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Well my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and luckily we both have voracious sex appetites. But to be honest, life gets in the way and there is alot of distractions being full time students and working but we are still undeniably attracted to each other.
He's more the fun one where we'll pick positions out of a hat or he jumps out of the bathroom covered in bubbles and dancing around in a batman cape! I definitely take a break from studying on nights when he's getting home late and really invest in taking a shower, picking an "outfit" out and preparing dinner. When he comes home, he smells something really nice and then he walks down the hallway and half my a@# is sticking out.
I have a hot boyfriend so it turns me on to do these fun things. Sometimes when he's folding our laundry, just looking at his manly arms put away clothes is erotic and I grab him from behind and J*&@ him off. Well, he's the kinda man that you can never imagine doing the cooking or folding the laundry so its such a turn on.
Porn is off limits in our household to avoid any unwanted distraction while we're in our intimate space so sometimes my boyfriend and I would be studying and he'd come out from his office into the living room and if he kisses me long enough, i'll pull my thongs out from my jeans, pull the zipper a little and bend over, arch my back and deep as it can go, slowly pull my panties skinny ... things like that and he will get off on his own. He would engage in that more than I would but sometimes if I can't sleep and he's been asleep for a while and I've waken him up too many times in the week for my needs, I grab his d%$& and imagine it going slowly in while getting harder and harder at the same time and totally get off to that.
Advice : it really beats watching porn because we totally get off on each other and if we're not having such a good time during sex, we definitely think about something hot we did recently.
Reason : unfortunately, our sex lives can get a little monotonous regardless of how much you love your lover and watching porn as a way to spice things up can uninvitingly leak the images of someone else having sex and trust me, after a while, no matter how long it takes, you can begin to loose the pizaz! for your partner and ppl all over the place ( in the train, at work, a very attentive hot friend ) can start turning you on. [happened in all my pervious relationships. aint gonna try it for this one]
One signature thing about myself is that i love the scents of my boyfriend so im always smelling him, like pulling in whiffs at a time. I love the way his face, armpits and d*@$ smells. He especially loves when I have the urge and my nose reaches down there.
It'll having him going mad for a while but its not about him in that moment, its about me having my pleasure. So often enough, he'll get frustrated after trying to be a loving, patient boyfriend and really take advantage of me. Its exploding!!
My boyfriend is more sensitive than I am about somethings, particularly things that might be going wrong in the relationship as a whole, and when we get into big brawls ... not often but we do. Even though im not really turned on after a big argument, its inevitable that my bf and I are going to have one of the most intense rocky then calm then rocky sex sessions that, if I dont take control and eventually sit him up, get on top of him, stick my b**bs in his face and ride him like a mechanical bull .... it would last forever!
I'm happy to say that my bf is a kind, loving and caring person ... most importantly to people in general. He's not the trusting kind but he loves to help people as much as I do and that's important but his creativity in the bedroom is way more advanced than my own and i would need a book to begin some of the adventures we go on in our little tiny apartment.
We LAUGH. A lot.
A philosophy that has grown out of our 2.5 year marriage, and the many years of loving each other before then, is that an opportunity to make a joke should not be passed up. For example, last week at work he sent me a 5 second video of a Corgi jumping into a lake -- prompted by nothing except he knew that I would find this chubby puppy adorable and funny. If he sends me an e-mail saying he'll go to the grocery store after work if I send him a list, I send him a list, in the form of a poem. If he picks me up from work, he'll inch the car forward just as I reach for the door handle -- this is a classic.
And we don't keep things strictly serious in the bedroom either. He told me once, "If boobs were oil, you would be the Middle East, and people would start wars over you." Also, "If you were wrapped in bacon, you would be the only thing not improved by being wrapped in bacon." That's our bedroom talk. I love it.
We're both very busy (I'm finishing my Ph.D, he's working 60+ hour weeks), often exhausted, and we don't have a lot of extra cash, Still, little things like making jokes, being playful, and looking for ways to make ordinary things fun keeps us eager to give and take care of each other.
We talk about sex often. New things we want to try, positions that we have loved in the past and public locations that where we'd like to get it on.
Talking can be a great form of foreplay that often gets overlooked. It is particularly hot to talk about it in places that we can't necessarily act on it right away, like at work or driving down the highway--the buildup of anticipation is half the fun!
Dating is how we make sex a priority. It is hard not to feel sexy when I've taken the time to pick out sexy underwear to wear under a sexy outfit with my hair and makeup done and a pair of sexy black heels! We strive to go on a date once a week and we plan ahead for it so that we can look forward to it.
Sex sometimes can become blas? when you schedule it, expect it, and just don?t change it. We always surprise each other by trying new positions but staying confident while ?trying? things. Sometimes when you doubt yourself or your partner it makes you feel like a weird-o. Suggest things in a confident and excited manor to help your spouse get ?on board?. Get into physical situations like a sexy game of chase or a tickle war! My husband occasionally brings home toys, some in which we can use secretly while we are out with friends. We are stimulating each other but no one is the wiser so by the time we get home we are more than ready to rip eachother's clothes off! You also have to be aware that it is not ALL about sex. If I feel like my husband is expecting it I don?t feel really loved I feel more like an object. I like him to put effort into the night and not want anything other than my happiness. In a situation like that then I will initiate sex (after being sure that he is not going too.) and we will both be pleased! Don?t always wait for him to initiate! That can make him feel like he is not sexy or like you don?t need him. Men can be sensitive to how you view them as well!
We'll be cuddling on the couch just talking or watching TV, and then I'll either tickle or poke him. Once that starts we've move our fun little wrestling match to the bedroom. As we restrain each other trying to be on top, it goes from a fun little match, to a hot love session rather quickly. Now a week goes by that we don't get busy. Making love and lazy sex can be great, but every once in awhile you have to have those rougher, hotter sex nights to keep the thrill going!
I find that having sex in different places at or anywhere else keeps sex interesting; having a routine doesn't necessarily work for us. If today I seduce him in the room then tomorrow it might just be by the front door as he comes home from work. Also not keeping in routine with who seduces who is also important, neither one of you want to be considered as "Boring". Keeping sexy is very important. Also you flirting with text as people who just met also works to keep the relationship and sex very hot.
From Him: We're both very busy. She's finishing a double major in pre-veterinary medicine and French, working with a large animal surgeon twice a week an hour out of town and keeping a part time job in town. I work full time, study ceramics, and am looking for another job. Between taking care of our doggies and cleaning up my grandparents house for sale we set goals and rewards. The rewards are enticing and spicy enough to keep us moving and motivated. The bigger/harder the job we get done the "bigger/harder" the reward is. I'm going back to school just so I can get the "Straight A" rewards that I've been giving her
From Her:...This totally made the semester when I took Biochemistry, Organic Chemistry and some pretty hard French classes the best semester! I got good grades AND some good sexin'!
We are newlyweds
We had a hard time keeping sex going throughout our first year of marriage! The honeymoon was a dream, but once we got back to real life, things got hard! We are both in full time education, and I also work full time! Our schedules are also terrible, he goes to school during the day, and I work nights! Working nights has really put a damper on our relationship! The other problem we ran into, we fell back into our abstinence rut! We abstained for three years before getting married! So going from NOTHING to wanting EVERYTHING was an awesome change .. but once school and work take over our schedules, that rut comes right back because it really is more 'normal' for us to NOT have sex. That, was terrible! That was not the marriage that I wanted or the sex life I wanted!
So we made a plan
And a pact. Our promise to each other is to initiate sex. What makes it fun is that we take turns! It keeps the sex life lively 
I don't like the pressure of it being "my turn" so I tend to hurry up and initiate! LOL, this can truly lead to a sexathon!
I cannot even express how much happier we are together, closer to each other we are, and being able to thoroughly enjoy sex together has made our marriage perfect!
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To keep things sizzling in the bedroom we try to keep the pressure off. We keep things simple like sharing a few glasses of wine, listening to our favorite music, watching game shows, and just talking and laughing. The bonding that we share during these moments to leads to the sizzling moments between the sheets.
I think the most important things about keeping your relationship SEXY is just having some fun with your partner. Don't be afraid to take risks and spice it up. Even if you just end up laughing about it later. Like lotion that you buy that warms an area up way to much! Haha.
Sex can be Fun, Romantic, Raw, Intense, Orgasmic! So just go with it.
One of my favortie things to do is to suprise him. Like when he thinks you are just in the bedroom watching tv - yet you are naked and waiting for him. Call him in there are give him a little surpirse. I promise he will be game!!
Together we built the ultimate Love Shack in our house that we call The Boom Boom Room. Having the room in our home keep our love life sizzling! It is so seductive that taking a peak inside sends excitement through our bodies. The lighting in the room is a sensual glow of Lovers Red. The bed is heated and covered in a faux fur tiger print throw. The room smells of sandalwood and vanilla, which sometimes escapes from the room and triggers our sexual appetite. We have a trunk in the room that is full of oils and toys. Hanging in the center of The Boon Boom Room is our sex swing. We have a ritual of washing each others day away by candle light in the tub. Then one of us will have already set the room up and entice the other into it.
These our my tips to any couple who wants the ultimate sex life. Create a space in your home that entices all of your sexual senses. Create memories in this space that just the slightest thought of keeps you coming back for more. Create rituals such as bathing together to quench your daily sexual appetite. I guarantee sex will be at the top of you and your lovers priority list when you build on your sexual pleasure by involving all of your senses.