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My husband and I believe that sex is important for keeping intimacy and love in a marriage. Until we had our first baby we found it to be pretty easy to have lots of sex, but after our daughter arrived we were less spontaneous with our sex life. So we have done a couple things to keep our sex lives and our marriage strong. First we have a date night each week where grandma has the baby at her house and we can go out or just have the house to ourselves, which allows us to plan for a fun and romantic evening. We also try to find a day (or more) each week were we can meet at home for a lunch time quickie. We have found that making time for sex keeps our relationship fresh and our sex drives active, which leads to a lot more spontaneous sex the rest of the week.
MrsMO
My husband and I have been married for three and a half years, together for a little over eight, and I have recently come to realize the importance of sex. Honestly, it is not even the sex itself but the intimacy. We have even found that we start to fight more if we go for some time without it.
I keep things sizzling in the bedroom by taking the time to pamper myself. Our lives are so busy but when I take the time to do something for myself, like get a pedicure or read a book, it refreshes me and makes me want to do something for him
Since having our daughter, I make an effort to keep a great sex life between DH and I. I know he loves massages (especially since he does physical work daily) and he is usually in the mood once he is relaxed. :-)
Plus, we are always complimenting each other. Even though that doesnt actually put me in the mood, it makes me feel wanted and sexy.
wammy1120:
I work a very demanding job, physically and mentally. I also work night shifts and he works a normal day job which makes it difficult for us to spend much quality time together. After 5 1/2 years together he is so great at sending me the perfect little love notes/texts that make me feel beautiful, sexy, and wonderful! By the time we have days off together I can't wait to just be with him. The time apart keeps us constantly wanting each other and keeps things from getting routine or boring. We're also always silly and fun with each other and keep each other laughing!
Our trick isn't even something we do usually! My husband is with the military and so he is gone 2-3 days every month ( he was gone 3 days in feb, will be gone a week in march, will be gone all of april, and just got back from afghanistan at the end of Nov)
It is hard to not want sex with my husband gone so much!
However, when he is home, to spice up sex for him, I put on lingerie and surprise him with it, and to spice it up for me we get out some toys! We are always in the mood.
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(ii) Since we found out we were pregnant with twins and already have a toddler running around, finding sexy time has been difficult to say the least. In order to keep things interesting, we try different positions (which we really had no choice about since my belly was growing so fast) and different locations- the shower has been the most fun in my opinion.
We like to keep things new, like those first times so long ago when we could hardly keep our clothes on, stay up all night, and wake up with swollen lips in the morning. For our anniversary I got him the book 1001 Sexcapades to do if you Dare by Bobbi Dempsey, which has been a life saver. If we are not feeling in the mood, or if sex is just mediocre, we turn to the book. Our favorite thing is to have one person open the pages at random, select one of the dares, and start doing it on the other without telling them what they will be doing. This has lead us to blindfolding, gently tying each other up, playful spanking, all stuff that my conservative man would not normally think of doing but I've always been curious to try. Just make sure you really understand each other's limits and do not try something which would make the other too uncomfortable. Overall this keeps things very interesting which leaves us wanting more and breaks through the wall of ho-hum sex.
username: stephaniefoxwell
Communication is key. Communication, hookers and beer.
If that doesnt work then I ignite the spark with a good old fashioned steak and a bj.
Sometimes you have to think like Nike and "Just Do It".
I replace sweatpants and sneakers with a little number made of whipped cream.
(pics in bio) Lol.
1. massages
2. "real" dates
Trying new things is always good...
A can of whip cream and chocolate syrup can do wonders in the bedroom!
username: gabbyabby87
About twice a month we set aside some time to go out and buy something new. Sometimes I will order something in secret to surprise him with, and other times we will go browsing the local "toy" store and pick out something fun together. Sometimes I will get a new sexy outfit or new lubes/toys or the latest K.Y gimmick. Then we set up a "date night" later that week. The anticipation leading up for that night always heightens the mood and gets us really excited to try new things!! The wait definitely builds up a lot of tension and those butterfly "first-time" feelings. On the big night, we start the night with some wine and a hot, not-so-long bubble bath.
Then we let the built-up excitement lead the rest of the night. 
We go to the drive in movies. There's something about laying in the back of a truck with a bottle of wine that puts us in the mood instantly. We lovingly call sex in the car a "quickie el parko"... and giggle like teenagers every time we talk about it. After years of fertility issues and a new baby... we do what we can to keep the spark alive.
On a less sexual note though (and for marriage in general) someone once told me "In a marriage, each person needs to put the other one first, 100% of the time, or its never going to work".. its good advice in and out of the bedroom!
Sexy love songs, with candles lit- yoga time together, as a couple staying fit.
Naked and practicing our favorite poses- coming home to a surprise dozen roses.
Lacy lingerie, or wearing nothing but an apron- before long we've got more than just food bakin'!
Stolen glances which speak more loudly than our words- sneaking lingering kisses while watching movies among the herds.
Simply holding hands and finger tracing "I love you"- can be a surprisingly hot thing to do.
Deep muscle massages with flavored oil- before long causing our blood to boil!
Overall what keeps us close in both body and soul- is making sure we tell one another of our love, everyday, to avoid things becoming dull!!
By Babyduejune
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I find that quickest way to spice things up is to place an ad on Craig's List for a third. Sometimes he picks, sometimes I pick - we alternate to keep things fair!