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Geez no wonder you are depressed
Haha, you are not seriously doing this, sarcastic. This is so sad.
Plus, I like how you said exactly the same thing as a pp re:
"now you have arthritis"
You literally said the EXACT SAME WORDS.
My point is.............that this is sad. As in what I said in my first post to you.
And, as you reiterated, I'm having sex twice a week. Sex 2x/week =/= sex crazed.
I am a do gooder. Yes. Because I am *awesome.*
I am not a commitment phobe. I am trying to prevent my divorce by acknowledging it could happen and doing everything IRL to prevent that. That, again, would be the OPPOSITE.
So..............it looks like you may be the mentally challenged one. But, don't worry, we don't use that term anymore. You have developmental disabilities. But, it's okay. You're special in your own way.
My point is.............that this is sad. As in what I said in my first post to you.
And, as you reiterated, I'm having sex twice a week. Sex 2x/week =/= sex crazed.
I am a do gooder. Yes. Because I am *awesome.*
I am not a commitment phobe. I am trying to prevent my divorce by acknowledging it could happen and doing everything IRL to prevent that. That, again, would be the OPPOSITE.
So..............it looks like you may be the mentally challenged one. But, don't worry, we don't use that term anymore. You have developmental disabilities. But, it's okay. You're special in your own way.
My point is.............that this is sad. As in what I said in my first post to you.
And, as you reiterated, I'm having sex twice a week. Sex 2x/week =/= sex crazed.
I am a do gooder. Yes. Because I am *awesome.*
I am not a commitment phobe. I am trying to prevent my divorce by acknowledging it could happen and doing everything IRL to prevent that. That, again, would be the OPPOSITE.
So..............it looks like you may be the mentally challenged one. But, don't worry, we don't use that term anymore. You have developmental disabilities. But, it's okay. You're special in your own way.
Man, you are beyond ridiculous. I truly am stunned you managed to somehow get a degree at that "very prestigous college" given your lack of logical reasoning.
I do not think you understand how the divorce stats work. The 50% does not mean half the people getting married this year are going to get divorced. It compares how many filed one year, versus were married the same year. There are tons of criticisms with how those stats are achieved as they do not reflect an accurate representation in many ways.
Furthermore, even using those types of statistics, the divorce rate for those marrying under 25 to be much higher than those over 30 (here in Canada for example, the "averaged" rate across the board is 40%. For those over 30, it is 30%). Also, those on 2nd and 3rd marriages have higher rates than first time marriages...skewing the numbers.
What do you mean even in the "best" conditions? Are you telling me that people who are very happy together and have healthy marriages get divorced 50% of the time? They just decide one day that they thoroughly enjoy their partner, their marriage, and are very satisfied and they decide to file anyway?
No sh!t divorce is a possibility. I said that myself. You know, at the start of my post. I've seen plenty of divorces around me in my life. Both my husband and I are more than aware that divorce is an option for either of us should our marriage not meet our needs. Both of us have parents who divorced. Both of us have had common-law partnerships end in separation. I assume you have not read many of my posts where I encourage people in unhealthy relationships to consider divorce. I freaking help people through divorces as part of my job. I hardly think of it as an end of the world scenario where a relationship is not healthy. The point is, rather than sit around contemplating "wanting to be prepared for it", we take measures to nourish a healthy marriage. I'd love to know how being aware divorce is a possibility (and saying so) and not taking a passive approach to my marriage is "sticking my head in the mud"?
Do you truly not see how you have crossed the line from recognizing divorce as as an option into full on crazy worrying about it? You do not think repeatedly posting about post-nups to provide for alimony, how to deal with in-laws in many years from now for hypothetical children if you divorce, and sit is NOT sitting and thinking about it?
Again, if you wanted to be "prepared for it", you would ensure you make a healthy choice in a partner and relationship (including the families they came with). You would ensure you as an individual were ready to be married. You would have got a prenup before marriage. You would take pre-marital counseling classes. You would continue to foster a healthy, communicative and connected marriage after the wedding. If your finances are tight, you work together to address that. If you have in-law issues, again, you work together to address that.
Thinking about what you would do if a divorce happened, is not the same as working together to prevent it ever happening in the first place. Of course there are no guarantees, but JFC, focusing on how to deal with in-laws in case you divorce in 5+ years and have foster/adopted kids, is just plain misdirection.
Now I remember you.
You posted about getting a post nuptial agreement out of your H because you hadn't though ahead and you knew you would need it. You said you were totally unable to work to secure your future so your H had to sign it.
yeah, you're an idiot
Wow I can't believe this post is real.
Herniated disc IS a "slipped" disc
How do you get "chronic" whiplash, is someone beating you over the head every day?
If you get chronic sinus infections, get the surgery to correct it, and your "chronic migraines" are probably sinus pressure headaches.
We all have some form of arthritis
Get a shoe lift to avoid the "uneven legs" and it will solve the hip problems
Ear pain is result of TMJ
Get a divorce and it will end your worrying and you wont have to post on here
Problems solved
Unfortunately Fibromyalgia is a term doctors give to many people who are so annoying and tend exaggerate every ailment they ever had....funny you should have this.
Holy crap.
So glad you posted this because I was working on the same response.
6 months of PT solved my herniated disc. I still have to do PT stretches and exercises a few days a week (esp since having DS) but it is VERY manageable.
Sinuses- I had septoplasty and ESS in 2009 and my life has not been the same since. My surgeon is truly a miracle worker!
I had this done in Boston, FTW, if you are interested in his name.
Most back pain issues can be helped with exercise and a chircopractor, IMO. I have a lot of chronic back pain, just from my scoliosis and tension and DS was very hard on my back while I was pregnant with him and I have found a ton of relief in stretches and the chiro (while pregnant).
I, too, was wondering how someone got chronic whiplash.
and to top things off, she is getting her license to carry concealed and a handgun.
the reason? to protect herself against her clients on home visits.
because a social worker should DEFINITELY take a gun into an unstable home situation.
Sorry, meant to say herniated and bulging discs which are two different things.
The whiplash was treated and therefore healed incorrectly. Now it's chronic, you got issues - take it up with the docs.
Not a good candidate for the surgery, according to the doc, and the migraines are two different things. It's been medically investigated already.
I didn't say most people don't have arthritis, I'm just saying mine is more severe since its aggravated by chronic carpal tunnel - yet another diagnosis that did make it on to the list.
The hip problems will not be solved the shoe lifts, already tried.
Yes, the ear pain is a result of TMJD but I have ear ISSUES as well as ear PAIN.
Nice try but no cigar.
Sorry, meant to say herniated and bulging discs which are two different things.
The whiplash was treated and therefore healed incorrectly. Now it's chronic, you got issues - take it up with the docs.
Not a good candidate for the surgery, according to the doc, and the migraines are two different things. It's been medically investigated already.
I didn't say most people don't have arthritis, I'm just saying mine is more severe since its aggravated by chronic carpal tunnel - yet another diagnosis that did make it on to the list.
The hip problems will not be solved the shoe lifts, already tried.
Yes, the ear pain is a result of TMJD but I have ear ISSUES as well as ear PAIN.
Nice try but no cigar.
I'm pretty sure I was the first one to be called mentally challenged.
But THAT'S not 'f*cking offensive?'
Yes, because I don't want to die since some local social workers have been shot on home visits lately.
So sorry.
Dude, you come off as a complete whackaloon. You realize that the internet is forever, right? And tracing Un's to real people generally isn't that hard? If you really are pursuing a degree, and you really are going into the social work field, I feel confident in telling you that you won't ever be hired by any reputable agency, governmental or private.
And for the record, my 4-year-old daughter was just recently labeled as developmentally disabled. So let me be the first to give a great big f*ck you, and may your twat slowly rot away from the clap, you skunty, small-minded hypochondriac freak.
Maybe she was a shaken baby, it's just manifesting itself much later in life.
I'm sorry, do you take some kind of deranged enjoyment out of being sick? That is what I am getting from your posts. You don't have to run to the doctor for every freaking minor pain and get "diagnosed" (In quotes because if you are IN FACT diagnosed with all this your doctor is a quack like you). Pop a freaking advil and get over yourself. There I just saved you a couple thousand in medical expenses. Maybe now you and your STBXH can budget!
reading FAIL.
she said MEDICALLY challenged. which you are.
in return, you called her MENTALLY challenged.
therefore, you are the offensive one. as usual.
You may have other family, but they're not going to care. A parent from each side has to fill out a recommendation for you as a couple.
And if you're adopting because you want to save a child, you might want to look into other forms of philanthropy.
Do you think you can just waltz in and tell the foster care agency/state that you are healthy and they will hand over children? No! You have to get a sworn letter from your doctor stating that you have no ailments that will prevent you from being able to care for a child or otherwise shorten your lifespan. So, either you have all these things, and you can't properly care for a child, and thankfully, your application will be denied, or you admit that it's all a construct of your warped mind.
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Also, I interned at an adoption agency that also coordinated state foster care and the applicants had to have TONS of letters of recommendation from their families too. I don't think the state will just fork over kids to foster parents who have hostile relationships with in-laws or other family members.