Lurkers?

seahorse01

Yep, I was the one that didn't want to see an update from LL because honestly, I don't feel like she ever brought much to the board.

And I am bitter as fuck.  And she was really rude to me.

Is it really that hard to update about your pregnancies and babies in GPM?  If we have a PR update I will turn over my mod duties (like there are any) and move along.

Your IVF and having sex with your husbands worked.  Mine didn't.  I like having a place where I don't HAVE to read about your goddamn morning sickness.   People like Pink, Mrads, Bruins and Lizzie have managed to stick around and contribute without being assholes.

I don't care about seeing pictures and tickers in siggy pics.

alexisanna44

I 100% agree with PinkinProvence. 

lb1117

Hi! I still lurk! I am careful what I post since being found IRL but I'm here

I love reading updates from where everyone is in their journey and I am rooting for all of you who I have gotten to "know" over the last few years. 

I would participate in a grad check-in. And @LoneyLife - you are always so supportive. I love that! 

LuckyAngel07

amandaf6383 said:  No, of course not Madeline! You know me better than that, I think. If there is a GP Grad Check In, everyone who's a grad can post. I just don't care as much, and if they do post separately on GP, I might not read their posts because I'm not as interested in what they have to say. But that's just me being honest. I'm sure everyone here has certain people they like and don't like and read posts accordingly. ____________________________________________________________
  I honestly kind of feel this way, too. I don't hate anyone (well, maybe one person we all wish would just GTFO already), but there are definitely certain people I've come to care about more than others. I do read damn near everything posted on GP, but I do tend to skim faster over posts by those I don't feel as connected with (through no fault of their own, it's just how they strike me/stick with me). This happens in real life too! We all have friends we feel closer to than others. We still care what happens to all of them, but we might not be quite as interested in the day-to-day of some as we are of others. I think all our heads would explode if we were equally interested in every single person crossing our paths!

PinkinProvence

Well, at least this is better than a dead board. IMO, I feel like people on GP only dislike updates from pregnants or moms when they abandon the board exclusively for GPM and they come back only to AW their kid. Or to only chime in with the mom perspective. You can continue to post about relevant topics. You can even mention your kid. Just don't roll in here complaining about morning sickness or how your kid didnt sleep last night. Does it suck, yes? But it's also insensitive to complain about things that people on this board want.

Anyone who would come here and complains about that or anything to do with pregnancy or child-rearing deserves to be shunned.  Any former regular (or halfway decent person) would know that.  

seahorse01

@venti!!!

Hi!

alexisanna44

seahorse01 said:

Yep, I was the one that didn't want to see an update from LL because honestly, I don't feel like she ever brought much to the board.

And I am bitter as fuck.  And she was really rude to me.

Is it really that hard to update about your pregnancies and babies in GPM?  If we have a PR update I will turn over my mod duties (like there are any) and move along.

Your IVF and having sex with your husbands worked.  Mine didn't.  I like having a place where I don't HAVE to read about your goddamn morning sickness.   People like Pink, Mrads, Bruins and Lizzie have managed to stick around and contribute without being assholes.

I don't care about seeing pictures and tickers in siggy pics.

You don't HAVE to read shit.  It's the internet.  Do you read everything that shows up in a google search? No. You read what's relevant.  A page to LL is NOT relevant to seahorse.  You went in that thread by yourself and were incredibly rude. I didn't realize this became all about you all the time.  Maybe that's my bad.

nightmare_of_beauty

So basically, anyone can feel free to post, just don't be a jerk. 

amccul20

I was here for almost two years while TTC, going through IUI's and IVF, and as soon as I got pregnant I felt like I wasn't wanted here anymore. and especially unwelcome because I got pregnant naturally.  I lurk all the time and am still a huge supporter of the women on this board.

I know we've talked about this before but just because someone gets pregnant, it doesn't mean they don't know how much it hurts to be struggling to get pregnant. and a lot of times it seems like our thoughts/opions are dismissed because we did ultimately get pregnant.

RockABye

MRads said:

Well, at least this is better than a dead board. IMO, I feel like people on GP only dislike updates from pregnants or moms when they abandon the board exclusively for GPM and they come back only to AW their kid. Or to only chime in with the mom perspective. You can continue to post about relevant topics. You can even mention your kid. Just don't roll in here complaining about morning sickness or how your kid didnt sleep last night. Does it suck, yes? But it's also insensitive to complain about things that people on this board want.

*DING!DING!DING!* This is a KEY point. I know I love hearing from the graduates but if that's ALL they come here to talk about, it gets really old and quite honestly, I don't care. Friendship, be it IRL or online, goes both ways. If you (again, general 'you') have absolutely no interest in what's going on in my life, why should I ooh and ahh over every little thing in your life? I also think that a lot of us regs were burned by people who did this in the past so we do tend to have our guard up a little bit more. Just keep posting and you'll see that GP is a welcoming place as long as you participate!

seahorse01

alexisanna44 said:

seahorse01 said:

Yep, I was the one that didn't want to see an update from LL because honestly, I don't feel like she ever brought much to the board.

And I am bitter as fuck.  And she was really rude to me.

Is it really that hard to update about your pregnancies and babies in GPM?  If we have a PR update I will turn over my mod duties (like there are any) and move along.

Your IVF and having sex with your husbands worked.  Mine didn't.  I like having a place where I don't HAVE to read about your goddamn morning sickness.   People like Pink, Mrads, Bruins and Lizzie have managed to stick around and contribute without being assholes.

I don't care about seeing pictures and tickers in siggy pics.

You don't HAVE to read shit.  It's the internet.  Do you read everything that shows up in a google search? No. You read what's relevant.  A page to LL is NOT relevant to seahorse.  You went in that thread by yourself and were incredibly rude. I didn't realize this became all about you all the time.  Maybe that's my bad.

That was rude?  Well color me surprised.  I can show you rude if you would like.

It is all about me incidentally, and my friends.  And GPM is about you and your children.

alexisanna44

Oh Seahorse, I know that's not your best work.  Boy do I know.  Oddly enough, I have more to talk about than my kids just like you have more to talk about than your reproductive tract.  BUT, if you can't manage to stay out of posts that may be upsetting then I'm not sure the internet is the place for you.  Maybe get some info and keep in touch with your friends elsewhere so you're not so angry.

MRads

Am I crazy or isn't the 3t check in specifically for 3t grads as well?

Also, how would having a thread for grads, filled with grads, make moms feel more welcomed on this board? This is madness.

If you want to feel included, just post. If you want to feel included when you post about your baby, go to GPM.

seahorse01

alexisanna44 said:

Oh Seahorse, I know that's not your best work.  Boy do I know.  Oddly enough, I have more to talk about than my kids just like you have more to talk about than your reproductive tract.  BUT, if you can't manage to stay out of posts that may be upsetting then I'm not sure the internet is the place for you.  Maybe get some info and keep in touch with your friends elsewhere so you're not so angry.

lol.

Bless your heart.

Do you feel sorry for my husband too?

alexisanna44

Absolutely not.  I'm certain you're a lovely person with a shitty situation.  I'd love for you to have kids and then for our kids to be best friends and throw glitter at each other.  I also love that your honest and real.  I DO NOT love that you think so many things revolve around you.  I know you're bitter.  I get it.  But I'm over your feelings.

nightmare_of_beauty

@wiggyslilsis I see you lurking... 

amandaf6383

MRads said:

Well, at least this is better than a dead board. IMO, I feel like people on GP only dislike updates from pregnants or moms when they abandon the board exclusively for GPM and they come back only to AW their kid. Or to only chime in with the mom perspective. You can continue to post about relevant topics. You can even mention your kid. Just don't roll in here complaining about morning sickness or how your kid didnt sleep last night. Does it suck, yes? But it's also insensitive to complain about things that people on this board want.

DING DING DING! That's exactly how I feel.

wiggyslilsis

Hi, I am here. I lurk. I post when it is relevant.And of course iI hesitate to post all the time. Two reasons for that. I genuinely care about all the ladies on here and never ever want to be a source of any pain and then on the other side I don't want to step onany toes and get yelled at and sshamed which I have seen happen.

I'm not posting every day but I don't think k that makes me a non regular. I have been here for over 5 years just like some of the other ladies.

cloudymeatballs

hey girls

seahorse01

alexisanna44 said:

Absolutely not.  I'm certain you're a lovely person with a shitty situation.  I'd love for you to have kids and then for our kids to be best friends and throw glitter at each other.  I also love that your honest and real.  I DO NOT love that you think so many things revolve around you.  I know you're bitter.  I get it.  But I'm over your feelings.

I am putting this in my siggy!! Best comment ever.

LittleLady77

Haha! Well I clearly don't feel welcome here... Like most of the other pregnant ladies. It's really sad after being an active part of the board for years. In fact, it's pretty impressive that I posted regularly for years and still managed to "not bring much to the board". Sorry if I upset you Seahorse. I do remember making one rude comment to you when I was really struggling and then apologizing for it, outside of that I'm not really sure what to say. Good luck.

nightmare_of_beauty

I feel like a bit of mean girls is needed

It's not going to be this way, we all know that it's not.

Everyone gets nervous about posting something that may offend someone. This is an online public forum, it's going to happen. If there is a serious problem, address it. If you don't like someone, you don't have to read their post. I don't know if everyone likes me, if you don't no big, I've said stupid stuff before. I still make my comments and post when I want to. Everyone that wants to part of this group, be part of it. 

alexisanna44

seahorse01 said:

alexisanna44 said:

Absolutely not.  I'm certain you're a lovely person with a shitty situation.  I'd love for you to have kids and then for our kids to be best friends and throw glitter at each other.  I also love that your honest and real.  I DO NOT love that you think so many things revolve around you.  I know you're bitter.  I get it.  But I'm over your feelings.

I am putting this in my siggy!! Best comment ever.

My life goal is complete.  

seahorse01

wiggyslilsis said:

Hi, I am here. I lurk. I post when it is relevant.And of course iI hesitate to post all the time. Two reasons for that. I genuinely care about all the ladies on here and never ever want to be a source of any pain and then on the other side I don't want to step onany toes and get yelled at and sshamed which I have seen happen. I'm not posting every day but I don't think k that makes me a non regular. I have been here for over 5 years just like some of the other ladies.

You have also managed to still participate and not be a complete asshole, so I appreciate you.  And you work to keep GPM going, which is great.

lb1117

Hi ladies! I lurk and want nothing but the best for you all of you!

wiggyslilsis

I don't think it is about being scared of conflict or disagreeing. It is about getting a negative response every time you post to a point where you stop posting as much and then you get crap for not caring and not posting.

BruinsBabe33

If you abandoned the board that's your own problem. If you don't like the regs here and don't respect their feeling that's your own problem, too. Why should there be a check in full of people who didn't care enough about the relationships they made here to stick around and support them. If people want to ask me about MT, they can page me, private message me, or whatever else. I don't need to discuss anything about him on here because it's not the place.

seahorse01

MRads said:

Am I crazy or isn't the 3t check in specifically for 3t grads as well? Also, how would having a thread for grads, filled with grads, make moms feel more welcomed on this board? This is madness. If you want to feel included, just post. If you want to feel included when you post about your baby, go to GPM.

What a rational post.  We should all read this.

iwalktheline

I'm still here! I don't know if I'm truly a lurker though, as I still try to post when I have something to add

CeciliaM21

If people cared enough they would have stayed to support those that supported them during their struggle. How hard is it to write a FX, GL, thinking of you? You are already lurking! 

JMO