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Never say no. Even if it's just a quickie try to fit it in, I've found that some of the best times have been when I'm "not in the mood". My husband has a way of getting me in the mood.
Nothing kills sex drive like your partner saying, "Nah, I just don't feel like it..." go for it and see what happens!!!
Tabatha Dickman
2801 Fairacres Rd
Huntsville, AL 35805
256-609-9300
We don't have a problem at all keeping sex a priority in our relationship, but I think it's because of a few things that we already do:
1. no TV in the bedroom. The bedroom is strictly "us time." Every night before we fall asleep we like to just lay in bed and chat with each other for about a half hour. It brings us closer and we laugh and tell each other stories about our pasts, friends, family, etc.
2. Naked movie nights--- just sit on the couch with your significant other an watch a movie-- sans clothes. It's a favorite of ours.
3. When I get home from work I always change into something comfortable, which for me is usually just underwear and a tank top or a cotton bedshirt, sometimes a nightgown and robe. He gets home from work and likes to see me like that.
Our physical relationship is extremely important to us, but we don't make it a job. It has to be natural and fun and always is.
In order to keep things hot in bed expecially since I am now pregnant is that we make each other laugh a lot. We do some tickling. Some massaging using lotions and oils. But I think most of all we lay in bed together naked and just make each other laugh. Then during sex we are definitely experimenting with new positions that make it more comfortable for me.
He love's when i in to something sexy!
I love my husband's days off. Those are the days that I know I'll get lucky. The seduction starts off in the morning, and will last all day. A flirtatious look, will turn into a moment stolen behind a closed door for a little touch and kiss. As we have three children there are always 2 children home at a time. So all stolen moments are quick. By the time the kids go to bed, we are ready for "our" time together. And its nice to slow things down and explore each others bodies.
After 5 years we are still exploring new ways to make each other happy.
I love my husband's days off. Those are the days that I know I'll get lucky. The seduction starts off in the morning, and will last all day. A flirtatious look, will turn into a moment stolen behind a closed door for a little touch and kiss. As we have three children there are always 2 children home at a time. So all stolen moments are quick. By the time the kids go to bed, we are ready for "our" time together. And its nice to slow things down and explore each others bodies.
After 5 years we are still exploring new ways to make each other happy.
After buying my awesome white wedding lingerie, I was sad at the thought that I'd never wear it again - so instead, I did! I put the whole deal back on for every monthly anniversary during our year as newlyweds, and it always got my hubby going.
So then, I decided to get a new sexy outfit and revealed it on our one year anniversary! Now I wear that one every month, and intend to keep surprising him with a new special outfit every year, to wear on our mini-anniversaries every month. Now my hubby always looks forward to the 10th of the month, and ALWAYS remembers exactly how long we've been married, haha.
P.S. His part of the deal is to supply a nice bottle of wine to compliment my outfit! :-D
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2. Normally, I have to catch him by surprise. DH gets tired a lot so there are numerous things I do in order to do, "the married tango". One thing he loves is when women wear dresses. I will throw on a sexy dress with a pair of stiletto heels with no bra and panties on and ask him if he wants to. At this point, he is putty and nods without speaking. He will still sit there and I take my dress off in front of him and let it fall to the floor all while looking at him with my sexiest look. I turn around and walk to the bedroom. He follows like I have put a spell on him. Sometimes, I become dominant and tell him I want him. . . now! I will take his clothes off and kiss his neck and chest. That is enough to get him going. The only thing in common is that I have to tell him I want sex or ask if he wants sex and go though with it. Because we both have crazy schedules I work out to keep my energy up because if I do not, the dry spells occur. Next idea for us. . . taking him in the shower.
Make it an ALL day affair!
Don't just wait until you get home from work to roll around in the sheets (by that time, all the frustrations of the day have already taken a toll on your mood). It may start with a quickie in the morning, or even something as simple as leaving the bathroom door open and giving him a full view of you undressing to get in the shower in the morning. But don't stop there! I sometimes leave my husband "love notes" on the bathroom mirror (since I'm usually up first) and he'll send me sext text messages ("sexts") throughout the day. Not only do these naughty messages add to the anticipation of the night's activities, but it adds a fun level of intimacy between you and your mate (your co-workers don't have any idea what has you smiling so hard during your budget meeting). You'll be so HOT by the end of the day, you may not make it through dinner
First off, unless you are ill, don't refuse your hubby! It's easy to be there for them in that way and it means so much to them.
I think men are simple and don't need all the bells and whistles. My husband doesn't care for lingerie. He loves me in an old gray t-shirt, boy short undies, no bra...no makeup. He likes the natural me. I think the biggest turn on for him, and maybe many other husbands, would be their wife in all her natural glory, wearing boy short undies, hair in a messy bun, old ratty t-shirt...light some candles, put on some tunes and greet him in his favorite recliner...from there, let your imagination run wild.
Another thing, men don't need things careful and neat in the love-making department...if you are a little clumsy, if you slobber a little during "paying him the favor", or you make silly slurpy noises, it may actually turn him on a lot more than you would think. From my experience, my husband loves when I get a little messy and wild. It shows him I am in to it and don't care about being perfect. Most importantly, have fun and be playful with him. You are the only person he is doing this with, so make it special, fun and playful for him, as well as for yourself. He wants you to be pleased just as much as he wants it for himself.
We try to keep sex interesting and exciting by finding new places to "have fun". It is the best way we have found to keep our sex life a priority. Being risky makes us feel like we are still only dating. We especially like sneaking out to the pasture in the kubota or pulling over in an abandoned parking lot or, our favorite, sex while driving during the day.
We always try to make time for the two of us to be alone. It seems that if we can accomplish that the rest is easy. Even if it is just snuggling up on the couch to watch a tv show. When we find time for each other the rest is simple. It will never seem to amaze me how just him rubbing my back or me scratching his head and get things started.
Even though we have a busy family (4 kids, 2 dogs, 2 cats) we still make time for each other. When the kids are gone, we have at least one "naked day" a week. We do everything we normally would when we get home from work, just without clothes on.
We also keep the spark alive with text messaging throughout the day, from stuff like I miss your smile today, to, when I get home, I am ripping all your clothes off.
We have also had sexy "photography sessions" which keep it interesting, and I will print out wallet sized pictures that he has taken and tuck them into his wallet for him to find later.
Even though we are a busy family, and are constantly on the go, we still manage to keep our sex life very much alive, and I love every second of it!
Jeh07
We?ve all heard that good lovers are made, not born. Openly discussing sex has been absolutely vital to our relationship. We make sure to lovingly share our desires, frustrations and expectations with each other ? if we don?t, it only breeds further frustration.
The television was banished from our bedroom very early on in our marriage; as a result, our bed is either for sleeping or sex! Not too long ago, I tried convincing him to put a TV in our bedroom but he stuck to our guns (for me!).
I love surprising my husband with sexy and suggestive texts. Periodically, after he has gone to sleep, I'll sneak out to his truck and leave notes for him on the dash. We've been known (well, actually I hope no one else besides us know this -- except you, and you won't tell a soul, right? ) to do some very naughty things in some very public places! It makes for this great secret that only he and I know. It?s so much fun to reminisce about it too ? ?Remember that time when we?..???
Finally, don?t be afraid to laugh about sex. Sex is funny and wonderful!
We have a strict zero TV in the bedroom rule. The rule is that the bedroom is for sexin' and sleepin' ONLY.
Another idea is a scavenger hunt. My husband did this for our fourth anniversary. He left me a clue on my pillow that Saturday morning, and it took me to our first meeting place, then to the place we first kissed, on and on. This can be done on a much smaller scale as well... I leave him an article of clothing in the entry way to our house with a clue as to where the next piece is, until he finds me naked
Lastly, we make it a point to talk openly about our fantasies and what we like to do, see, feel, etc. I even send him the 'Hump Day" pictures from TheChive.com because I know he appreciates a nice tushy lol. We make time to turn each other on in little ways every day.
My husbadn and I keep it quite regular and really fun in the bedroom. I think the biggest thing that ensures that (as cliche as it might sound) is our great love for each other! Sex isn't a chore, it's a delight! Also, it helps that he's SOOO cute!!
Ashley Wauhop - 10645 Valley Spring Ln, APt 9, North Hollywood, CA 91602, Phone: 302.690.4417, Born: 7.30.87, email:ajhops4@gmail.com
As a yoga teacher from San Francisco, I bring a yogic perspective into our relationship to keep things sensual, harmonious, and passionate for my husband and me. According to Ayurvedic medicine, the 5,000-year-old medical system from India, being mentally and physically relaxed are essential components to a healthy and satisfying love life. In order to keep feeling relaxed and sexy, my husband and I practice yoga together, cultivate a tranquil home space together, and get plenty of sleep and exercise. These practices help to nourish the reproductive system, increase fertility and sexual desire, promote healthy aging, and alleviate anxiety and depression. A relaxed couple is a sexy couple!