Give him a smile, work your way up and by the time you get home you'll both be ready to go.
For valentines day, I got a brazilian wax without telling him the morning of. That night we went to a local hotel, had a romantic dinner, and back at the room the new "hair cut" blew his socks off! I also try and use different clothes as lingerie...for example, that night, instead of buying a new outfit (the wax had already hit my wallet!) I just put on a little black vest with matching undies...it sure surprised him to see that vest in a new light:)
The most important part of sex, though, is diving into it, whether you feel like it or not. Leaning into it gets the mood up pretty quickly!
Guys love to know that they still turn you on. Next time you are in the car together reach over and rub his thigh a little bit. Give him a smile, work your way up rubbing over his pants and by the time you get home you'll both be ready to go.
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Once a month my husband and I have sexy days. We prepare for them by going to the store stocking up on food, snacks, and wine. We know that on a sexy day we aren?t going anywhere but the bedroom. We spend the entire day and night just together with nothing else on the agenda but being together. Taking the time to dedicate to each other without other distractions lets us really let go and give our whole selves to each other. As the day goes on our sexy days get better. From massages to making love and everything in between we are able to connect on a much deeper level. Dedicating a day where you know you aren?t going to do anything else really allows you to let go of those to do lists. From the start you aren?t thinking about the everyday to do list and stress focusing on each other. We always look forward to our sexy days and after a day dedicated just to us, we always find that it carries through into the days to come.
Once a month my husband and I have sexy days. We prepare for them by going to the store stocking up on food, snacks, and wine. We know that on a sexy day we aren?t going anywhere but the bedroom. We spend the entire day and night just together with nothing else on the agenda but being together. Taking the time to dedicate to each other without other distractions lets us really let go and give our whole selves to each other. As the day goes on our sexy days get better. From massages to making love and everything in between we are able to connect on a much deeper level. Dedicating a day where you know you aren?t going to do anything else really allows you to let go of those to do lists. From the start you aren?t thinking about the everyday to do list and stress focusing on each other. We always look forward to our sexy days and after a day dedicated just to us, we always find that it carries through into the days to come.
Our sexy includes a combination of different things. We like to keep things interesting by sending sexy pics to each other...when he's at the gym, when I'm getting dressed. Then continuing that throughout the day, sometimes it's rather difficult to concentrate. We continue by getting home and cooking dinner together, where we can't keep our hands off of each other...this continues by being spontaneous throughout the house, tables, counters, washing machine. We sometimes move the "action" to the bathroom, where soap suds become foreplay. If time permits, we finish on the bathroom floor or counter or just move it to the bed. We end with more touching and caressing for the "after" effect...and finally some recaping. It's so much fun.
Beyond how amazing sex feels and how good it is for both of our health, we personally have other motives for having sex. On our wedding night my husband and I vowed to always keep the lines of communication open between us. By having a good sex life with lots of variety (be it different positions, my lingerie, or trying massage oils) we find that we communicate better. Both of us agree that we are the most vulnerable after a morning, noon, or night nookie. We feel that the barriers of our society are broken down and when it's just the two of us lying there completely naked we are able to express our emotions to each other. Some of the best conversations, life decisions, and agreements have been after sex. So I firmly believe that without sex we wouldn?t be able to communicate as wonderful as we do.
My advice would be: instead of thinking of sex as a priority, think of your spouse as the priority because there is nothing more perfect than being with them in that moment with no consideration for the rest of the world. With the lives couples lead these days, we deserve to be a little selfish!
- Sammys1120