difficulties in bed, advice please.

JustDuckyDancer · May 2010

If you would have actually read some people's posts you would have seen that a lot of people DID give advice. In fact many (including myself) told her that at 19 you don't fully know yourself. You are constently changing and evolving until your mid 20's. People were suggesting that maybe these two aren't compatable because of this anymore and it's showing in the bedroom. Also don't you think the age difference is a little odd?

davessamantha1991@yahoo.com · May 2010

i did say that a few people amswered her question. but mostly just her age! my fiance is 21 and im 18. but we put our wedding off till i was 4 months from turning 20 because my dad thought that was best. so yes i do agree with wait a little to see if ur compatible. but some people you just cant tell that to. i just dont like it when people constantly try to get there point across by repeating. for example people are telling shes to young. ido not know her but i would say even if shes not ready to get married she will have to make that mistake on her own. its ok to try and tell her our stories but if shes got it in her head hes the one then she will have to make her own decision and we just have to pray that god leads her in the right direction. as for thir age im not sure!! how i feel about that. when i was 13 i was positive i met the man i was going to marry i dated him till i was 16 then all of a sudden i realized how stupid i was that he wasnt the right man for me when we broke up i was 16 and he 20. so ya i guess i do not agree with all age gaps but at 18 and 23 its not that big of a deal if they are on the same level. as for the bedroom my fiance and i do not live together we both still live at home with our parents due to we are both working 2 jobs planing a wedding and go to school( college that is) we do not have to work as much but we want to save as much money as possible for the wedding and our new home. but back to what i was saying we had a problem with that about a year ago and i was affraid it was going to mess up our relationship so we just talked about it. it took a few months to get all the kinks worked out and now we are much better off. it has mad us stronger. i pray that things work out for them and i mean no har to anyone. i never write on these things. but when i saw what was going on i thought she could use someone her age that went through the same thing. no offense but she didnt need people telling her that she was to young to get married. she just needed someone to tell her how to fix their sex live or at least a way to work on it. so im sorry if you think im being mean i realy am not trying to be. so please take no offense to any of this most people are to yung at 19 and i agree. but honestly you do not know at least one person who at 19 didnt act like a 19 year old?? because im honestly not like that and maybe she isnt either and maybe she is idk. but i hope you have a terridic day=)

shexmix · May 2010

davessamantha1991@yahoo.com:
i did say that a few people amswered her question. but mostly just her age! my fiance is 21 and im 18. but we put our wedding off till i was 4 months from turning 20 because my dad thought that was best.

Ah, so Daddy had to step in and insist you wait until you're "4 months from turning 20".

Wow. Just wow.

davessamantha1991@yahoo.com · May 2010

no im sorry i think you did not understand my post we were planing a destination wedding to italy but he wanted to be there and that would it off till march. so im sorry if u got the wrong idea but he thought it would be nice to be there. so please stop trying to be rude.

thank you very much

shexmix · May 2010

"4 months from turning 20" is still far too young for a lifetime commitment. 19 may legally be an adult but is still cognitively and emotionally a child.

beaches2bayous · May 2010

1. Too much time on your hands= writing a reply to every person on this post.

2. What in the world do you mean you're going to adopt so that you can still work? Huh? That makes zero sense- please explain. People who birth children and/or adopt can choose to work or stay at home.

3. I agree God takes care of us. He's shown me that many times in the last few years. However, you can't just "hope for the best", you need to have a plan together.

4. I know marriage is hard work- I've been married five years. However, you have been married zero days, months, years. So, you wouldn't know the sacrifice that goes into it.

5. Gratefully accept your award as beebee of the month in my world

beaches2bayous · May 2010

Also, since when does using good grammar, punctuation, and spelling mean that you're writing a "report"? I guess that's why you were taught it for years in school- just to use it in reports and such, not for everyday use. When I see any type of written work with poor grammar, it just makes me think, "Lazy person who didn't care enough to at least spell-check their work". No one expects perfection, but a little care being put into your work shows a lot of maturity.

davessamantha1991@yahoo.com · May 2010

beaches2bayous:
1. Too much time on your hands= writing a reply to every person on this post.
2. What in the world do you mean you're going to adopt so that you can still work? Huh? That makes zero sense- please explain. People who birth children and/or adopt can choose to work or stay at home.
3. I agree God takes care of us. He's shown me that many times in the last few years. However, you can't just "hope for the best", you need to have a plan together.
4. I know marriage is hard work- I've been married five years. However, you have been married zero days, months, years. So, you wouldn't know the sacrifice that goes into it.
5. Gratefully accept your award as beebee of the month in my world

I don't reply to every person on here I just started to write on here and this is the only post I have written on. And once again I am not good with my grammar sorry. I have taken many classes after high school. And more people on here have said something about than all of my college classes. I will try to get better at that one. So thanks for pointing that out I really appreciate it! As for adopting children i never said that you must have the wrong person. But I would love to adopt a child when I am done with my schooling but I am also planning on having children of my own. As for god I do agree that we need to have a plan together never said I didn't. I do agree that I have not been married but I have spent the last few years looking at how my sisters and parents relationships are.And taking their mistakes into consideration of mine and my fiances relationship. So that we might not make all the same mistakes. As for that I do believe this is a good step to take and it has proven to me many times.As for the beebee award I am sorry but I honestly do not know what that is. But if your just being rude then I don't even care I'm not on here to be mean to people and correct their grammar or keep telling them the same thing over and over im on here to talk to people.

Hope I fixed my grammar i reread my post to check it but honestly I'm sorry because I know it wont be all right it not like i do not try I'm just not good at it but I am tacking a online class to help me get better. Have a great night.

mrs_sisco · May 2010

shexmix:
"4 months from turning 20" is still far too young for a lifetime commitment. 19 may legally be an adult but is still cognitively and emotionally a child.

Whoa now! I personally feel defensive about this...I had just turned 19 when my husband and I got married. I moved with him to Maryland, while all of my family remained in Florida. We got an apartment and jobs to support ourselves AND both continued in school. Times were tough, I'm not going to lie, but him and I have kept up on our commitments to each other. 6 months after getting married, I got pregnant. And as you can tell from my siggy, we had a beautiful daughter in February. I am now working as a Pharmacy Techinician and finishing Pharmacy school, while he works as a Sales Consultant for Subaru. We just purchased our first house also and are excited about the future. So to claim that " 20 is still far too young for a lifetime commitment." and "19 may legally be an adult but is still cognitively and emotionally a child" insults me. You may have been unprepared at 19, but that doesn't mean it is the same for everyone.

davessamantha1991@yahoo.com · May 2010

mrs_sisco:
shexmix:
"4 months from turning 20" is still far too young for a lifetime commitment. 19 may legally be an adult but is still cognitively and emotionally a child.

Whoa now! I personally feel defensive about this...I had just turned 19 when my husband and I got married. I moved with him to Maryland, while all of my family remained in Florida. We got an apartment and jobs to support ourselves AND both continued in school. Times were tough, I'm not going to lie, but him and I have kept up on our commitments to each other. 6 months after getting married, I got pregnant. And as you can tell from my siggy, we had a beautiful daughter in February. I am now working as a Pharmacy Techinician and finishing Pharmacy school, while he works as a Sales Consultant for Subaru. We just purchased our first house also and are excited about the future. So to claim that " 20 is still far too young for a lifetime commitment." and "19 may legally be an adult but is still cognitively and emotionally a child" insults me. You may have been unprepared at 19, but that doesn't mean it is the same for everyone.

Thank you!!! I'm glad to see not everyone is against this. Have a wonderful night and congrats on that beautiful little girl!!

MoMos · May 2010

Don't u just hate when u want advice and things go in a completly different direction....

Being in a relationship is more than sex and romance. There seem to be other underlying relationship issues.

Both u and ur SO aren't giving one another what you both need. Maybe he's not into you as much because there's little room for romance when he's working so much and you are...well let's face it ...bored.

From my experience I married my hs sweetheart. We dated consistantly since 15..we married at 22. Who cares if people think it's too young. Point is at 22 we were equal partners in our relationship. We BOTH had something to offer. We both graduated and had full time jobs. I was upset he had to travel for work and I was lonley and sex ...when we had it...sucked! So I went to grad school and took a second job. Sex now is unbelievable. POWER is sexy so empower yourself. Talking honestly helped a lot too.

and your right, people here are judgemental...hiding behind the computer screen...duh ..we r all here for a reason..but only u can live ur life

MoMos · May 2010

Don't u just hate when u want advice and things go in a completly different direction....

Being in a relationship is more than sex and romance. There seem to be other underlying relationship issues.

Both u and ur SO aren't giving one another what you both need. Maybe he's not into you as much because there's little room for romance when he's working so much and you are...well let's face it ...bored.

From my experience I married my hs sweetheart. We dated consistantly since 15..we married at 22. Who cares if people think it's too young. Point is at 22 we were equal partners in our relationship. We BOTH had something to offer. We both graduated and had full time jobs. I was upset he had to travel for work and I was lonley and sex ...when we had it...sucked! So I went to grad school and took a second job. Sex now is unbelievable. POWER is sexy so empower yourself. Talking honestly helped a lot too.

and your right, people here are judgemental...hiding behind the computer screen...duh ..we r all here for a reason..but only u can live ur life

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