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User Name: LRHafford
My husband is the US Army and spends a year at a time deployed to the middle east. While he is away its of course impossible to have an active sex life but we still manage to keep it "alive". Its important to not only do the physical act but to talk about it and make eachother think about it. It makes reuniting that much more special.
How we keep our sex life alive and going is by sending sexy pictures and messages. When he is back in the statesI leave sexy notes in his wallet, pockets, and in his lunch so he'll find them throughout the day. It keeps his mind thinking about sex all day so he can't help but want to have sex when he gets home regardless of how long his day is. I also invest in sexy lingerie, heals and home cooked romatic dinner, candles and sexy desserts. And keeping in mind sex doesn't only have to be in the bedroom. Keep it spicy ladies! and gentlemen too!The built up anticipation makes for a blowout session between the sheets...or where ever you decide to be initimate.
Leah Hafford: 928 Tamarack Dr Apt 12102 Fayetteville, NC 28311: 321-5070741: April 4, 1985: leah.hafford@gmail.com
Sometimes we go back to places we went to when we were dating. My fiance will do fun things like bring home a bottle of wine and a pizza and lay it out on a blanket in the middle of the living room with rose petals and candles. It works on me like a charm. We feel like teenagers! I like to work up the magic by leaving naughty notes in his wallet or pocket so he can get a surpeise during the day. It's more unexpected than a text.
Luzern, Switzerland
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Adventures of A. Cook
My husband and I are very competitive. All games have high stakes, or as we call them "sex stakes". Tennis matches, bowling games, mario party, card & board games, etc. You name it, we compete! We place "our bets" ahead of time and then the winner cashes in at our earliest moment alone. My husband and I have even had a word competition where we each picked a noun for each other before going to a family Thanksgiving dinner. The rule was the first person who's assigned word got said 8 times was the "loser". It only counted when we were together (so he couldn't say I lost while in the bathroom!). And for the record, I won that one by assigning the word "football" (there were a lot of sports-loving men around to count on!).
The best part about our competitive natures and "sex stakes" is that even the loser tends to win!
We plan a naked day.
I start by making breakfast in bed, then we stay naked all day in bed talking, playing with items from our "toy box", watching sexy movies, giving each other massages, etc. We end up having sex several times and it also bring us together emotionally because we have a chance to catch up and reconnect since we turn off our phones and ignore everything but each other.
tanto1kl
I'm that girl that no matter how attractive my spouse is and how attracted i am to him i have NO SEX DRIVE! but thats ALL changing around!! Sex is supposed to be fun, meaningful, and playful. A lot of women think that sex is something dirty that men only want because of that thing hanging between thier legs. As true as that may be women can have fun doing it too I look forward to having sex now!
I'm in a really harsh situation with my man. We were engaged and we broke it off a couple months ago and were trying to get that playful relationship back and learn how to keep it alive. An added stress is the bill that Scott Walker just passed in Wisconsin, completely getting rid of unions. Hes a union worker. He's also a very hard worker in a job that is DESTROYING his body. I try to find things that will help him forget about his day. Men like to know you undertstand that their day was hard (even if ours was worse). Men like to be suprised and romanced just as much as we do!
A big part of my spicing things up is very simple. I read Cosmopolitan magazine. It is FILLED with things you can do to your man! From side saddle sex to easy things like being naked, bent over the couch and calling him in the room. It has many different ideas and because there is always something you are intrigued to try it starts up your sex drive! I'm telling you ladies, I never wanted to have sex I always played an excuse card of some sort. Now i'm excited to see my man and show him a new trick that I learned. Coming up with new things to do wherever you would like is hot to your man!
Now, as far as suprising him and romancing him, it's a way for you to be able to get your romantic night you've been waiting for. Whether you like it or not men are more and more intimidated by women because we are allowed a lot more power now and women are starting to take advantage. Take the bull by the horns ladies! if you want a ramantic night here's an example of what I do and you can do no matter what the situation!
Example: I leave a trail of my clothes from the door to the bathroom where I am in the shower waiting for him. (The shower helps him unwind and calm down from a rough day and is guaranteed to start sex) I wash his body getting things going and we take the action into the bedroom, suds and all (playful). after sex I put his favorite t-shirt on and go into the kitchen and make him an awesome meal that we eat in the living room on the floor naked with blankets. (a fireplace will make it more romantic but you could give that same lighting by a couple dimmed table lamps) after dinner is done we have desert, strawberries that we can dip in chocolate or whip cream. To bring out the playful side i start a whip cream fight that will lead to sex wherever it ends up happening. the whip cream is something that can be eaten off stimulating nerves you didn't know could be stimulated. to calm the night down i light the bathroom with a bunch of candles while a bubble bath is being drawn (leave enough room for a raised water level due to two bodies) The two of us are snug in our warm bubble bath just relaxing, cuddling, and kissing. After the bath i move our night into the bedroom where it is going to end. I give him a RELAXING massage with a happy, sensual, loving ending. Slow sex the old school way to connect and show your love, ending the night peacfully in eachothers arms with a deeper love.
See ladies! its easy! Cosmo, The Nest, and your own passion! The key to SPICING things up is not to PLAN when it's going to happen.There is no suspence, adrenaline, or excitement in planning a date night or a pants off night like a lot of coules do. Is he going to go to work tomorrow and tell his buddies he had an awesome time at dinner last night or he had a good time going to bed without his pants on? no! he's going to go to work BRAGING about how his girl suprised him in the shower, ate whip cream off your body, and had sex 3 times last night! while he goes to work braging about all that, you'll go home talking about ur orgasm being so great you went into convultions! yea, it's true!
Grab the bull by the horns ladies!
For my next trick: I'll suprise him on a trip to see the bluest water he's ever seen.(he's never been outside of wisconsin and i think a REAL vacation, not snowy wisconsin dells, where we can actually BE with eachother will seal the deal and i can get back to RE-planning a wedding) We'll spend time snorkeling, seeing the sites, jet skiing, maybe deep sea fish! and for an encore; sex on the beach!
Jamie Rusch
Email: Jrusch5@gmail.com
My Husband stopped having sex with me in August 2009.He said I was fat. I left him in April 2010. I haven't had sex since August 2009.
I feel much sexier now than I did then.
TY&GN
1. trueromantic
Well we live with his parents so its pretty hard to find time alone. But when were not helping out his mom (she has terminal cancer) we go out. To the backyard that is. We camp out and pitch a tent... make some s'mores drink some wine. All the great aspects of camping but in our backyard. Its a nice getaway with out spending money. There's just something really romantic about having sex beneath the stars.
Remember the things (positions/techniques) he likes and don't be afraid to try something new.
Let him "accidentally" discover you practicing your best stripper/pole dancing moves. Then practice a lap dance on him...with one or both of you nude.
Show him how enjoyable it is to pleasure you, by letting him watch you enjoy pleasuring yourself.
When you go out together, let him "discover" (by you showing him) that you are missing certain undergarments. Discreetly help him explore under your clothing.
Sometimes be the aggressor and initiate sex.
Conserve water by showering together. Initiate foreplay and/or sex in the shower.
Meet him at home (or his office, or your office) for a lunch quickie.
Get him ready to make love to you by you making love to his mind. For instance, just before he (or you) leaves for work and throughout the day say "I like it when you ___ (insert something specific that he does sexually that you like). Hope you have a good day." During the day, send him a torrid text or picture mail (be careful with this one). Call him when he is leaving work and ask him to pick up some things from the grocery store....i.e. fresh strawberries, fresh pineapple rings, redi whip (whipped cream), chocolate syrup in the squeeze bottle. During dinner, tell him "I can't wait until we ________ (something that turned him/you on) again." Incorporate one or more of those fruit/whipped cream, syrup items into an adults only dessert - - in your room (or anyplace else providing the kids are either asleep or not there.) Try a new position. Create an alter-ego with a take charge attitude. Use your imagination and make it fun.
Sleep nude.
With long work hours, two families, friends, household errands and chores, at times being a newlywed can be exhausting rather than romantic. After a long day my husband and I tend to find ourselves on the couch, in our sweats, with the exciting discussion of which T.V. show to watch.
In an effort to keep our marriage alive with romance and intimacy, we both work sex into our typical daily routine. We started exchanging "I.O.U.'s" for those not so fun chores and errands. For example, "If you take care of the grocery shopping today, I owe you _______ "(fill in the blank with your favorite sexual favor!).
It has become a ritual for us, and now those tedious tasks of folding the laundry, picking up the dry cleaning, and loading the dishwasher don't seem all that bad knowing something very good is on it's way once the job gets done. We both have a lot of fun reminding each other of our I.O.U.'s. Cashing them in at the end of a long day is so much better than debating the night's T.V. guide selection!