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marchgal22 · February 2011

My husband is in the military, so we go for long periods without seeing each other. When we're apart, we'll use letters to express our fantasies, and then when he comes home, we make a reservation at a nice hotel downtown and spend some time turning those letters into a reality. Of course, the months apart works well to keep things sizzling on their own for a while when he gets back! :-)

melissaalida · February 2011

We are very proactive about maintaining intimacy in our relationship.

We are not too comfortable with each other (no farting in front of each other, bathroom doors are closed when in use, we use manners, we take care of personal hygiene, etc.) My husband will lay out lingerie for me that he would like to see me in later. After my husband showers at night, he comes to bed naked.
We respectfully interact in all areas of our relationship. We do not cut each other down when we have an issue that needs to be addressed; we listen and rather than blaming or getting defensive, we really try to see the big picture and work together towards a resolution. We are quick to seek forgiveness and to forgive. By doing this, there are no wounds that carry over to ?the bedroom? to cause either of us to shut down.
We take care of our bodies and consciously try to look our best. Even if we are just around the house, we consciously put effort into our appearance. (I wear makeup and do my hair, choose clothes that are flattering even if I do not plan on leaving the house, etc.) We respect each others ?likes? - I know that my husband likes my hair long and curly, so I do not cut it short or straighten it. He knows I prefer his goatee trimmed and neat, so he maintains his facial hair. We do not talk negatively about our bodies and make a point to be edifying. My husband regularly tells me how beautiful and sexy I am to him. We reassure each other that we are glad that we are together and happy that we are married.
We make sure that needs and desires are met with open communication about what we like, what we would like to try, and what we would like to see more of in our sexual relationship. We guard our sex life by committing to no pornography or mental fantasy with anyone except for each other and actively do things like sending suggestive pictures and text messages of what we would like to do, and then when we are together, we do them. We make sure to kiss each other when we depart and meet back up again. We still hold hands and touch as we pass.
My husband romances me by surprising me with flowers, making sure my car is warm in the morning when I leave for work and he writes ?I love you? messages where I can find them. I prepare his lunch and add surprises (pictures, love notes, etc) for him to enjoy during the day when we are apart.

beckylee17 · February 2011

in a casual phone call or email as we talk about what we need to do that night, one of us will add "have sex" to the list. we like to be spontaneous too!

shamrockerin1999@hotmail.com · February 2011

With a one year old and another one on the way, we do our best to have a "date night" as may times a week as we can get in. Cause once I get bigger, it gets alot harder to get the deed done. But I find that back rubs always lead to sex, so I ask for alot of those!

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alishavirginia · February 2011

My husband is very proactive sexually as I am also. Recently i found myself on a temporary decline, not so much because i didn't want him but more because he was so amped up and ready that it was hurting me. We have found that a wonderful lubricant and prolong foreplay (be it with toys or other wise ;-) ;-) ) has done wonders. It makes me more comfortable which makes it more enjoyable for both of us.

truirish23 · February 2011

we spent alone time together. no computer ot tv, usually starts with a tickle fight. I should say him tickling me and I try to get out of it. Will usually which to something else like I wanted to put chapstick on him and he hid under the blankets from me.

Its all about messing around and having fun and it doesnt start in a sexual way. : )

kalma1ac · February 2011

I work 2 jobs and my husband is in the military so having sex is far and few between at times. It's always nice when u make a meal with some wine and candles and then move to bed and "make love". But let's get real, who has time to do all that? I usually just jump on top of my husband wherever he is in the house and let things heat up! It makes it really exciting excpecially cuz he doesn't know when it's coming. One time he was watching his favorite hockey team and when they won I just got naked and jumped on top of him, he loved it! Keeping the excitement in a marriage when it cones to sex is really important so it doesn't become routine.

lisajo1123 · February 2011

I threw caution to the wind, swallowed my pride, and chucked my inhibitions out the window for our one year anniversary by purchasing a sexy cop outfit, downing a couple glasses of wine, and giving my husband a long, sexy strip tease. Although I was nervous at first, once I saw the look on his face and the "proof" that I was doing alright, I let go and had a BLAST! We had a very steamy session on the chair, floor, couch, and finally shower

Just thinking about that night helps us keep sex on the top of our list!

tonyamae · February 2011

I come home from work and spend the next 2 hours getting ready for him to come home. I cook dinner, light candles, turn down our bed, take a shower, do my makeup, get something sexy on and greet him at the door with a cold beer. I do it every few weeks, he never knows when it will happen but loves when I do. When he gets home, I serve him dinner or just serve him.

He thinks it makes him feel wanted and validated and it makes me feel sexy.

cmowder1215 · February 2011

We

cmowder1215 · February 2011

We keep it exciting by having a different theme each night of the week:

Sensual Sunday
Make-Out Monday
Toe-curling Tuesday
Wacky Wednesday (have sex in a wacky, out of the ordinary place)
Tipsy Thursday (sex after a few drinks lets all those inhibitions go out the window)
Friday Night Fantasy
Strip Tease Saturday

What couple wouldn't look forward to that weekly line up? Sometimes we even get a wild card day in there to do whatever we feel like!

ddaggett · February 2011

Lack of sex usually includes lack of communication, so my husband and I have his/hers lingerie that sends a clear message. His "man" lingerie is just a pair of boxer briefs that accentuate his "assets". It cracks him up that they really turn me on, so whenever he needs to get my attention he'll slip them on. Message received! Of course, Negative Nelly's will say "what's the point? Lingerie only ends up on the floor after 5 mins!" but even though that's probably true its all about the effort.

SaraLinnMP · February 2011

We carve out a couple hours one day a month and take a bath together. We go all out---dozens of candles, aromatherapy bubble bath, Van Morrison playing (the cheesier the better), etc. No sex for at least a half hour or so, just a lot of romantic foreplay. It's a wonderful way to wind down and reconnect!

laurataco · February 2011

We pretend our couch is double wide and we snuggle up to watch a movie together on a weekday. By mid movie you can't help but to get even closer! By turning an innocent daily activity into a steamy moment keeps us connected even through the days we can't fit in "couch time".

illinigal · February 2011

We keep things sizzling in the bedroom by keeping the house a little bit cold that way we have to keep each other warm. Smile

MusicalMegan · February 2011

We're military so it keeps things new and exciting and more like a honeymoon but we like to keep as much going as we can. ?While he's gone we have one sexy email a month where we share fantasies or ideas for what to do when he gets home. It gets us thinking of new ideas and keeps us thinking of each other! Then when he gets home after the honeymoon period ends we pull out those emails and slowly go through them until the next deployment! Its nice because the walls are down when you're writing it in an email so we've learned a lot more about each other as far as what we like and its really strengthened our relationship.?

brooke86 · February 2011

My husband is currently deployed to Afghanistan, so it is very important for us to keep an emotional and a sexual connection while he is gone. When we get the opportunity to talk via email or over the phone we flirt, make plans of what we are going to do together when he comes home, and swap the occasional sexy pic. It's a big moral booster for him to get an email that makes him smile or a picture of me in my booty shorts.. lets just say we will defiantly be ready for his homecoming after some long-term long-distance foreplay!

It's all about the build up ladies! Wink

estheticsguru · February 2011

I like spontaneity and hot sex. Let's face it-when we first start dating we get that all the time; that hot, every time we touch I wanna take rip your pants off sex. As the years go on we have to create that feeling and it is sometimes hard to do. So my husband knows that I like to be surprised and jumped at the way it used to be when it all started and it doesn't have to go for hours...just enough to feel that passion!

kaelra · February 2011

This is the BEST so far!! I wish I'd thought of it, haha! (DH says "I'm in"!)

LindseyVacc · February 2011

Being honest with each other about what we want and how we feel...also lots and lots of kisses!

kailamitchell · February 2011

We work out together!! Working up a sweat and oogling his body is definately a turn on for me!! Yoga is also really great for getting the creative juices flowing

I'm also a big fan of getting really flirty and touchy/feely with him in public, ie, patting his butt, grazing his "package", doing cute little over the shoulder looks with an added, subtle "booty pop". Especially on nights like out bowling league night, when he has to wait for a certain amount of time until we get home. Anticipation is wonderful!

akashdixit · February 2011

While my guy and I may be busy, we manage to have sex at least once a day, and sometimes up to 3. When our lives are so hectic and stressful, sex is the easiest way to unwind and make us feel closer. Sex relieves stress and tension, helps us sleep, makes us feel sexy and confident... why wouldn't it be at the top of our priority list? To keep things spicy, at least once a month the kids go to their grandma's house, and we have no restrictions

. This is usually when the 3 times a day takes place... we use this opportunity to have sex all over the house - the couch, the living room floor, the dining table, wherever the mood strikes us. I also use this opportunity to be as loud as I want, which he LOVES. On the days that the girls are home, we obviously have to be silent which is also fun since it makes us feel like we are sneaking around. To keep things interesting on these somewhat boring days, I will sometimes put on lingerie (it doesn't even have to be new to excite him), and change my hairstyle - down there. He loves when I change it up down there. It makes him feel like I'm trying to keep things fresh, and doing something just for him. Even if I just take a little extra off the sides, he notices and appreciates it. Changing positions is a must. I was always afraid of the reverse cowgirl, but I tried one night after a glass of wine, and it has been one of my favorites ever since. We also take the time to go spend a weekend in a local hotel to get away from everything once in a while. Another great time to lose restrictions. And finally, I work out at home with a set of DVDs. Sometimes I surprise him by exercising in my underwear, and let him sit on the couch behind me to watch...

MaryKatie3 · February 2011

We work different hours so I go to bed early and get up early, whereas he goes to bed at 3am and gets up late. We rarely see eachother during the week but we try to be spontaneous!

Instead of worrying about dinner why not have a session in the sack? Don't feel like bed time is the only time to have some fun!

I also like to surprise him when he comes home from work wearing different lingerie or outfits It always adds fun to the night!

paige713 · February 2011

We tried scheduling "sex dates" and it just hasn't worked for us! With a new baby on board, energy has been almost non existant.

So for us, getting the little one to bed and having some rest with a massage or two is like going to the spa lately! Being romantic to me has now turned into watching my hubby sing our little one to sleep on those rough nights where you just think your going to burst into tears you're so tired from work, at work, and at home when you come home to the little one.

Keeping our sex life going is most definitely a challenge. But when we get those spirts of energy after waking up at 3 in the morning wondering why the babys not crying, turn to eachother and smile, all it takes is a little snuggle to get things heated! lol

With that being said, touch and a few loving words, I believe are what truely keep us coming back for more.

paige713 · February 2011

We tried scheduling "sex dates" and it just hasn't worked for us! With a new baby on board, energy has been almost non existant.

So for us, getting the little one to bed and having some rest with a massage or two is like going to the spa lately! Being romantic to me has now turned into watching my hubby sing our little one to sleep on those rough nights where you just think your going to burst into tears you're so tired from work, at work, and at home when you come home to the little one.

Keeping our sex life going is most definitely a challenge. But when we get those spirts of energy after waking up at 3 in the morning wondering why the babys not crying, turn to eachother and smile, all it takes is a little snuggle to get things heated! lol

With that being said, touch and a few loving words, I believe are what truely keep us coming back for more.

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krissyg2010 · February 2011

I'll invite him into the shower and we just play around and make out (a major height difference makes standing sex impossible!) so by the time we get out of the shower, we're practically dragging each other to the bedroom. We're making plans to turn our bedroom into a "sleep and sex only" zone- leaving the laundry hampers, phones, pet/kid items out. We're adding to the mood with dim lights, sound system, and racy colors and textures. Sometimes we're not both in the mood and it takes work, but the more often we do it, the better it gets. Plus, it's no big deal if we occasionally have a night where it's not amazing, since we know there's always tomorrow

Oh, and sometimes it helps to take a couple nights off, but don't exclude everything! Kiss and cuddle, do what you like for foreplay, but don't go all the way. After a few days of that, there's no way it's not incredible for both of us.

Kato10 · February 2011

After 22 years of marriage and 2 kids (now in their mid-late-teens), some of the child-rearing stress was being relieved. When the kids are gone with their friends we have sex in various rooms of the house - just getting out of the bedroom helps. Different positions were intriguing, and since we wanted to make sex more of a priority, we joined a health club so we could more easily perform some of the more complicated moves. Luckily we can laugh at ourselves and each other and no one gets upset. Once we went way out on a limb and out of our comfort zone by going to a swingers club. Now, that was interesting!

AlineandAcxel · February 2011

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For some strange reason I don't like having sexin our bed. I associate it with sleep; therefore, I ask my husband to beinventive and spontaneous. I prefer a spur of the moment thing and itmakes him REALLY happy.

AlineandAcxel · February 2011

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For some strange reason I don't like having sexin our bed. I associate it with sleep; therefore, I ask my husband to beinventive and spontaneous. I prefer a spur of the moment thing and itmakes him REALLY happy.

AlineandAcxel · February 2011

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For some strange reason I don't like having sexin our bed. I associate it with sleep; therefore, I ask my husband to beinventive and spontaneous. I prefer a spur of the moment thing and itmakes him REALLY happy.

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