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Re: Flameful confession
KNavy, I hate that you have dealt with this for so long... thank you for sharing. Things you said the other night make more sense now.
My confession is that I realize that I truly value the opinion of very few people in my life. I have to trust the person before I can value their opinion, especially if it is of me. I can think of 2 people that I listen to and take their opinion of me to heart when they give it: My husband and my best friend, because they know me best.
I really don't care what anyone else thinks, not my family, not his, not people I work with, and not people on this board. I can respect some people and their right to an opinion, but whether or not I give it consideration in relation to myself depends on how much I trust them. I think that's why I'm able to be so laid back and kumbaya all of the time - I don't let things get to me because I don't dwell on it or take it to heart.
I thought of this because of AB & Ala's talk about opinions of each other, etc... a lot of times I don't respond to those kind of "judge me" posts because I really don't care what that person has to say about me.
I do that sometimes because it's faster.
I woke up night before last - elbowed Douglas then asked him if he wanted to do it. After about 30 seconds of silence I got a groan.
I asked him about it yesterday and he doesn't even remember it happening.
Awesome.
Note to self: elbow harder.
I feel like a weirdo freak, but I don't enjoy materbating. I like it when my H does stuff to me, but not doing myself. Also I've only gotten off once when boyfriend went down on me. My H has never been able to do this for me. I know he would like me to get off, but I just can't. Don't get me wrong it feels great, but it's like I have a mental block. I again feel like a freak.
Oh man, I'm sorry you didn't have fun. Being in a wedding can be stressful and exhausting to begin with, and being on crutches didn't help that at all. Hopefully copious amounts of margaritas helped a little bit?
You are a wonderful friend and I'm sure it made your BFF so happy to have you there for her!
I have a really bad temper as well, but MH also has a short fuse. It can lead to some blowouts that would leave other people huddled in a corner crying like a baby, but we both just know that we can take it to that level, so we don't take it personally. It's more like we both let off steam in the same way.
If either of us felt like we had to walk on eggshells to protect each other's feelings, it definitely wouldn't work.
Thanks! I'll try to recap some of it later without sounding like a whiny baby.
I know I don't share a lot here which isn't a good thing for an internet forum! I'm really bad with posting pictures, I hate pictures of myself with a fiery passion!
I have a bad temper too. It's not all the time but certain things are triggers. MH is so easy going too, so it makes me feel bad.
I can completely relate.
i can do it fine on my own, but it took me a looong time to relax enough around my hubby for him to be able to do it for me. even now, If I get distracted, all hope i lost.
I still have yet to have one with anyone's peen.
I think in all honesty you need to start masturbating more. Even use a vibrator. If it is too much sensation, use it over your underwear. Find out what you like, what feels good. Introduce it during sex. Get used to having an orgasm. One your body starts to acknowledge the signs, it will "welcome" it more. No reason to go through life not O'ing.
Weird though, for me:
I have the need to have a peen. And get the satisfaction of having one, even without an O.
And thank god I can do it on my own. I can't imagine never having one.
My confession: I made it to page 4 and then skipped to the end just to see how many pages this made it to. I'm not sure if I'm going to read pages 5-10. I've got stuff to do today and I'm a slow reader.
KNavy - You have the right to make your own decision in regards to your wedding, and that alone makes you strong. But, if you want, I can come to your wedding, and 5 minutes before you walk down the isle I can "distract" your dad (aka, club him over the head) so no one can find him to walk you down the isle and your mom has to do it instead. Just a suggestion.
KNavy: You are a strong and amazing woman. I can understand exactly where you are coming from with including him to have your mom there. You need to do what you feel is best, I would give the advice to talk with your photographer, and have her not focus on the moments with you and your dad.
My confession: I am not a big fan of receiving oral. The truly flameful part...I feel like I am doing a disservice to my husband, who actually enjoys giving it...
But by experimenting with different things (like you are) you can get there.
WTH happened with Jade?
I don't think she is a good person. She is scattered. I think it's BS that she can fail testing as many times as she has and still have a possibility of doing anything even remotely medical related.
Very mean.
I guess if there is someone to hate, it would be me right?
The other day I was watching a show about people with OCD and it made me sad because I know what they are going through. DH was watching it and kept saying things like "well, that's just crazy".
I was pretty mad at him, but then I realized he wasn't mocking them, he just doesn't get it. And I can't be mad at him for not getting it, because let's face it...being upset because a cabinet is open or something isn't on the coffee table straight is not a normal thought. How can I expect him to understand something that is not normal?
I have said it before, and I'll say it again.
I have met Jade several times IRL. She is funny, sweet, smart and just a ton of fun to be around. And when I'm in Chicago again, I'd love to meet up up with her again.
I disagree.
There's never been doubt that Ala didn't like you. That's okay, it's her choice. I just thought something was going on that I missed.
Nope, not for me. I don't dislike you.
Ditto, and I definitely don't hate you.
*Cracks fingers*
Jade- I don't hate you, I find you odd, but no hate.
I am curious to know what peoples opinions are about me. I don't think it would change me, or make me sorry for being who I am, but I'm still curious.
I smoke cigarettes. I know it makes me stink, I know I need to quit. I don't post about it because I feel when I'm ready to make that change I need to do it because I want to, not because I'm feeling guilty for how people perceive me.
*Poof* That one was a little too personal.
Last one: I feel like an odd-ball because I generally cannot relate to people my age. I'm 24 and for the life of me I can't grasp why people my age biitch all the time. We are not teenager with a crap load of angst. This is the best times of our lives!
If I ever used the word hate, I apologize.
I simply dislike Jade, and disagree with nearly all of her decision making.
I don't hate her.